sorry to ask again...many guests who didn't bring a gift/card?

We had a couple guests not give a card or gift. I didn't care about the gifts or the money but would have been happy with a card to confirm that I didn't imagine them there.

The worst was my IL's. We didn't get a card or gift. They didn't come to RD(they couldn't find it and didn't think to call). I mean it's their sons wedding. You would have thought they could have at least left a card?!?!?

Yup. ..seems pretty low to me! I bring gifts to every Wedding, birthday, shower, etc that I'm invited to AND if it's just a get together or something...I ask if there something I can bring or if anything is needed! I just don't understand people not "expecting" to receive or give a gift, especially at a wedding!

I did not read all the comments, so idk if someone mentioned this before... maybe someone grabbed some of the cards? Meaning they got stolen?

Idk- just throwing it out there- I've heard some nasty stories here.

Is there any of those friends who didnt bring a gift a close friend? Maybe you can ask to one person that u think is really close?

As a guest, I usually send a gift after the wedding rather than bring it with me. Perhaps that's what your friends are doing.

I'm hoping my guests don't bring gifts to my wedding! We're getting married across the country from where we live then flying out next day to honeymoon so it would be complicated to transport gifts home.

Years ago, I gave a card with a generous gift certificate at a wedding, and never got a thank you note. I still wonder whether they got it or it got lost in the shuffle. That's one of the reasons I usually send gift to their home rather than bring it with me.

I wonder if some of the cards got misplaced. That seems really off to me!

I'm from Philly. The norm is the couple gets a shower gift (if invited to the shower) and a wedding gift. I've never given anything but cash at a wedding.

I had a wonderful shower and received so many wonderful gifts. I will not be upset or angry if I don't receive wedding gifts also. I would like a card* though - I love reading them.

If you didn't have a shower and people still didn't bring a card or gift to the wedding, that doesn't sit right with me.

ETA: Card* not cars!

Any wedding that I have ever went to. I have always given cash and a bridal gift. As for people not giving gifts at wedding I think it's s so rude when someone goes to wedding empty handed. I went to a wedding before and never got a thank you card for the gift . I think times has changed.

I think that's unusual. We had 6/130 guests not give a gift. That includes DH's 3 cousins, one of his friends who was a GM, and 2 of his other friends. But one of those friends got us a card and wrote a really heartfelt message inside.

ETA: I was raised to always bring a gift. I would die of tackiness if I ever showed up at a wedding empty handed!

I have never gone to an event and not brought a gift. I'm not kidding when I say this: I used to visit FH over summers in college (we met there and were long distance over summer) and I brought a gift to his parents to thank them for letting me come visit. Even something as simple as that I brought a gift. A bottle of wine to a house warming. Hell I hosted my friends baby shower, paid for everything and STILL bought a gift. I think it's pretty rude to show up at a wedding without AT LEAST a card. At least a card shows the couple you are thinking of them. There doesn't have to be a $200 dollar gift or a check with the card, but I would never show up to a wedding without something for the couple. Last year I traveled for a wedding 4 hours across the state, and I had a gift in my car for the couple. IMO there is no excuse to show up to a wedding empty handed, and by simply having a card (no money just heartfelt well wishes) you have done your part.

I kind of "worry" about this too...I'm not having a shower (I assume, since no one has brought it up) and no one as asked if I'm registered anywhere. I have the rsvp set to my wedding website where the registry is linked, but I doubt people will see it unless they are looking.

That's pretty surprising. I've always given a shower gift as well as a wedding gift. I didn't know people did that. And I feel like that's definitely an unusual number of people not giving gifts.

Wedding shower gift, engagement party gift, wedding gift, travel to and from wedding. YIKES. Add more if you're in the wedding, get stuck at tacky cash bar or dollar dance. Wedding invitations can send shivers up anybody's spine.

Honestly sounds super low ... I don't want to offend any of your friends or family but is it possible that somebody stole cards?I ask this because I've heard this happened to a few people ... I also heard that a vendor stole a bunch of cards... I would NEVER show up without a gift ... it's super rude imo ... I mean it's a big event in your life huge and you also treat them to a night of free alchol and food ... a gift is a must ...

Thanks everyone again!! My husband feels awful because most of his family didn't bring a gift/card and he is really close to his family. I'm okay with it haha so we are gonna try to forget about it and just be grateful for the great time we had and the memories we made at the wedding! I really hope no other brides have to go through this at your upcoming beautiful weddings!!

@NancyD, if a wedding invitation sends shivers up your spine and the first thing you think about is the cost, you can probably just save yourself the time and money and RSVP "no". And maybe send a small gift.

I love giving gifts. However some of this gift giving is getting out of control. The last wedding we went to the couple had "No Gifts Please" printed at the bottom of the invite.

It's typical to receive a registry gift at the shower and a cash gift at the actual wedding. My friends who are married had most guests bring gifts to the wedding, regardless of the shower. I usually gift for both.