Three months before wedding, haven't signed venue contract, owner really busy...how much longer should I wait?

You really don't have time! I would be freaking out right now. Most of the other vendors are dependent on knowing where the reception will be. It's definitely not early; it's extremely late! Stop by to see her in person. If she makes excuses for not having a contract, go elsewhere immediately.

Edited: FH and I are getting married the same day. We've had our venue booked since December 2013. I know we booked that early, but then we waited until the year mark (this past February for florist) to book all of the other vendors in order to ensure that we got the vendors we wanted.

Um. Not early at all. I have had my venue booked since Oct. 2014. 3 months isn't alot of time. I would go up there or switch venues.

I've book the photog and the officiant. All I need left is the classical guitarist.

Doesn't seem early at all? This is super really really last minute.

I mean..people have their venues picked up over a year at a time. Yours is 3 months away. Your wedding date is not set until you have a contract signed and a deposit is paid. You need to get a hold of them, walk in, etc. For all you know, that date has already been booked.

Why didn't you have a venue booked already if your 3 months out?

You don't have a venue and you're getting married in 3 months?

Good luck with that.

I thought I did. The woman said it is mine. But she needs to send me the contract.

If the owner is that flaky about all of this, I'd be very concerned with having my event there...but being this close to your date, you may not have any other options. I signed my venue contract 1 year and 1 week before my wedding date...you're most certainly NOT too early.

"I've book the photog and the officiant. All I need left is the classical guitarist."

How about DJ, caterer, rentals, invitations, etc etc etc?

No dancing, the place does their own food, it's a teahouse.

and yes invitations, you're right.

It's definitely not too early to sign a contract. My venue was booked in April so thats 18 months before my wedding. If you love the venue go over there and get a contract or start looking for a new venue. I would be really unsettled if I didn't have a signed contract 3 months before the wedding.

You need to pick up the phone and call her ASAP. It does not matter if she said it's yours or not if you do not have a signed contract. I signed mine over a year ago. I paid the deposit and signed the official contract two days later.

Do it now. If you can't get this owner on the phone, start looking; October is PRIME TIME.

We booked our venue in December of 2013 because October is such a popular time. You need to either sign the contract or find a new place asap, you should be sending out your invitations in the next few weeks and you need a venue in place to do that. Best of luck!

She needs to get back to you now, or you need to go with somewhere else. End of story.

I had an issue getting in touch with the woman who coordinates events at our venue (nontraditional venue-- we're getting married on our old college campus), and while she was sweet, I kept hearing how she was so busy starting up the semester, then wrapping up the semester, then getting camps off the ground, etc. I kept hearing "I'll have your contract by the end of the month," and when the end of the month came and I didn't get anything, I'd hear "Sorry, I've been busy-- end of next month definitely." After this went on for a few months, I copied her supervisor, asked if there was someone else who could help since the coordinator was maxed out (I truly believe she was), and threw in a little "as an alumni, I would hope that I'm receiving the same attention as other people holding events." I also mentioned that I was too late to book anywhere else and would lose thousands of dollars in vendor deposits if the event wasn't feasible financially (I was waiting on some room rental fees). Her supervisor emailed me back right away and has been in constant contact with us.

If nothing else, you need to order invitations, like, yesterday, and you need a location to put on the invites.

I'd seriously look at other venues. If you can't find-- and book-- any in the next week or so, I'd give her another call/email, and then go in person and pull out the tears in front of customers.

Do it NOW. We booked our venue June 2014. I would do it right away or find another option.

I would go elsewhere seeing how unresponsive they are thats worrisome

And yes, I agree with posters who say that she should look elsewhere because she might be tough to work with, period. But, with a prime month and a date 3 months out, there might not be anything else...

I guess we have my fiance's dad's backyard lol. That's where his brother is getting married. And they planned their wedding in like two months (It's in August) and they've only known each other for six.

Call...call again...show up at the venue and ask for her...whatever it takes. This needs to be your #1 priority if you're only 3 months out.