Still bummed

My FH was giving his speech and asking me to marry him and I was like yay omg wait why are you standing haha we laughed but he got down on one knee and asked. I told him I was about to say no (not really) bc he didn't ask properly haha

You should let him know it bothered you. Letting things stew is never a good idea. He may apologize or may not have known you'd care so much. Be open an honest!

Mine didn't, but we were on an airboat and the surface was unsteady. It doesn't bother me though. For the situation and for us it was absolutely perfect!

I don't get why anyone would be disappointed. Really, that's just a materialistic-like part of becoming engaged, and completely unimportant. The point is he asked you to become his wife, not that he did it wrong.

Being proposed to was the milestone moment that I subconsciously waited for since I was really little, as I'm sure it was with everyone. When my husband proposed to me, we were sitting on our couch having the "why do you wanna marry me anyhow" conversation. Then he just held the ring up to my face and asked me. It was one of the most special moments in my life, and I didn't give a damn how he did it. It actually would've been awkward for him to get down on one knee. Get over the small details and take it for what it was- one of the most sentimental and special moments of your life.

My DH did not get down on one knee and I am thankful he didn't. We were in the middle of a lake sitting in a canoe. If he had tried to get down on one knee, he would have tipped the boat over, losing our phones, wallets, his diabetic testing supplies, lunch, and probably the ring. I also can't swim. Doggie paddle wouldn't have cut it. He's a wise man for not getting down on one knee and staying in his seat.

I've been with my FH for almost 9 years (we're getting married in our 9 year anniversary), so when he proposed, it wasn't anything romantic nor was he on one knee. He leaned over while we were watching tv and asked, "what do you think about getting married?" A fee days later, we picked out my ring. He dis make me wait a couple weeks to wear it so he could talk to his daughter, then grabbed my hand, slipped it on, and asked then.

Mine did. He could not have gotten the proposal more perfect for "us". It was private and in our pjs after morning coffee, but on a surprise romantic cabin getaway. Special but also comfortable. I had only ever asked that it be private, but it exceeded my expectations. I had not thought about the kneeling but I'm glad he did it.

The important thing is he wants to spend the rest of his life with you though. Hold onto that.

I didn't have the proposal of my dreams... I won't go into all the details, but it just wasn't what I wanted and there were several (SEVERAL!) misunderstandings where I thought he was going to propose and he didn't. TBH, I hate thinking about the actual engagement and always skimmed the story when people asked.

That said, I'm so happy with him. Our wedding was wonderful-- we planned it together and it was so "us."

I've read people saying (not on here necessarily) that our generation puts too much emphasis on "the proposal" -- staging elaborate things, taking photos, etc. -- when the proposal is just a moment, just a blip on the radar of your whole lives together.

I'm not minimizing your feelings. I felt the same way in the months after our engagement, but that feeling did fade with time and now is replaced by wonderful wedding memories.

I'm sorry it didn't go as you planned, however all that matters is he loves you and he wants to spend forever with you

FH didn't even really propose, much less get down on one knee. We were sitting on the couch at out apartment. He didn't have a ring either, but that's okay because it meant I got to pick it out.

We've been together over 5 years before he proposed, and in the more recent months anytime he mentions "someday, when we're married blah blah blah" I had taken to responding with, "are you asking me to marry you?" (Knowing the answer was no, this comment was not intended to be a proposal.) Then one day when I asked this, he paused for a second and said, yeah.

It isn't really a great proposal story but it's very .... us. So, whatever. I'm just happy because WE'RE GETTING MARRIED!!! YAY!!!

You can't change how it happened so even tho you envisioned something differently, nothing can change the fact that you're engaged and happily planning your wedding. Focus on that, not what DIDN'T happen.

Nope, he was seated in the chair on the left in the picture below (this was one of our stops during our last trip to Japan). He also didn't have a ring ready because he didn't know my size. Instead, he had a photo album he had put together of our first trip to Japan together, with a handwritten proposal in the album.

While I wouldn't have been upset by a storybook proposal where I turn around and he's down on one knee, I know that's not who FH is. I'm the rose-tinted glasses in the relationship, and he's the reality check. We actually balance quite well (I make him have fun, he makes me get serious when needed). While its not the expectation I grew up with, its -our- proposal, and I'm happy he did it in his own way.

I proposed to my husband and I got down on BOTH knees, I totally forgot. He told me and I corrected myself while I was proposing lol.

Mine didn't and I wasn't bothered by it, I think I would have been overwhelmed and shocked if did this huge proposal in front of people. He woke me up in bed,with the ring and asked. Sorry it wasn't everything you wanted but hopefully you have the wedding of your dreams.

Eh mine didn't but I didn't care too much. We were hiking and had sat at a spot to rest and enjoy the view. I even have his speech for him, because I was in the middle of telling him all about how happy I was to finally have a hiking partner and that that partner was him. He then just kinda held out the ring in his hand and asked if I'd be his hiking partner forever. But to me it was all I needed. :]

Mine didn't. He proposed on Christmas and didn't even ask me to marry him. He went out to his car came back in handed me the ring and said "We're getting married" I'm not pissy I thought it was funny but he says he keeps kicking himself for doing it that way.

I would just tell him how you feel about it and maybe he will do it again the way you want

Mine didn't! We picked the ring together on a cruise ship. I found him in the jewelry shop when he was supposed to be in the bathroom. I already assumed he'd be there. He left, we talked about it that night, and went to the shop together the next morning to choose one together. He was scared of getting something I wouldn't like.. and so was I.

I understand your feelings, and would recommend to talk to him about it. Probably he will not make an other proposal, but maybe some other romantic gesture to make up for it. he might have been really nervous and just have forgotten to get down. Mine did go on his knee and he gave a nice speech, but i messed it up because i was so shocked and forgot for 3 minutes to say yes. i just thought i did say it and was standing there wondering why he did not get back up. He did the one thing i told him not to do- he invited people for the event. Everybody was staring at me - my major fear! I had a hard time letting it go too but in the end it is the thought that counts and for the wedding he promised he will listen more to what my dreams and thoughts are.

I always stick up for the men because we may have been dreaming about that day for a long time and although he may have as well, he may not have known your expectations or hopes. I would be honest with him but I'm sure it has no reflection on how he feels for you- the big picture here is that he found the one he wants to spend the rest of his life and is making a commitment! Also, don't forget, he could have been incredibly nervous and not even realized he did that.

Honestly tradition is becoming less and less important in our culture, for better and for worse. It's totally normal to be upset about a tradition that you were hoping for that FH didn't find important, but it sounds like you both knew it was coming and a proposal was just a formality. It does SOUND less romantic but in all honesty he probably just felt so certain about your relationship and future that he didn't find all that tradition neccessary. FH didn't do a whole speech when he proposed and I was a little dissappointed by that, but looking back I realize he was just so nervous after traveling 3500 miles with the ring in his pocket, and he tells me how he feels every day!