Sweetheart Table vs. Head Bridal Party Table

Big con of head table: separates bridal party from their SO who may not know anyone else at the wedding, possibly stranding them at a table with their SO's parents they just met for the first time the day before.

We're doing a sweetheart table because we want our bridal party to be able to sit with their families. It also allows us to have some semi-alone time, which I think will be at a premium.

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I thought you were supposed to sit the bridal party with their SO even if they are at a head table .... no?

We're doing what our caterer and rental company keep referring to as a "semi-sweetheart table"

We have a MOH and BM only, and we're sitting at the table with those two and their spouses (it works out to be my sis and BIL and FBIL/FSIL).

UO - sweetheart tables are weird to me- I have my whole life to be alone with FH, why would I need to be just with him while we celebrate with everyone?

I only like head tables when dates/spouses are invited to join too.

I think we're going to do a full party table because my BM will be my sister and my FSIL (who go to school together and are friends), and his groomsmen will be his two best friends (who are also best friends with each other, and with my sister and FSIL). Everyone gets along and would love to spend time together, so it's no big deal!

ETA: And no one in the wedding party has a S.O. to be considerate of.

@cara my sister didn't have the SO's sit with the bridal party at hers and that is the wedding Blinkus is referring too

I haven't seen anything but a sweetheart table in like forever. Usually the BP is at two rounds with their SO's in the front of the room.

I want to celebrate with those nearer and dearest so it's a no to the sweetheart table for me. I am having a king's table (I think that's what it's called?) where bridal party AND their SOs will sit with us. Including us, 14 people at the table. I will also be placing the table amongst the guest tables. I want to be a part of everything, not sitting off to the front/side with just FH. My coordinator says she can make it work.

Our venue does a sweetheart table/head table combo. My FH and I will sit at small round decorated table and our bridal party will sit at tables to the sides of us. So we are separated but still close to our bridal party.

@Linds G, your second comment is exactly why we're doing a head table. FH literally said "I have to sit next to you for the rest of my life... " haha

We did a sweetheart table because sitting the bridal party with their SOs would have been an insane amount of people and would have looked a little weird. I liked it just being us because it gave us some time to talk and enjoy being with each other. We ended up sitting the bridal party at different tables with friends (not in the bridal party) they knew.

We will have a head table with just our bridal party sans significant others. Not really into sweetheart tables and neither are our friends. This is what we are used to, and people in the BP are used to sitting at the head table away from a partner for dinner. Plus our friends want to eat first.

Oh wow I didn't know having a head table was still a thing! I haven't seen one at a wedding in years. I learn something new on this forum every day!

I love the idea of a sweetheart table and getting to spend a little bit of time together during the chaos of the wedding, so that's what we're doing

We're doing a kings table, which includes bridal party and their SOs.

We're doing a head table. I wanted a sweetheart table but one of FH's only requests was to do a head table. Apparently his family thinks sweetheart tables are cold and weird? I disagree.

We are doing a head table because I want to have fun! A sweetheart table would be nice for just us, but I want to have fun and laugh and joke with friends!! We asked everyone in our bridal party first if they would be ok being separated and they all said yes!

The con of a head table is that it's rude to separate your WP from their SO's.

We decided to sit at a round table in the center of our guest tables (so we are literally surrounded by everyone...) and we'll sit with his son 21 (his groomsman) and his girlfriend, his daughter 16 (my bridesmaid) and her plus one. This way our MOH and BM will be able to sit with their families/friends right near by. We're doing smaller rounds of 6-8 so this works out nicely. My florist actually gave me the idea and that she'll make a special distinctive (higher) centerpiece for our table....I thought it sounded unique. :+)

The reason we are not doing a head table is because I refuse to separate our BP from their husbands/wives and children. There are only 2 BM's and 2 GM's but there would be 22 people at our head table. It was a hard no for us. I think separating your BP from their SO's is incredibly rude. If you were the one that had to sit at a table with a bunch of strangers you might change your tune. I've had to do this before and it was miserable.

My best friend did 2 head tables with their SO's sitting across from them ... Bridesmaids and their SOs on one side, Groomsmen and their SOs on the other ... They were in the middle at a small round sweetheart table - thats what im thinking of doing