Survey: Do you get along with your in-laws?

I get along with FIL fine, he's a pretty nice guy married to a delightful old friend of W's. We have no contact with MIL or with my mom, and my father passed a couple years ago but never made much effort to disagree with my family's prevailing opinion that W turned me gay soooooo.

Reading everyone's responses is making me feel better about my relationship with FMIL and FFIL. They are both very nice people and I don't have any beef with them, but I've also never felt particularly welcome into the family. FH is the oldest of four and FMIL is a big momma bear who is very into her kids and nuclear family. I kind of get the vibe I'm the "bad guy" who is stealing one of her babies sometimes, but she's never said anything to that effect...just body language. FFIL is a pretty quiet guy, though they are both homebodies. I have no idea where FH came from, since he's the most outgoing person I've ever met...

They're lovely people. FFIL and FMIL are maybe more religious and conservative than I'm used to, but they're also really respectful of my views and try really hard to be open-minded. And the FBILs are among my best friends now!

I am marrying into the BEST family ever! My FMIL is a second mom to me- we always joke about how we can't wait until she's actually my MIL so I can start to complain about how annoying she is (she isn't lol). His entire extended family is amazing.. I am very close with my immediate family, but not my extended family. It's a really great feeling seeing how normal it is for him to be close to cousins, etc.

Yeah I think we both get along with the opposite sides of the family lol so far so good anyways

I am marrying into the BEST family ever! My FMIL is a second mom to me- we always joke about how we can't wait until she's actually my MIL so I can start to complain about how annoying she is (she isn't lol). His entire extended family is amazing.. I am very close with my immediate family, but not my extended family. It's a really great feeling seeing how normal it is for him to be close to cousins, etc.

Love my future in laws! The whole family! They really are another family to me and i feel so blessed! From day one they accepted me and my family accepth FH! It was like we have truly been in each others lives always! And like a pp said i can literally stay at their house without FH being there like he may be at work or something (we still live with our parents currently but sleepover often) and it doesnt matter at all! We just joke and say we share houses (: lol

I like my future in-laws. Sometimes they can be a little much but I never dread spending time with them...unless it means spending several days with them. Lol. Well, one of my FSIL and I have an awkward relationship. She was best friends with FH'S ex fiancé and took her side in the breakup instead of his and hated me for the longest time. She used to ignore me anytime I was there or if she did talk, constantly talk about his ex. Luckily the rest of the in-laws told her she was being stupid and she doesn't ingore me anymore but it is still awkward sometimes.

I couldn't have better future in laws. They have all ways been so nice to me. It probably doesn't hurt I had their first grandkid lol

I love my FMIL! I honestly was nervous meeting her because she is a bit over involved in his life and notoriously hated his ex (though she was kinda terrible from the start to him). But the weekend after we met she messaged me on facebook thanking me for taking care of her babies (even the grown one) and that she was happy to see the boys cared for and my FH with someone that makes him smile finally. I haven't met my FFIL since they are divorced and lives across country but we've talked on the phone and he seems nice.

I love my in laws!!!! Especially my future mother in law and my future brother in law who is 18 they are super awesome and have always included me in their family. His mom has called me her future daughter in law since we were 20

My FMIL is very sweet. We got off to a rocky start, but now she honestly treats me like the daughter she never had.

FFIL is another story. He was a serious absentee father when FH was growing up. He is very flakey and extremely unreliable. When we actually do get to see him, he is hilarious and reminds me so much of FH and is really fun to be around.

But his mood swings and general flakiness, and watching him disappoint FH again and again gets real old. He was supposed to call 2 days ago to discuss hotels and flights for the wedding with FH. He never called. We know he doesnt have a lot of money so FH was ready and willing to pay for his hotel, but apparently even that isnt worth calling back for. This has happened so many times I've lost count, and it pisses me off to see FH hurt by his actions.

I absolutely adore my in-laws! From day 1 fmil and fsfil welcomed me into their home and treated me like I was their kid. I also have relationship with my fmil outside of fh. We text each other probably every other day and get together without him. I'm not as close with ffil or fsmil but they both are awesome too! They are just more reserved. We also rent our house from ffil so I think he tries to let our house really be our own space. All in all, I couldn't ask for better future in-laws!

Thankfully I get along great with my in-laws! Since FH and I started dating they have always treated me like a member of the family. They are so kind and generous, very thankful we have a good relationship!

I absolutely love my FMIL. She's a little younger than my mom and my mom has a traumatic brain injury, so she isn't quite the person she used to be before her accident so it's nice to have FMIL for a different motherly perspective. Honestly, FMIL kind of reminds my of my mom's mother.

I see FFIL fairly often but he's really quiet. We get along, he's very nice but he really just keeps to himself.

FSIL is 20 and in college so she's usually out doing things with her friends but when she's around she's sweet and fun to hang out with.

Because FH's parents are divorced and FMIL lives out of state we spend more time with my family, but I love my FILs. I think I picked a great family to marry into.

FH's parents have been divorced for 18 years. I get along great with his mother and her husband. I don't do much with his dad and his SO of 30 years. It's not that they don't like me, it's that they are the type of people who are constantly complaining about everyone and everything. Both of his grandmothers love me, too.

ETA: To give an example of FFIL's behavior: my cousin (whom I'm not really close to, only found each other several years ago on FB) is a professional photographer. We asked her to do our wedding. (She has been hired, we have a contract, she would otherwise not be at the wedding, etc). I made the comment (on FB) that she is an award winning photographer. FFIL is also a professional photographer. But, as an immediate family member, he is a guest, not a vendor. He is pissed that he wasn't asked to do the wedding. He makes snide comments about "not having won enough awards", etc. We asked him to do family pictures last summer when FH's sons were visiting for the summer (last time all three were together, as oldest is now 18 and not attending the wedding). Pictures never got done, FFIL routinely cancelled plans at the last minute, etc. Why on earth would I want this person to be in charge of documenting our day? His attitude and behavior will keep me from ever asking him to do any type of pictures.

ETS: sorry the length of rambling

FMIL and I got off to a rocky start. FH is her only child, and I was his first serious girlfriend. she had a hard time with that, coupled with the fact that we have very opposite personalities, except for the fact that we're both strongly opinionated. 7 years later, I love her. We dont see eye to eye on every single thing, but we get each other.

FFIL has loved me from the beginning. He nickamed me "tink", as in tinkerbell, and still uses that nickname for me. When FH told his parents he was going to propose,FFIL was beside himself. He was giddy. I've never seen him that way. He couldnt even look at me without giggling or tearing up....I knew something was up.

Two weeks later, we set the wedding date and FFIL announced he would not be coming to the wedding if he has to travel (which he does). So right now things are iffy. FMIL says she'll be there no matter what, and she is coming dress shopping with me Friday. I'm a little nervous about potentially having to face FFIL

I get along well with my future in laws and FH gets along with mine. He's the youngest of three boys who are both married and one has kids so they're very laid back with us. They haven't mentioned once about any wedding opinions or changes they want. It's been awesome!

My future FIL is completely awesome. My FH'S mother has passed, but he was estranged from her anyway. I have always prayed for my FH family would take me in as their own since my own family is severely disfunctional. God answered my prayer. I couldn't ask for a more welcoming and loving family

I do not get along with my fmil most of the time.