The Five Love Languages

But anyways. Once that stage is over, is when most people start having real problems with their relationship with each other. For example. My love language is physical touch. That means I need kisses, touching, hand holding, and sex to make me feel loved. (And for a couple who doesnt have sex that makes it difficult lol) But if my fiance's love language was Gift Giving, then he wouldn't know how to tell me he loves me in my love language. He'd buy me stuff all the time and wonder why I didn't feel loved. I hate getting gifts... But His love language is also physical touch, so the only problem we have with that is not to show each other our love TOO much. But anyway... This book has helped many couples get a good backbone before they ever start fighting... And saved many marriages after that obsession phase. I strongly recomment this book. Whether your engaged, married, or trying to figure out how to get him to propose, this book it for you.

That sounds like a very interesting book! I may have to get that..thanks for sharing it with us!

I've read that book too! Both FH's and I's love language is physical touch so we are a touchy feely couple. lol

Devine Gary Chapman is my favorite Christian author and I have recommended this book to dozens of people lol. We stayed in the inlove stage for so long it was a bit scarey when it "ended". My primary languages are quality time and physical touch. FH's primary languages are words of affirmation and physical touch. i don't really include sex in the physical touch category b/c there's so many other ways to show affection and i think sex is in a category by itself. FH and i are also abstaining. but there's so much intimacy in simply holding hands or just sitting close to each other. I love this book and I think it would help people in all relationships whether they are having problems or not. Great read!

We got this book as a wedding gift. It is really good and helped us a bit more after the pre-marrital counseling was over. Together (the counseling book) they were an amazing tool with our communication. We love it and recommend it even if you are already married. It's a great book. My love language is "acts of love." I love it when my hubby does the dishes or makes dinner etc. (without being asked) so that I dont feel like I'm doing EVERYTHING...

Haha! i didnt realise the book was this popular! im glad its helping alot of people! and mandmglass... two people having physical touch as a love language makes things very interesting huh? lol

For those who don't know, the 5 languages are:

Words of Affirmation

Quality Time

Gifts

Acts of Service

Physical Touch

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It's pretty easy to tell what your spouse's primary language is by what they complain about. If they say you never spend time with them then Quality Time is their language. If they say you never help around the house then Acts of Service is their language and so on. It could also be that they try to speak their language to you. If they give you lots of gifts that's likely their primary language. It's all very interesting. My FH and our pastor both use the book in counseling so I knew all the languages without ever reading the book. I knew my language and I knew his. But reading the book provides a much deeper level of understanding. I could go on and on. It's easily my favorite book lol.

Lol devine yes it is...that's why we have bounderies and my second language is quality time and his second is words of affirmation so we focus more on those

@ mandmglass we are exactly the same. mine are quality time and physical touch. his are words of affirmation and physical touch.

Awesome ladylee! you know what they say...great minds think alike!

We have this book and SWEAR by it! It's great!

This is a great thread! I've been meaning to pick up that book too. Another book FH and I have started to read together is "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" by John Gottman. Has anyone else read Gottman's book?

My FH and I are reading that book. When we went to counsiling we were told to read it before marriage! I don't think that he is understanding my love languages, but I am much better at feeding his, haha! He will learn... but we really are enjoying the book!

I swear by this book FI and i read it when we first started to get serious! My friend and her husband were having a moment and I gave them this book and they swear it helped save their marriage!

I love this book! It really does help a relationship SOOO much! And I just recommended it to a friend and she is saying it works for her as well. Looks like he's really on to something here!