Please tell me if I'm overthinking this. I know it's too early to finalize the wedding party but FH and I have pretty much known who we want in every role since before we were engaged.
We decided that around Christmas, we will ask his 3year old cousin to be our flower girl. The issue is, she has two older siblings one of which has begged us to be a jr bridesmaid. I have made it clear we aren't having jr bridesmaids and only want 1 FG, but this is still a topic she brings up every time we see her. To make it worse when she asks, FH tells her "maybe" and/or that she should ask me. (He feels bad for telling her no)
Would it be rude to go ahead and ask her sister to be our FG? Or should we go a different direction? I feel like this would put their parents in a tough spot. Having to explain that we don't want her, but we want her sister.
This seems so minor but I've been stressing for months over this. I don't want any animosity with my new family. Any parents dealt with this before?