Sweetheart Table vs. Head Bridal Party Table

We are having a sweetheart table and letting the bridal party sit wherever they want

I honestly have never been to a wedding where the bridal party sat next to their SOs nor have I ever heard of it. Luckily our bridal party has everyone's SO in it but they still won't be sitting next to each other.

We did a sweetheart table and it was nice to have a moment alone but we also kind of felt like we were in a fish bowl with everyone looking at us. We also kept getting up to talk to people or people kept coming up to us

"We will have a head table with just our bridal party sans significant others."

I mean, I guess I'm not surprised, but in case it still matters to you at all, @MustLoveCats, this is rude AF.

@Katie your friends will say they don't mind because they're your friends, but head tables are incredibly rude. Separating any guest from their significant other is as rude as not inviting the significant other in the first place. The whole point of inviting significant others is so that your guests can share the wedding with their own love. Why would you invite them to make them sit by themselves while your friends sit with you and your new husband for dinner? That's just so rude.

Please don't use your friends as props for photos. Let them sit with their significant other. They deserve to celebrate with their own love, not just be a third, fourth, or fifth wheel at dinner with you and your husband.

@AMC18 time to change the cycle. Let your bridal party sit with their significant others. Head tables are outdated. There's a reason Celia, a person who attends thousands of weddings, hasn't seen one in so long.

Of course MLC is having a head table......OP, we are doing a sweetheart table. Ive heard from other couples that they really enjoyed having a moment to themselves.

@MLC just because they're "used to" sitting away from their SO doesn't mean it's any less rude to separate them. Yea, they know everyone at your special table, but their SO is most likely going to be surrounded by complete strangers and miserable.

But I guess that doesn't matter as long as you and your friends get to eat first.

Nine out of ten of our weddings feature sweetheart tables. It's the latest trend. We do an occasional dais, but those tables require a lot more decor. Stick with the sweetheart table.

@Linds G we are doing the exact same, I just didn't have a name for it! We are only having a MOH and BM so having us, them, and their spouses is perfect

We are doing a sweetheart table since it's a DW and people should be able to sit with their SO who they traveled with

Geez, didn't know I had so many fans. Sorry, not sorry, head table is for our bridal party...not their significant others. Our entire guest list is literally only family and life-long friends where everyone knows each other. There will be no weirdness putting the 2 partners with guests who are their family members. I have never been to a wedding where their partner was included in the head table. There are 8 members in our bridal party, and two will have their partners there. We are not squeezing the partners in next to the bridal party member just so they can eat with their partner who is not a VIP. Not only that but I don't need the other members without a partner feeling uncomfortable, which has been expressed to me. My bridal party is very happy with how we are doing things, and so are we.

So you're fine with isolating and frankly insulting their partners by keeping them away from the "VIP" section, but God forbid a member of your wedding party gets butthurt because they're single? Edit: And how is it that the only 2 SOs you have coming are your family members? That sounds like bullshit.

We had a head table, but only because no one in our wedding party chose to bring a date. If they had we would have done a sweetheart table.

From the flip side, I was grateful being a MOH that did not have to sit at a head table. I brought my now fiance with me, but we had only been dating for a few months and he didn't know anyone. If he was stuck at a table with people he didn't know (since we traveled to the wedding) I wouldn't have been able to enjoy myself worrying if he was having fun.

We're doing a sweetheart table. It will give us some time alone since most of the night we won't. It also allows our party to sit with their SOs. I will also be leaving the next day to go back to school 3 hours away so we won't get to spend any time alone after the wedding. This will help it a little at least

@cyndi lou that is the exact situation I was in at my sisters wedding. Blinkus and I had only been dating a few months and I spent most of the night worrying about him because I was literally the only person he knew there.

Blinkus, maybe people shouldn't get so butthurt when a significant other is in a bridal party and they are not seated with them. It's only a meal. People survived for decades doing this. It is traditional. Not everyone wants to have a sweetheart table or a kings table, nor all venues have the space for that. And my venue has never had anything other than a sweetheart table or a headtable with only bridal party members.

@MLC maybe you should take your guests comfort into consideration? They're "butthurt" for a reason. They're uncomfortable and prefer not to be. The reception is for your guests so yes you should seat SOs together where they will have more fun and enjoy the day better. Just because it is tradition doesn't mean you have to do it. Just because your venue has done it that way, doesn't mean they can only do it that way. The worst saying for progression is "because we've always done it that way." Try something new

No, it's an entire day being away from them and completely surrounded by people they don't know, celebrating a wedding for someone they might have just met that day. And instead of helping your guests be comfortable you think it's more important that your friends get food 30 seconds earlier. Because fuck properly hosting a wedding, your enjoyment is the only thing that matters.

We are doing a sweetheart table. We want our BP to be able to sit with their SOs.

MLC- FH is in the BP of a wedding this summer that I'll be attending as a guest. I'm really dreading sitting at a table of random people I won't know. It's going to make me feel really uncomfortable. It's not just a meal I'll be by myself for; cocktail hours while he's at pictures, the meal, and then all the extras people stay at their tables for; dances, cake cutting, speeches. Granted, I'm a mega-introvert, but I am absolutely dreading sitting with seven random people for all that time.

Bad manners are "traditional" in all circles. Doesn't mean you need to perpetuate it.

Also, get rid of the immature children you have in the bridal party who are upset they don't have relationships. They need to grow up.