Three months before wedding, haven't signed venue contract, owner really busy...how much longer should I wait?

Hope they have spots left. Half October is booked at my venue for next year, and they have no dates left this year.

Good luck.

If you get married in a backyard, you're going to want a tent. Tent rentals book up pretty quickly as well. I was the last one for my date with my rental company.

I booked my venue two years in advance. Hound her until you get an answer!

Also invites need to go out ASAP.

I'm A plan by the seat of your pants person, and this would scare me to death. So if this woman is this flaky, maybe you should just look to the backyard idea. Might even work out better!

I'm stressed out for you right now. Either call her, show up at the venue or find another venue fast. I booked my October wedding in March, and got the last weekend left at my venue. That month tends to be popular.

Can I ask when you started planning your wedding? You're cutting it really close by looking for a venue this close to your wedding. Hope things work out for you.

Um... what?? If you don't have a venue, you don't have a date, period. At this point, you should be sending invitations soon and ALL your other vendors will most likely be booked up. You need to get on the phone with her, because right now you are not having a wedding.

I don't want to freak you out, but this is making me nervous. I agree with the other brides, this can be serious. If you do have a backyard that you like for a venue, I would be concentrating on that myself. With changing my dress several times I didn't finish sewing it completely until 3 days before the wedding. But I had my venue booked 13 months before the wedding. Please act and act fast, no one wants to see you with no venue.

NOTHING is set in stone until a contract is signed & deposit is paid. They could still essentially book someone else on that date and then you would be out of luck.

CALL and ask for a contact ASAP.

I have been agreeing with @Rosemary today! I think that unless you have a signed contract you really do not have a venue. There is nothing stopping her from booking that day with another couple or family (for a party or what not).

What Morgan said..... are you sure this woman didn't book the venue for another party already? Please keep us updated, I'm going to be having dreams about this one! Please find something fast! :\

I am not being blase. I am freaking the hell out. Nobody is helping me out with this. My fiance is sitting on his ass, I am responsible for everything and hounding this woman, my mom says its not a big deal b/c it's only 30 people, etc. I called her and she is not there but will be there tomorrow. If she doesn't talk to me tomorrow i guess i am going the backyard route.

I would consider even going to the venue to talk to her if it's nearby. Good luck, and I hope everything goes well for you!

I know I'm posting a lot, but I was thinking about this again and if you're only having about 30 people, then maybe this was all meant to be in the backyard. I know people have said you'll need things like extra bathroom facilities things like that, and maybe so. But in my family 30 people was a Thanksgiving dinner. So maybe this could all be pulled off well in the backyard. So that's just me trying to be encouraging and if you're anything like me the idea of a backyard wedding at home sounds very very nice. Is the living room big enough to have the wedding in if there's rain? I'd like to see some pictures of this backyard. Hang in there I bet it will all work out!

I would be up her ass if I were you. We had our venue contract signed 15 months before the wedding date.

ETA: I like what @StitchingBride said

I am stressed out for you. Go to the venue and talk to her. If she isnt there or does not contact you that day, it's time to find another venue...... now.

I can understand why most people read this post and panic, but she can do this. Last year at this time I planned my entire wedding in just under three months...also an October wedding. It was fine. I didn't have any trouble finding fantastic vendors, venue, etc. Not to mention the million DIY projects I completed in that time. It's possible. If she is having it at teahouse, obviously it is most likely a smaller affair. I think sometimes people can make wedding planning more complicated than it needs to be. @OP- I do think you need to stop in and have a face to face in order to get a contract. Otherwise, stay focused on the tasks you have left and you'll be fine.

Eek, I booked my October 2016 wedding last month and they had already booked a few other weekends that fall. Definitely get a contract asap! I agree with PP, if you can go in person, I would do that immediately. Get FH to help too!

I would go there and talk to her in person. I'm having the same issue expect she already put us on the calendar and we have been missing each other due to schedule (me and FH work different schedules) and she's out of town! So when she gets back next week, I'm def stopping by. I'm a month after you but I'm sure that you can work it all out. Good luck!

I would seriously be freaking out. Definitely get on top of this ASAP!