FutureMrsGuzman
Dedicated May 2016

Strip Clubs for Bachelor Parties

FutureMrsGuzman, on March 16, 2016 at 8:32 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 2 306
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How many of your fiances are going to strip clubs for their bachelor parties? Is anyone besides me not really feeling that idea? The thought of a naked woman grinding on top of my fiance, giving him a lap dance makes me a little nauseous. My opinion is that having a woman do that would never be ok outside the walls of a strip club so why should I be ok with it just because it's a strip club? Does anyone else feel this way or am I the only party pooper? lol Has anyone else had to veto a bach party plan?

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  • Raine
    Super April 2016
    Raine ·
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    My fiancé is going to a brewery and then out to a nice dinner with his friends. After dinner he's coming home to me. My FH isn't into strip clubs. He finds them disgusting and does not want to waste money

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  • OG FMP
    Master August 2015
    OG FMP ·
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    I wasn't ok with it, but my H went to the strip club and I'm sure he got a lap dance or two. Life went on, we got married and we're good. Lol

    If it makes you feel better have strippers at your bachelorette party. I didn't personally, but i wished I did. Somehow in my mind that would've made me feel better about having women grinding on him. Lol

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  • Kaylie
    Master May 2016
    Kaylie ·
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    I'm the same way, you're not alone. FH went to a bachelor party in September and they had private strippers in the hotel room which IMO is a lot worse and I was really uncomfortable with it. It bothered me for awhile and kind of knocked my self-esteem down even more. He made it very clear to his Best Man that he doesn't want that so hopefully they respect his wishes.

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  • Mrs. Mac
    Master July 2016
    Mrs. Mac ·
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    I feel that if the bride and groom are both completely comfortable with the idea of this and want to do it, then what's good for them is good for them.

    For me though, I feel like there is nothing ok about a guy going to a strip club to watch naked women and get lap dances when he's in a committed relationship. In my opinion, there is no "last hurrah" before you're tied down. You're ALREADY tied down. You're engaged. FH and I have agreed that strip clubs are a no-go and he feels the same as I do.

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  • FutureMrsGuzman
    Dedicated May 2016
    FutureMrsGuzman ·
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    My fiance isn't really into them either. I talked to his brother about the plans because I assumed strip club was on the agenda. He said that the groomsmen are the ones who suggested strip club. I expressed my feelings about it to my fiance last night. He doesn't care at all if they go to a strip club. Its more his friends that want to go. So I am probably going to look like a party pooper when I tell his brother I'm not feeling it. They are more than welcome to go to one on their own time if they are that pressed to go is how I see it. Alcohol + strip club = no bueno lol

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  • Del
    Dedicated April 2017
    Del ·
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    My fiancé is pretty ace so he doesn't really care about that sort of thing. For his bachelor party he said he wanted to go to a friend's house, get drunk there and play tabletop games. However if he ever told me he would like to go to a strip club I certainly would not like it. I guess that something so intimate like a sensual lap dance and the like is something I feel we should share together rather than him going out to get it from someone else.

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  • FutureMrsC
    VIP April 2017
    FutureMrsC ·
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    I don't mind nicer strip clubs (as nice as they are not). FH is not a fan though. Originally, I thought he was just saying that for my benefit. He went to Montreal for his BMs bachelor party. He said it's just not his thing. Anyway, it wouldn't bother me... Unless he was spending more than a bachelor party there. I'm pretty sure his idea of a nice day/weekend is a golf outting and hanging out with his friends. He hasn't had a drink in I don't know how long - he literally just stopped drinking for no apparent reason. I don't foresee him choosing a strop club but I can see some his friends wanting to go.

    ETA: words are hard

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  • OG Dianna
    Master March 2017
    OG Dianna ·
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    My fiancé wants to go to a music festival for his bachelor party. I don't like the idea of some woman grinding on my fiancé either. I just don't see why it's necessary... And for guys thinking it's their last night of freedom, don't get married. Simple lol.

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  • Mrs.S
    Expert May 2016
    Mrs.S ·
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    I feel the same way that's why I felt better when Fh said he was going to golfing for his bachelor party with the groomsmen

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  • Princess Consuela
    Master November 2015
    Princess Consuela ·
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    I have a lot of (conflicting) feelings about this. I feel like a giant prude saying I'm not comfortable with it and not "allowing" him to go, but at the same time, I'm NOT entirely comfortable with it and would love it if he just came to that conclusion on his own Smiley winking. That being said, H did go for his bachelor party. I knew it was probably going to happen and had given my blessing. It was a one time thing, his bachelor party, and I trust him. Yeah, I was icked out, but oh well. We moved on.

    As long as there was none of this involved...


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  • 2016beachwedding
    VIP October 2016
    2016beachwedding ·
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    Is it an insecurity thing that freaks people out about strip clubs? Or the tv image that strop clubs have?

    Genuinely asking.

    I wouldn't have a problem if he went for his Bach party personally . And whether I liked it

    Or not I wouldn't be putting a "veto" on it. I don't get to make his decisions for him.

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  • FutureMrsGuzman
    Dedicated May 2016
    FutureMrsGuzman ·
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    Oh I am so happy I am not alone!!!! I thought people were going to respond and say I'm a bitch lol. I agree, there is no need for a last hurrah. Morals and expectations should not go out the window for a night. I am not ok with any woman other than myself touching my man to arouse him.

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  • twostep127
    Super June 2016
    twostep127 ·
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    My FI is going to NOLA for his bachelor party this weekend and hasn't been told any of the "details" of the events, but I have a strong suspicion a strip club may be a part of it. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't gross me out, but I also trust him and know that if they do go, it's more about his single friends wanting an excuse to go than him actually wanting to. If they all want to waste their money on a cheap thrill he could get for free at home, then so be it.

    That said, I think you 100% have the right to veto it if you're uncomfortable with it, and I don't think it's weird or bad if you are. We all have different comfort levels with stuff- strip clubs don't bother me much, for instance, but him having close female friends would- and he and his friends should be able to respect that as they plan the bach party.

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  • Bethie
    Master May 2016
    Bethie ·
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    Party pooper. Most guys go to the strip club for their Bach party. It's just what they do. It's not a big deal at all. FH is going to Vegas for his Bach party and will probably hit up many strip clubs. I don't mind. I don't like the idea of strippers in the hotel room though, they don't have the rules like strip clubs do.

    I've already been to the strip club this year for a bachelorette party - it was a blast!

    I think you need to experience strip clubs - male & female to understand why they aren't a threat.


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  • EmilyJ
    VIP May 2016
    EmilyJ ·
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    FH hates strippers. I've been to a strip club with him, and they are just awkward places....like kind of sad and pathetic. I don't know, but I'm not complaining that it's not his thing.

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  • OG FMP
    Master August 2015
    OG FMP ·
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    Let me let you in a little secret...We live in a really small state and I ended up finding out who their VIP Strippers were (Yes, they had VIP). I searched for them on IG and they are soooooooooo pretty! Made me feel bad, but I trust my husband and the strippers only want one thing and that was money. My husband didn't give them any $$ cause his friends had those stupid guns that shoot out money. LOL I felt insecure for a little while, but got over it right away.

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  • OG FMP
    Master August 2015
    OG FMP ·
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    PC!!!!!! Hahahahaha!

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  • Jacqui76
    Master May 2016
    Jacqui76 ·
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    My FH was telling me last night that his buddy was talking about what to do for his bachelor party and mentioned strippers... FH told him he doesn't want that, and he's going to talk to his other friend about keeping this guy reined in a little. For his bach all he wants is to golf and hang out at a bar and have some beers with his friends.

    ETA: PC i agree with everything you said.

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  • Kaylie
    Master May 2016
    Kaylie ·
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    @Bethie I think that's what bothered me the most was the fact that they were hotel room strippers. You never know what rules they have, if any. I still wouldn't love the idea of a strip club, but I would have felt a lot better about that than the hotel room.

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  • 2016beachwedding
    VIP October 2016
    2016beachwedding ·
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    When i think about fh has only been to a strip club once - with me at my request. We had fun and went home. No lap dances or anything just a few drinks. I don't think he would even want to go but that's totally his choice

    Eta words

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