Still bummed

@Chivy - Obviously, I don't really "know" you, but honestly, it sounds perfect for you guys. You're so sassy and it sounds like he's got your number!

Chivy that's actually an amazing point. All these viral proposals set expectations way too high.

I was disappointed at first that the proposal he planned wasn't super unique (he made dinner then got down on one knee afterwards) but then I realized how perfectly "us" it was and now I love our story. We were also in our pajamas and had been fighting most of the weekend before so we were only made up for a few hours at that point. But it was real and his speech was sincere. So I'm a happy camper!

Surprisingly, mine did.....it was sweet but no matter what method I woulda been ok I think. Mainly since he swore he would never re marry!! Lol

We had already talked about it so I knew it was coming and that he had picked a ring by himself as well as spoke to my parents and children but had no idea when he would make it official. My sister and FH have birthdays a day apart and we were supposed to be going to a belated birthday dinner for them with my dad, step mom, FH brother and his wife (my best friend). At the end of the dinner he got down on one knee in front of me and presented the ring in a custom made Harry Potter ring box and my first words were I love the box lol and then of course yes before I even opened it to see the gorgeous ring inside

Mine didn't either, and the proposal itself was less than stellar... he said he just got caught up in the moment and I believe him; he's just not a romantic person by nature even when he tries, and he was on plan C for the proposal cause his first two ideas where ruined. But it really messed with my head because 1) I thought he was fake proposing with a cheap promise ring for a good minute or two and 2) for the next couple days I still couldn't grasp it because I didn't have that visual in my head. I told him so and he was sweet enough to try to redo it, but even when he did that I was in the middle of getting out of the car with groceries, so I'd just grabbed all the bags from the back seat while still strapped in the drivers seat and was trying to make sure nothing fell out of my lap so I still couldn't even really look at him and had to be like "ok that's cool, please move before I drop the eggs" and I felt too bad to ask him to do it again.

I'm (mostly) over it now, and whenever it starts bothering me how unromantic he can be, I think of all his other amazing qualities and how lucky I am to have him at all. I don't think it's at all irrational to be bothered by something to dreamed about for so long happening in a less than dreamy fashion. But just remember the positives!

Awwww I'm so sorry !!! I would have been bummed out as well. Its hard when u have a vision of something so meaningful to you and it doesn't happen. Maybe he can re-do it when taking engagement pictures

Mines didn't actually the way he did it caught me WAY off guard lol. The first night I thought about it and was a little sad. That lasted maybe 10 seconds since I know he stayed true to himself and did what was comfortable for him.

My FH didnt either, but it was completely unexpected and he had talked to my dad the week before. I know that isn't his style, and I honestly didn't have any big vision of what I expected, so it worked out! I think it's just amazing that he came to the decision to propose and he went out on his own and bought a ring and asked my dad and all that. While not the most romantic proposal, it was so thoughtful and sweet.

Mine didn't. We were at a pretty bridge in Europe overlooking a river and town and we were surrounded by so many people who were trying to get shots of the sunset. He was so nervous already that he just brought out the ring in between us but honestly, it was the best moment. I joked around with him a few months later when he got my real ring and told him he had to get down on one knee with it and he just laughed and said he had no idea what he was doing.

Yeah, in hind sight maybe it was nerves... he didn't even put it on my finger. He's typically pretty thoughtful so I guess I was just confused. I really appreciate your feedback, just being able to vocalize it without being made to feel like a brat is very cathartic...

Haha. My FH and I got engaged in the shower one night. We had talked about marriage so I asked him if he'd like to get married this coming fall or the next Fall of 2018. He said this fall and I informed him we needed to get on the ball planning and viola we are engaged. He had a custom ring made but never got down on one knee I still am marrying the man of my dreams.

Of course funny story he told his mom he proposed at blue ridge memorial park but meant the blue ridge park way. The Blue Ridge Memorial Park is a cemetery.....

I think I would have been bummed too for a bit. Until someone shook me and told me in the grand scheme of life it's really not a big deal. They love us and want to marry us and that's all that should matter, right?

My FH did get down on one knee but it definitely wasn't how he planned. He had it planned out all sweet for that evening but said he was too excited to wait once he picked up the ring. He proposed in our front yard, in the morning, on our way to a water parks, in our swimsuits and I wouldn't have it any other way. It's your story and your proposal and even if it sounds awful to someone else, who cares? I love my proposal because of the man who asked me, not because of how he did or didn't do it.

Mine didn't, but for medical reasons. He still made it special and memorable.

Mine did but it still was not what I had imagined. FH kept delaying our dinner plans so I was getting mad. Finally I went to say WTF and to my surprise he got down on one knee and proposed. Turns out he had made later reservations and didn't tell me. Total gear changer, it's hard to change emotions like that when you mad, lol. My eyes did water and tear up but I was still in a state of shock, what just happened. Later he tells me I didn't react how he thought I would of. I told him I thought that same thing and he shouldn't of made me mad first, lol.

Im sorry you didn't get the proposal you wanted but at least you have HIM! It's sad to say but sometimes you might be disappointed in your relationship. Don't expect anything in life, let along in a relationship because you will always be disappointed. Marriage is about loving that person no matter the ups and downs. HE asked to be with YOU for the rest of your lives, think about THAT instead of thinking about what he DIDNT do.

At least you didn't know it was coming.. mine literally told me he went to pick up the ring.. then I overheard him telling his boss WITH THE DOOR OPEN.. 'yea I can't come in tonight I'm going to propose to my girlfriend!'.. I mean.. CMON... can a girl get a surprise?!!! But it is what it is.. wasn't at all what I pictured my whole life but I had to move on.. at least he loves me and would do anything in the world for me.

Dude. I was in a hospital bed, because I had just had a baby the day before. My tits had started seeping milk and I could barely move because I felt like my episiotomy was a foot long. I felt disgusting and everything hurt and seeing FH on one knee on the gross hospital floor was far from romantic.

Doesn't matter. I still adore the guy and want to marry him, not matter how he asked.

Get past it and focus on that. Don't try to redo the moment; it won't count and it's pointless. Just be happy to be engaged to someone you love.

Mine didn't and I wish he would've. In all fairness though I was on a horse so it would've been pretty awkward.

I can understand why you are upset, it would of made me upset too but honestly not something to take to heart. He loves you! Sometimes talking these things out really helps so he knows where you stand and you can feel better. These are the type of talks that make you stronger!

My FH didn't get down on one knee. I didn't even realize it until after the fact when we were announcing our engagement to his mom. It did bother me at first, but then we were talking about it more, and he was saying how he knew I didn't want some big public deal to be made out of it and that I wanted it to be intimate. He put thought into what I'd told him, and didn't get down on one knee so that the people around us at the restaurant wouldn't realize what was happening. My FH is really sweet when he puts his mind to it, and even though I do sometimes wish he HAD gotten down on one knee because I'd never pictured it another way (and because some people in my life have guilted me about it), it's a whole lot more important to me that he did it the way he did because he cares about me and my feelings.

Also, I get to marry him, so it's all worth it.