Still bummed

Mine didn't. It's all o dreamed about since I was little we didn't even have a real ring when we got engaged. We got silicon rings ( we both are in the emergency services) his big proposal was here we already talked about it. Wear this and handed me the ring. So I feel you but he is making it up by letting me have the wedding of my dreams.

Mine didn't. He took me to the jeweler and told me to pick any ring I wanted. That he knew he wanted me to be his, but he wanted me to have the ring I wanted. Don't be disappointed. He loves you and wants you, no matter how he did it. I'm very in traditional. So I actually like how my fiancé asked me.

Awww, I think I might actually be bothered by that. Years ago I told H exactly what I wanted: the type of ring, for him to get down on one knee, and for him to tell my parents his plans before he proposed (out of respect). He did two out of the three. LOL

Did you tell him it bothered you? I think you should. It's important that you tell him how you feel instead of holding it in. Communication is important in a relationship and no one is a psychic.

He can't fix it if he doesn't know it's broken.

Thanks for validating my feelings guys. I don't know if he knows it bothers me. It came up recently at a bar when his friend was asking me for proposal advice, and I said, "make sure you get down on one knee." And he was like "oh, of course. That's a given." And I just kind of laughed it off like "well Craig didn't so...l didn't know if you needed reminding...or if that was just a him thing... " but it stung.

My FH didn't get down on one knee and it was far from romantic. At the time I was disappointed because it wasn't what I had dreamed that moment would be my whole life. I finally did tell my FH how I felt months later (because I couldn't let it go) we talked about and moved on. It doesn't bother me any more and now when I think back to the way he did it I laugh because it really was just his personality to do it that way. Maybe you should try talking to your FH about it too. Good luck and don't let this ruin your special day!

Mine got down on one knee but his proposal was still 50 shades of wack. It is what it is.

Mine didnt, wasn't a dream and I knew it's not his style and not to expect it, he actually did it when I was being sarcastic and snarky, perfect, if he wants me at those times then I know he wants me always!

My FH got down on one knee.. but he also proposed in the living room, at 11pm, while we were in pajamas. And he didn't say anything besides "Will you marry me?" but he did write me the sweetest letter that he gave me after. I get that you want the experience, but don't let it detract from your wedding planning or relationship. Just focus on your love for him and how pretty your ring is!

I think I might be the odd man out but it doesn't bother me at all that FH didn't get down on one knee. What does bother me (and I haven't seen ANY of this on this thread) is when people say they are waiting for a "real proposal" or ask me when "FH is gonna do it right". In my mind he did it right, took me to see I really wanted to see (T-Rex replica at Natural History Museum) and we were talking about our future on our drive home when he asked me. Best day ever.

I do agree, to talk to him if it REALLY bothers you, but personally I would let it go. At the end of the day I am sure it was special and you get to marry him

I would have been disappointed too, especially since like GymRat I was very open about what I wanted which was simply "please get down on one knee and make it a private proposal". Anything else was up to his imagination.

I'm sorry you didn't get the proposal you wanted but unfortunately there are no redo's. I hope you can feel better about it soon.

FH did get down on one knee on the beach. he fell behind on our walk and says he found a shell. I was happy with his choice. he also talked to my dad before.

My FH didn't either, it was very untraditional the way we got engaged and at first I was upset about it. But it makes it us, it gives us a story to laugh about when we tell people. I took the silver lining out of it and now I'm not bothered by it. Hopefully it will pass for you too, try to focus on the wedding-it's much more important than the proposal!!

I kind of understand why it bothered you, then yet, maybe you should focus on the actual love he has for you. My FH proposed to me in our living room in our first house, in front of his brother and sis and law. It was a surprise to them too. He did it during pictionary. It should be the thought that went into it, not exactly how he did it. And as other posters have mentioned, if this seriously bothers you that much, you need to tell him. If the communication is already lacking, that is not a good sign

FH proposed sitting next to me at the fondue restaurant, he didn't have much of a speech and I was a little sad at first but long as I marry him I don't care.

Don't feel bad. My fiancé had this whole speech planned out that he was gonna say and I just immediately got too excited and screamed YES!!

I told him if he dared to get down on one knee I would kick him in the face while he was down there. So to each their own. Sorry it's bothering you, but what is there to do about it now? Vent it out here and let it go. This should be a happy time for you.

Nope. We were sitting in bed. He actually never really asked. He handed me the ring lmao.

@Olivia we were walking on the beach and I was pissy cause I had to pee. I was walking ahead of him, complaining, and he's like "will you shut up?" I turned around to cuss him out and he got down on one knee and said "will you marry me?" I wanted something a bit more romantic. I've seen too many movies and shows, so my expectations were probably unrealistic.

Mine didn't, and I didn't even think of it until afterward when a friend asked me if he had... but he was so nervous and sweet that I couldn't hold it against him. I understand the feeling of disappointment, though. Even if it doesn't make sense

Mine got down on his knee and I instantly started cracking up cause he was making old man sound effects LOL. He's always complaining about his knees saying he's getting old. Me laughing lightened the mood cause it made him laugh. It wasn't the perfect proposal but the prefect part is a I'm going to marry the man I love. Try to focus on the positive