That awkward moment when a friend asks if she's a bridesmaid...

The only person that assumed was my sister and she was always going to be my MOH. It must be genetic because her 6 year old asked me when I planned to ask her to be my flower girl because she's ready. That was too cute but I don't know how I would have dealt with an adult doing that.

Tamashika...the sad thing is I haven't ever heard from her since August and she's supposed to be one of my best friends...smh. She posted on fb about how she was sending back her RSVP so she would be counted...not only has she not sent it back, I haven't heard a single word out of her which also happens to be a reason I didn't want her in it. Unreliable, and I didn't want to be paying for her plane ticket and dress and whatever else at the last minute...hell to the no, so I just dropped her

I had a friend say "well let me know as soon as you have a date so I can make sure to fit into my dress". It made for an awkward moment, but I kinda just tried to laugh her off and didn't really say anything.

I’m glad I’m not alone! I’m scared to tell everyone about the bridal party because I know there is going to be hurt feelings. I told my girls to keep it on the DL for now. And I still have the “bridal party” page hidden on my website even though I’ve written out a paragraph for each person in the wedding! Gah this is dumb. This is my day and all I’m worrying about is everyone else! I have a couple girlfriends who I know are going to be hurt but my relationship with them has been so inconsistent over the years it just didn’t feel right having them up there with me!

I think you handled it so appropriately. You held your ground and I admire you for that.

That’s great!

I'm surprised by the number of you that have had a similar experience! It's amazing how entitled some people feel, huh? I was really kind of surprised when it happened to me, but considering the nature of our friendship, I can see why she would have thought she would be one.

@Tiffany P - My sister assumed she was going to be my MOH, but that was a given. I would never have asked anyone else to fill that role.

@Masquerade Bride - Well, if you're close to one, I guess it isn't that bad. But still, kind of frustrating since you weren't planning to ask them originally.

One of the GM's wife and I were roommates for a year in college and friends in HS...I was a BM in their wedding, but some things have changed and she has become a really bitter and mean person and has nasty things to say about all of my other BM's...needless to say, I didn't ask her to be a part of the wedding. Our friendship has been a bit strained but, at the end of the day, it's FH and my day and I can't try to people please for everything!

@Lindsay - I know exactly what you mean about the inconsistent friendships. I have a few girlfriends like that as well, so I would never want to ask them to be up there with me in case they flaked. But you definitely do have to learn when you need to be firm and just say no, and if people's feelings get hurt, too bad. It's not your fault if they assumed something without any verification from you, you know?

I'm glad my friend isn't the crazy emotional type. She was just like, "Oh, no, it's cool, was just wondering." So I'm thankful for that because I really didn't have any intention of changing my mind.

@Future Mrs. Wagner - Wow, why is she saying nasty things about your BMs? Is she just jealous because you haven't asked her? She shouldn't expect you to have her as a BM just because you were one if your relationship has changed. And yes, you can't try to people please because that is a quick way to drive yourself crazy and you don't need that.

She's just kind of crazy and selfish and always has been, there were four of us who used to be super close and those other two are my BM's...I'm sure it's jealousy and she could be hurt...although, before she and the other two BM's ended their friendship, I didn't want her in the BP. I even had long discussions with my mom, FH, and the other BM's on whether or not I should feel obligated...at the end of the day...I don't!

She was a little rude to me the first time I saw her after FH asked her DH to be in the BP, but then I saw her recently and she was okay.

SUPER AWKWARD!!lol it happened to me too!She asked me and I told her that I didnt want her to stress out about the price of the dress etc. because I know she is struggling right now (which is true) and I would prefer her to go to the wedding and enjoy the day...