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Ned. G (The one in Wales)
Expert October 2013

The night before: together or apart?

Ned. G (The one in Wales), on April 9, 2013 at 2:37 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 58

FH just mentioned this to me. He doesn't want us to spend the night before the wedding apart. His reasoning is that for every major event/day of importance/occasion for him since we have been together is that I have shaved him. But after that he wants us to get ready separately. I'm more than a bit...

FH just mentioned this to me.

He doesn't want us to spend the night before the wedding apart. His reasoning is that for every major event/day of importance/occasion for him since we have been together is that I have shaved him. But after that he wants us to get ready separately.

I'm more than a bit superstitious even though I don't believe in luck I don't want to tempt fate either if that makes sense?

What did you all do/are planning to do?

58 Comments

  • Steph ☺
    VIP April 2013
    Steph ☺ ·
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    We're going to spend the night apart. only because his mom works for the hotel we're staying at the night of and they offered the room for getting ready too. So we had to pay for a second night so might as well stay there. LOL

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  • Michelle
    Super June 2013
    Michelle ·
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    Apart, We got the Penthouse at our hotel for Friday and Saturday night. Friday night my BMs will be staying in the room with me, which means I probably wont sleep much!

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  • KristnH
    Master November 2013
    KristnH ·
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    We're spending it apart - I'll be with the girls and he'll be with the guys. Mostly out of tradition, not because of any silly superstition.

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  • Michelle
    Master August 2013
    Michelle ·
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    We are not spending the night before together. While we don't believe in superstitions, FH is very traditional and this is one of the few requests he has in the wedding - so I'm going with it. I honestly think we would sleep better if we were together, but I plan on asking my bridesmaids to have a "slumber party" in the bridal suite the night before so I can get some sleep.

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  • P
    Expert June 2013
    Private User ·
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    We are planning to be apart the night before, he's staying at the hotel and I'll be at home.

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  • sarah r
    Super June 2013
    sarah r ·
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    I am spending the night before snuggling with my MOH. We figured it would be more fun this way!

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  • Michelle P
    Super September 2013
    Michelle P ·
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    For tradition's sake, we are spending the night apart and won't see each other until I'm walking down the isle.

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  • Future Mrs. M
    Expert November 2013
    Future Mrs. M ·
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    FH and I have lived together for three years. We talked about it and just felt that waking up next to each other the morning of would be just like every other day, and we wanted to make this day extra special. He actually wants his first sight of me to be as I'm walking down the isle, so I'm also doing the bridesmaid sleepover suite the night before... spending my last "single" night with my best girlfriends. Really it just boils down to is it important to you or not? If not, don't worry about it Smiley smile

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  • Mrs. Butler
    VIP August 2013
    Mrs. Butler ·
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    We are spending the night before apart. He will be at our house with his BM and maybe another GM. I will be staying at my sister's house (one of my BM) with another one of my BMs.

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  • MistysoontobeBell
    Master October 2013
    MistysoontobeBell ·
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    We will stay apart. He will be going to his best man's house and my girls will be coming to mine.

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  • Mrs. J
    Expert November 2013
    Mrs. J ·
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    Oooh i was wondering this myself! We also have a bridal suite and I dont worry too much about tempting fate. But it might be fun to say goodnight and him not see me until the next day when i walk down the isle... hmmmm

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  • SW517
    Super May 2014
    SW517 ·
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    We're staying together. I will be a crazy mess and will need him to be there so I can sleep. This will also help in monitoring his buddies not giving him to much beer the night before! :-) We'll part ways early that next morning, so that I can get ready with the girls.

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  • Melodie
    VIP August 2022
    Melodie ·
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    Apart Smiley sad

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  • Laura
    Devoted July 2013
    Laura ·
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    We will stay apart. Not for superstitions, but since we live together, I don't want it to feel like any other day. It's our WEDDING day. I don't want to just get up and be like "muah, see you soon!" and have soon be in a couple hours after we've dressed and gotten ready. I am excited to spend the night with my girls, watching Bridesmaids and other wedding movies, drinking wine and putting together our bouquets. It's just one aspect that I'm really looking forward to, but it makes me excited just thinking about it Smiley smile

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  • J
    Super August 2013
    Jesyka ·
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    We'll be apart. The girls are staying with me at the house so we can do some girly pampering the night before, and go right to our appointment at the salon the next day. FH is staying at his moms over night and getting ready with the guys there.

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  • Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.)
    Master August 2012
    Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.) ·
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    He stayed in the "honeymoon" suite at the hotel the night before and I stayed at my parents' house. We parted at the rehearsal dinner the night before and didn't see each other again until I walked down the aisle. We liked the tradition of not seeing each other.

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  • Chiffon
    Expert July 2013
    Chiffon ·
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    The girls and I are staying in a hotel, FH is staying at home.

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  • Esposa
    Super July 2012
    Esposa ·
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    We parted at the rehearsal dinner and slept apart (me in bridal suite, him at home) the night before the wedding.

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