So how much did you spend on their wedding gift?

I live in FI's country now, and the usual gift for two friends of the couple is the equivalent of approximately $130.00. Before I moved, and I was attending friends' backyard weddings with my parents, we'd all just go in on a nicer gift from the family.

Also, I'm with the ladies who want to invite the WW community!

They say you should cover the cost of your plate so $100-$150 is the norm...well for upstate NY at least

We typically give $150.00-$200.00 depending on if we have to purchase flights, hotel, pay for our own alcohol, and the setting of the wedding.

Wow I live in michigan and I just got married and I recieved any where from 20 to 100 per card... but I got more gifts then cards and money... and there was like 5 people who attened my wedding that didnt get me a card or a gift????? I know I am going to one of my friends wedding on OCT 12th and I am going to get them a nice gift off their wedding registry and give them $50-100 in their card!

I think it totally depends on several factors: a) realationship with that person (we give more to our friends/family than to co-workers or the like), b) other costs (i.e. is it a destination wedding and you're paying to get there/stay there?), c) where they are in life (i.e. a few years ago, friends of ours had JUST bought a major rehab house a week before the wedding - so instead of a gift from the registry, we got them a $250 Home Depot gift card and slipped some cash into the card with it).

Almost always, we give cash and a small gift that's relevant to their lives

20-40 this depends on so many factors.... For us a 100 is a lot of money even my own kids don't usually get a 100 dollar gift and they are my own kids. However, we don't expect a 100 from others either. I would say most we know give 50 and under to nothing at all... None of which bother me.

Depending on the couple, place etc as a couple we've given 2-300. They've all been semi-formal I guess? And for people we've known for 10yrs. When I've gone alone I've given $100. For a lot of those I wasn't able to attend the shower, but for the showers I've gone to I try to buy off the registry from $50-100 depending on what is available & how well I know the bride.

ETA: this is for NYC & LI

I think it really depends on location! Growing up in NY for the shower I give a gift off the registry, usually costing around $50. At the wedding, I typically give a check for $100 per person attending. But in MD it seems to be many people give gifts for both shower and wedding (and they are definitely less costly).

I am sure a lot of it has to do with the person's situation too.

I'm on Long Island...usually do $50-$75 shower gift depending on my relationship with the person and 100-200pp depending on the same.

WOW - I think in Texas it's much lower for some reason! My friends, family and I typically spend $50 for acquaintances and about $100 for dear friends (whether from a single person or a couple). I always buy off the registry. If I'm going to multiple showers, I'll buy smaller gifts for each shower. I only take a present to the wedding if I didn't attend any showers.

I will also say I just received a gift card for $150 from one of my FH's ex-colleagues. I was floored - seemed like a HUGE gift to me!

I come from a tradition where the thing guests are expected to bring is a casserole or a plate of cookies. For some weddings, my gift to the couple was their marriage certificate (I'm a calligrapher). I'm certainly much more accustomed to a time investment than a monetary one.

My fiance and I joke that we don't understand wedding gifts. Typically, the couple is moving in together and needs to go through and compare whose blender is better, then put one of them on Craigslist or FreeCycle. Divorce showers, on the other hand...well yeah, hard to split one food processor between two houses!

For my bestie's wedding, after airline tickets, the dress, shoes, her lavish bachelorette party and bridal shower, I gave them a nice set of glass bowls that were on sale for $30. I felt guilty for being cheap but we were up till 5AM the morning-of doing centerpieces and bouquets so I could only do so much still feel bad sometimes

Anywhere from $25-$50 either in gifts or just plain cash. That would be for my FH and I together.

I typically spend $25-$50 for shower gifts and about $50 for the wedding. It also depends on how I'm doing financially at the time of the wedding - if possible and I'm close to the person, I'll give more.

In my area, though, prices for catering/venue, etc aren't as high.

Megan, we do the same thing. Shower: 50, Wedding: 100.

It confuses me that some people see a shower gift as a wedding gift...they are two separate events.

I tend to give about $100 - $150

The last wedding I attended I gave $50 but that was a few years ago. Now that we are more financially stable I am pretty sure I would give $150 cash