Threesome as a wedding present?!

I definitely think this needs to be a decision made by the both of you. Not a surprise. Bring up the topic after the wedding and see where he stands. Maybe go out on date nights and fantasize together about who in the crowd you'd like to join you. Consider your likes and dislikes from this task. Over time, you'll see you share an idea of what kind of partner you want to bring into your bedroom. Then make sure to vet the person you choose before anything happens so everyone stays safe.

This is a super person decision between you and you FH. Tbh I wouldn't just ask a complete stranger either, I think it would be important to know who you are about to have sexual activity with. Discuss this with him and talk about boundaries and expectations and don't surprise him either.

I'm having trouble understanding why you would want to do this on your honeymoon. And it's not because I'm judgy (I have actually been the third with a married couple, they were very good friends of mine, and we all talked about it a lot before it happened), it's because I cannot imagine wanting to share my brand new husband with a stranger DAYS after marrying him.

Here's the thing with bringing others into your relationship: it requires extreme honesty and really really really should not be done on the spur of the moment (and not with a stranger). Worrying that you'll never be enough if you do this should be an indication that you are definitely not ready to explore this yet. You need to be 100% confident and secure in your relationship first.

Nothing against threesomes but it should never be a complete surprise. You both need a say in who the third will be.

A HARD no for me and H would not even entertain the idea either.

If you do think you want to do this, I wouldn't do it on your honeymoon!!

If you want to have one, do...just not on your honeymoon. That's about the two of you...it seems odd to bring someone else into that intimate time right after the wedding. But afterwards, feel free if you both want to!

This sounds like the worst idea ever for all the reasons others have said. If you were nothing but enthusiastic, I would say do it if you want but you don't sound like that's the case.

I've always said if it's not illegal or lethal, it's all fair in the bed room. This may be something you want to discuss with your FS because I'd want to be certain he still wants that type of experience.

Good luck, be safe, and get consent!!

Agree with pps. This doesn't sound like a good idea for the honeymoon, especially if you're insecure about it and only doing it for him. Talk to him about it and wait until you're ready.

I agree with P&S #D&B, I DON'T & WON'T share my man! My dick & my dick only!

I'm just wondering how you would pull off this surprise. Would you just ask some stranger to join you and then show up with her in the room then tell your man why shes there? You're insecure about it but not too insecure to approach a stranger to join you?

I think this is a very personal choice not only to the couple but to an individual. You said you have some insecurities with this, this is a red flag for no don't do this. If you want to do this you have to be secure with yourself and in your relationship. I would take the time to work through those insecurities first and foremost if it's something you 100% want to pursue.

I would want to focus my honeymoon on just my husband and I and build and create memories of just us together. Also getting a random stranger to have a threesome with you is rare and you also have to think of the sexual health of all parties involved. If you choose a random person you may not know their sexual history or any diseases they may carry. Condoms can't prevent everything.

If you do purse this in the future you have to talk with your FH before hand and set clear boundaries of what you both are comfortable and not comfortable with. I know a couple who occasionally does this but they have a very strong marriage established, have clear boundaries and expectations, and are comfortable and know their third person(s) to an extent. The main thing when doing this is 100% trust in your partner and communication.

@AshleyC I totally agree

Ashley, 100%agree. No one is getting my man, I don’t share. Fuck that.

It’s an absolutely personal decision. My ex begged for one, due to major insecurities i refused. This caused even more issues.. He gave me an ultimatum once, it didn’t go well. I ended the relationship.

Don’t spring this on your FH, and I wouldn’t do it on my honeymoon. This takes extreme confidence, and trust. Major communication and clear boundaries will need to be made.

Lol this is a terrible idea.. especially on your honeymoon

I wouldnt do it but Im also not into that, I would end up killing them both. But if your into that do you, just dont do it on your honeymoon thats a time for the 2 of you!

Hard no for me. I will not share.

Rather than adding a new person right off the bat especially when you're not comfortable with it, maybe do role play? Y'all can pretend to be different people to give you that excitement of banging someone else.

You don't want to escalate your love life so quickly because where do you go after that? Orgies and swinging? But then what?

Slow your roll. Find ways to have fun now then add things a little at a time when you need to. If down the line you add other people then fine but at least you had time together, first.

I couldn't do it. I think you and FH need to really talk this over (like a lot) and you need to do some soul searching to figure out if you can handle it. There is no going back once it's done! Doing it on the HM is a baaaaaad idea. What if you can't handle it? Then your HM is ruined and your marriage is off to a rough start. And I wouldn't surprise him with it, that is something you two need to plan together, he may be into it, but he still needs a few minutes to wrap his head around it first!

@ahilly Judgey much? She's asking advice, no need to come down on her. She's asking about throwing in "something special" on her honeymoon. This would be a forum to ask that.

Yes, she needs to do some contemplation on her own part about if she's doing it for her husband or if she genuinely wants it. No need to judge her sex life.