We have plenty of time to plan, so I'm taking my time to weigh my options with everything. However, I'm so torn on this. We're having an upscale wedding, I think our guests can tell that just by knowing my fiancé and I, and from the look of our invitations. However, we think that a lot of our friends and family are going to show up way under dressed (I'm talking jeans, tank top/really short skirt combos). We want to add "Formal Attire is Requested" on the information card in the invite, but we don't want people to think we're being rude and demanding. What did you do/are you going to do? Any advice is super appreciated!!