Still bummed

After 8 years of dating, my husband pretty much told me he was about to propose and then a month later, he did. I mean I guessed he was going to but he still didn't even try to hide it or even postpone it to a different day. Nothing! I was disappointed. I felt bummed that after all that time he was just like 'this is how I'm going to propose in a month.' Wth? Hah. It stung for a little while. You have all these expectations of how you want it to be and it always doesn't go that way. But honestly, try not to let it bother you. I laugh about it now and think of how much that just matches his personality. Now we are married and I could care less how he proposed.

@LuckyAK,

My FH didn't get down on one knee. He didn't do anything wicked elaborate or romantic. We were on our way to the beach and I realized he didn't grab his giant water bottle. I was filling it up and he was rambling about a ton of stuff...going a mile a minute. The night before, he tossed and turned and kept just talking about random shit instead of sleeping. We'd been through a tough time at our apartment. The ceiling caved into our bedroom and we'd been sleeping in our living room with fans for over a week. Anywho, he was talking about how well we've handled the hard times. He then asked me to do him a favor...he asked if I would marry him.

I was in SHOCK! My FH is someone who said he never wanted to get married. I figured it would happen when we were in our 60's or something. I share all that jazz to lend a bit of perspective. Sometimes things don't happen the way we imagine or plan or dream or hope. I do get you're sad about it. Hell, I overall wish my honey would be a bit more grand with the romance. And I totally get you being disappointed, but I don't know what dwelling on it will do. You can't get back in time and control his actions/shape the proposal into what you want it to be. I also don't know what you'll gain from telling him. He asked you and loves you. I just don't know what positive stuff can come from letting him know about something he can't change...idk...idk...

I'm sending you good vibes and I'm sorry you're hurting

While mine did, a best friend of mine was disappointed when her FH proposed to her in a restaurant in front of a ton of people when she's the world's biggest introvert. She was furious and so sad that he had "ruined" her engagement dreams.

They've now been married three happy years and it's already a funny story about how much better he knows her now!!

I can honestly say I found out I was in the minority when I explained to people that FH had written "Sierra will u marry me" in seaweed on the beach in Cancun. People said oh wow that's beautiful but many said oh wow all that to propose?! "Viral" proposals aren't realistic for many. What makes it special is wanting to spend the rest of your life together. Just try and focus on that I can completely understand the sadness though... it is a day as girls we all look forward to. All I can offer is to just give it time!

Mine didn't either

He joked around so many times that when he did I actually didn't believe him at first

Mine didnt get on one knee either, it was actually not a very romantic moment, but it was actually appropriate for us. We met each other when he bought a car from me....15 years prior. So on our 15 yr dating anniversary, We just happened to be picking up my new car that I had just bought (we did not plan this, it just kind of happened to fall on that date). After we left the dealership and were driving to dinner, he asked me if i was happy. Of course I said yes. Then he asked me if I had everything I wanted.. a new job, a new car, etc... and I said yeah, Im pretty happy. Then he said, well, we should just get married. Of course I was totally taken off guard and was quiet (as I was still driving the car). He then stared at me and said, well? What do you think? and i said oh. are you serious? and he said yeah, we should get married. I asked him again if he was serious. and then he said yes, do you want to marry me? and I said of course! yeah, that sounds good, lets get married! So, while it isnt the most romantic, its our story, which makes it great for us

Awww I'm sorry you feel this way... If it makes you feel any better the 1st time my FH proposed... It was Early March an he calls me downstairs. I was holding our new baby, hadn't had a shower in 2 days and was wearing Santa pants. He did get on one knee...but I told him to try again! Hope it makes you giggle just be happy he loves you and gave you a ring!!!! Lots of people are breaking traditions these days!!!!

Mine didn't cuz we were on a bike ride

Mine didn't and I never really got a traditional proposal either. For me it's more that we are getting married than anything else.

We were both sitting, on the beach in the evening

Not everyone gets the 'ideal' proposal. Even without asking permission first, or getting down on one knee, or having on hand a diamond ring, you had a guy just ask to spend the rest of his life with you. No matter where or how it's done, It doesn't get more romantic than that.

Most guys don't put much thought into the how unless they get help from someone but they're afraid to get help because they want it to be a surprise so they do the best they can and I think he did the best he could. When my feelings are hurt I always think back and ask myself "was he being malicious or hateful?" "Did he do it this way to hurt my feelings?" If I can honestly answer with a no then I know I'm just being silly but it's also good to talk about it because he's not a mind reader and he probably has no clue it's even bothering you.

Mine couldn't. It was raining and about 5 minutes away from flooding the trail we were on. He did an awkward lunge for about 3 seconds, but I didn't particularly care

My FH didn't get down on one knee either! It kinda of bother me.. he proposed on my birthday handled me a bunch of gifts box.. the ring was first box I opened! He said will you marry me.. quick simple we went to dinner then bed. lol

I suggest talking to him but overall he wants you in his life that's what matter.

Mine didnt! He actually did it in the car because it was down pouring and we were trying to get to some dunes. I was happy it happened the way that it did because it was so intimate and personal. If we'd been out on the dunes, there would have been people all around us and it just wouldn't have been the same! I have very happy memories of the day we were engaged.

Mine didn't and he also didn't say will you marry me. He asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. To me that's so much better than will you marry me. It didn't bother me that much because I know he's not that guy who thinks of romantic stuff and things to do. If it really bothers you just talk to him. I think sometimes we just get caught up in what we see in the movies. A proposal is a symbol of your relationship and love for each other and that's what's important. The message.

I think FH shouldn't have to get on his knee(s) for u to say yes. Either u do or u don't.

TOO many movies make u think that's what u want. Be happy u aren't no single crazy cat lady.

Just talk to him. You'll feel better after you do (know this from experience).

Mine did but he stood up immediately because he landed on a rock lol

Mine did. But he held the ring nervously to him instead of presenting to me ...so I wanted to be like "um whatcha got there?" (But not really cuz I was so shocked and like out of my head ) Lol kinda an awkward moment I think for most men. So much moves they got to do right, time, position... and we seem to notice the one little thing that's "off "