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Devoted May 2017

Strip Club the night before the wedding

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Monica, on May 16, 2017 at 2:56 PM

Now the wedding went as planned and things are okay, but this sticks in my mind. Am I overreacting at being incredibly hurt and angry that the night before our wedding he was at a strip club with strange girls all over him? He got in at 4am and then tried to leave out the fact that that's where he was. Any other night I wouldn't have cared but I'm still feeling very disrespected. He would have been livid had I done something similar. I just need some real thoughts, not the boys will be boys crap I keep getting from his family.

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Just Said Yes July 2030
Yes · on July 15, 2021 at 1:42 AM
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Before I get into it I’d like to specify I’m a male. This topic has been brought up a couple of times in my life where I’ve heard a lot of people going to strip clubs the day before the wedding as their hen or bachelor/bachelorette party. My girlfriend has said that she wants to go to a strip club if we ever get married, but for me it’s really quite uncomfortable to me and I hate the idea of it. I would never imagine doing something like that as I consider it borderline cheating, but I’m just really concerned about this point in our lives and I really don’t like it or feel comfortable with the idea at all. I know my dad went to a strip club and his dad payed for a private lap dance, but I don’t get that. I would be 100% okay if it was something like what my mum did which was going out with her girls and getting a pole dancing lesson as a bit of fun. That’s still towards the idea of a strip club- but it makes me nowhere near as uncomfortable and it sounds like a really fun idea with your friends. Of course I can’t force her to do anything but it’s really a civilised conversation between the two of you and your boundaries and they need to respect each other. But I understand other couples might be completely open to something like that and if that’s okay with them then sure, but it’s all a matter of conversation.
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Just Said Yes May 2021
Jackie · on March 30, 2026 at 9:45 PM
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It just sounds like maybe you two have communication problems. In my opinion my husband would never do such a thing or I would not be his wife. However, we go to strip clubs together sometimes and it makes for great sex and fun and more communication. I think being open with your partner or husband is the best thing you can do. How did he react when you told him how bad it hurt that's the question I would be wanting an answer to.
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