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Super May 2016

Survey: Do you get along with your in-laws?

Private User, on March 21, 2016 at 3:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 117

I’m curious about what kind of relationships you all have with your in-laws or future in-laws. My FFIL is so laid back, and wonderful. He is just grateful to be involved when we include him and FMIL in things. FMIL is very nice, but can be pushy and wants to be involved in everything—and our personalities are very different. Overall though, I feel pretty fortunate.

What about you all? Trying not to turn this into a thread bashing the in-laws, but I’m interested in hearing about everyone else’s in-law situations or even advice on how to get along with your in-laws.

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Latest activity by Cassidy, on January 15, 2021 at 11:28 AM
  • Kristy
    Master November 2015
    Kristy ·
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    My in-laws are FANTASTIC! Im so lucky!!! MIL is honestly one of the nicest people I have ever met! We see them often and love spending time with them.

    SIL and her family are fantastic as well. Actually all of us (me, hubby, FIL, MIL, SIL, BIL and their 2 kids) took a family vacation to Mexico last summer! Ya - we like each other Smiley winking

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  • M
    Super June 2016
    Ms. Koala ·
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    MIL, FIL, and one SIL are all great. Then there's my other SIL and well.... she won't be talking to us until April 16th unless she really wants to go to jail. It's a long story...

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  • Lara
    Master July 2015
    Lara ·
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    I get along very well with my FIL and SMIL. They are great! I get along well with my MIL though she didn't always like me. She was very close with my H's X, but then they had a huge falling out and she warmed up to me.

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  • FreshToDeathAng
    Master September 2016
    FreshToDeathAng ·
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    I absolutely adore my future in-laws. FFIL/FMIL are amazing, and FBIL/FSILs are great too, so I also feel very lucky / fortunate.

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  • Original VC
    Master July 2015
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    Same as you @Ashley. I get along great with my FIL, his personality is somewhat similar to my parents, plus he's very smart and has always been welcoming to me. I don't really have *serious* problems with MIL, but we are way too different in aspects that are kind of important to me, so I'd say our relationship is cordial but awkward.

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  • MeetTheHamiltons
    Master April 2017
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    Yes- I love his mother, we have a great relationship. I don't have much of a relationship with his father but that is because I do not like the way he treats FH. So my dealings with him are strictly at family gatherings.

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  • P
    Super May 2016
    Private User ·
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    @Kristy that is great! I love hearing that. I usually hear a lot of monster-in-law stories from friends and family.

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    Super April 2016
    Ostrich ·
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    I'm very lucky my soon-to-be in-laws are amazing. only time I've been annoyed with them was before Xmas 2015 when his mom texted that she was 'hurt' we didn't immediately jump on plans to be with them. sorry... my grandparents might not be around next Xmas, so we wanted to do that. instead we had to drive from Central PA to Baltimore to Philly to make everyone happy.

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  • Bethie
    Master May 2016
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    Yes! I love my future in-laws, they are a Godsend. My FFIL is not the warmest person but he's not mean or anything. I am super close with FMIL and FSMIL. Also my FSILs are amazing and I'm so grateful they are in my bridal party! Smiley smile

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  • Staci
    Master September 2014
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    I love my in-laws! I have been with H for almost 10 years so they are part of my family too. MIL can be a bit much at times but that's my biggest complaint. I even lived with my SIL for two years with only minor issues lol.

    Now my husband on the other hand, his in-laws are a real PITA Smiley winking

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  • JBach
    VIP September 2016
    JBach ·
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    MIL - yes

    FIL - no

    SIL 1 - yes

    SIL 2 - no

    This goes for both myself and FH for his family

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  • Ololufe
    VIP August 2016
    Ololufe ·
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    My in laws are great. I feel like I was welcomed with open arms, though they were very cautious around me. 1 1/2 into FH and I's relationship I can drop by the house unannounced and chill. They are like a 2nd family to me now. Definately fortunate.

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  • A
    VIP June 2017
    Along10 ·
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    My in-laws are horrendous. FH thinks so too. They live on the other side of the country thankfully. But I still try to keep somewhat of a relationship with them. I'm thankful FH is nothing like them.

    Smiley sad

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  • BeachBride2016
    Master November 2016
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    My FFIL and FMIL are both very nice people, we just have very little in common.

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  • SoontobeMrsO
    Super May 2016
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    FH's mom is so nice to me. She lives in Mexico so I only see her when she's here visiting once a year. But she always asks to talk to me when he calls her every few weeks. I think that's sweet.

    Now, one of his sisters is a huge B! The other one is super nice... I guess they can't all be winners Smiley smile

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  • Mrs. Mac
    Master July 2016
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    ADORE ADORE my FMIL. She's one of the best people on the planet. FH and his father don't have the best relationship but his dad has always been very kind to me.

    Did I mention how much I love my FMIL? ... and the Aunties-IL's? They're all so sweet and fun.

    ETA: Can't forget FBIL. He's a little quiet and shy but very very sweet and we get along great!

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  • Kristina
    Master September 2016
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    My FIL's can be very involved with certain things and with our 6 year son. But in the end they are just overprotective of their grandson. They are great people and have helped me out so much with my daughter from a previous relationship. They are her grandparents too. Even without being related by blood. I normally go to their house on Sunday's and spend the day with them without FH. I don't have family nearby so they are all I have. I love this thread!

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    Super October 2015
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    Ish.

    MIL & I had a decent relationship before the engagement, then our relationship took a few blows in wedding planning (standard stuff you probably read about all the time here). It's been a lot better since wedding craziness has subsided, but we aren't particularly close, either.

    I have an okay relationship with FIL and step-FIL, though again not great. No issues at all, we just haven't really bonded. Great relationship with step-MIL, though.

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  • FizzFuzz
    VIP November 2015
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    My in-laws are the best. I love them to pieces!

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  • AMW
    Master September 2016
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    My soon-to-be in-laws are largely non-existent in FH's life, so they won't be a part of ours. I met his father (if you could call not actually saying a word to me as meeting each other?). His mother reached out over facebook and I'm going to officially meet her in May. She seems very sweet, but I think there is some real hurt from past events that will be hard for FH to forgive and forget.

    Poor FH though, on the other hand, has MY parents to contend with. I'm an only child and my parents lovvvvvve me. I moved 1,200 miles to live with FH and now my parents are planning to retire early and move close to us (hopefully not tooo close haha). Poor FH...my parents are "those" inlaws! Smiley smile

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