Thank You Cards - a thing of the past??

@Alisa, my mom has that very same rule! I am starting to think the same way about certain family members...

Amy you're such a guestzilla!!! lol.

Michelle I'm good! Morning sickness has been keeping me busy the last few weeks, along with some traipsing around with H for work and family stuff. We were in San Francisco last week and we're getting prepped to move back to Denver in the spring, so never a dull moment here!

How are you??? Holy cow your wedding is coming up soon!

/sorry for the threadjack/

@Alisa, I think that's very well said. It's this lack of graciousness, of thoughtfulness that really irks me. It can make a person come off as gift greedy, whether they mean to or not. That's why it's important to acknowledge and thank a gift at least in SOME way.

And I had no idea they were called send out cards. Ugh. I even warned someone against it, and still got one. Bleh.

P.S. @ Kris, PM me! I'd like to get your email so I can find you again if you aren't around after the wedding!

Etiquette is a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group.

Etiquette dictates thank you notes, RSVPs being returned, no uninvited guests (guest plus 3) or children at adult only receptions.

If we are not to condemn those who not send thank you notes, surely we will not condemn guests who don't RSVP and attend the wedding with uninvited guests and noisy children.

I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME! I was so angry my cousin didn't send a thank you note after I went to his fiances bridal shower (who I had never met), and it was an hour and a half away from my house! I feel like I was just invited so I would bring a gift, and not actually because she wanted me there to celebrate.

@Elizabeth, I think that is the thought process of a lot of people. The more folks you invite, the more gifts you get. It's a shame some people don't prioritize showing gratitude and appreciation.

Reenski, will do!

Amy OMG. I can't take it. I'm such a hormonal sap right now. If I heard "Hero" I would cry. I cried in the car last week when a Taylor Swift song came on the radio, b/c I started thinking how she seems like such a nice talented girl and if we have a daughter she will need good role models to admire, and then suddenly I was overcome and wanted to hug Taylor Swift. Pregnancy is so weird. lmao.

Reenski I can't seem to send you a PM, have we never PM'd before? I can't believe that! It seems like your account is private, can you PM me?

Thank you cards are a MUST! I think they are so important.

@Kris - wha? Mine should be public. Yours shows as private when I click on you. Well, add @live.com to my nickname and that's my email. No "the" LOL.

I hate when people dont do registries! I have to try and pick something out that I think they'll like, with the knowledge that it will probably just get exchanged and be a waste of time. I want to give the newlyweds something they actually want!

Also, I think in a civilizied society you take the time to thank someone for taking a whole day to celebrate YOU and spending their hard earned money on YOU. It's just polite!

**edited for spelling**

Oh, never mind, I'm a moron. I PM'd you!

Agree. People should send notes (and not take too much time to do it). I have not received notes from showers and weddings that occurred this summer...I have received notes from showers and weddings I went to this fall though, so I think those people are still anomalies.

I taught my children to send thank you cards for everything. I don't understand why people don't send thank you cards for gifts.

My daughter will send them because she was taught to send them or I will stand on her until she does. No really she always just sends them right away for gifts I have never had to say anything.

OMG this is a personal rant of mine. If you receive a gift then you should sent a thank you note. I went to a wedding and haven't gotten a thank you note yet for my gift which I didn't even have to buy since I went as someone's guest and she said she had the gift covered. I still got the bride something because I thought that was only appropriate. It takes a lot less to say thank you than it does for someone to give you a gift and its really annoying when people don't acknowledge or appreciate it.

The last of our thank you notes went out precisely one month after the wedding. But then again, I'm admittedly a dinosaur.

I think Thank You cards are so important. If someone has gone out of their way to pick out a gift they think we will enjoy (or even write us a check from their hard-earned money), you can bet they'll get a nice, hand-written thank you note. Admittedly, it can be tough to get them all done in a reasonable amount of time. I'm hoping to finish mine up by this Sunday, which will be seven weeks from the wedding. They'll go out a little later than I would have liked to send them, but I'm sure as heck sending them!!!

In all honesty, writing them is kindof fun; it allows me re-live the day.

I’ve noticed the same thing! I’ve been to a few different events over the last couple years (weddings, showers, etc.) and I’ve only received a Thank You card for a couple of the events. Personally, I find it extremely rude. I do plan to send them after our wedding. In fact I want to send them before I run into anyone so I don’t feel rude for not sending out a Thank You, I would be mortified. FH and I went to a wedding over summer and we haven’t received a thank you yet, but the bride posted on Facebook she apologized for not getting the thank you cards out soon enough because her and her husband were extremely busy with graduate school, but they would send them ASAP. That I understood, at least she felt bad and wanted to let everyone know she didn’t forget she’s just been busy. I think thank you cards are always the proper thing to do after receiving any type of gift. But that’s just my opinion.

Don't get me started on rudeness; no thank you notes, late RSVP's, being late for the wedding, talking on cell phones during the reception....it does go on, doesn't it?  I think it's gross, really.

Think about the last time you got a handwritten note in the actual mail; not a text, not an email.....didn't it make you feel really nice?

That's why I write them. I love to get them.