So annoyed with people!

I hear it tooTorie! They all can just shove it! lol : )

I know how you feel! If you can, just don't even bother discussing wedding stuff with the people who you know are gonna say something stupid/ smart remark ... seriously I can't stand people who open thier mouths before thinking, gotta love the idiotic people. And like YOU'RE not paying for my wedding, so why the F does it concern you?? LMAO ... *sighs* Do whatever YOU want

Oh honey I got the same thing from my Dad last summer.. he was saying there is no point in putting so much money into a day that you will get nothing out of, why don't you just get married in 2 months and be done? My response to him: If you wanna help pay for everything so we can get married in two months then sure we will get married in two months. His response: I'm not putting a dime towards it. My response: Ok then, we will get married next year then (since this all happened last year incase anyone got confused)

My FMIL tells us all the time we should just get married at the court house.

Yeah my grandparents told us we needed to elope last septemeber when we were in hawaii, they are huge christians and were basically asking us to stop living in sin so I understand them saying that, but seriously the activities direrector at work telling me that i shouldn't have a wedding at all because it's too expensive is where i draw the line!!! I have never even discussed anything wedding with her except what flowers bloom in May, because she is like a flower god and knows like everything floral... and that's it that's all I ever said to her that even realted to the wedding... and I don't even think i said I was researching for my wedding... oh yes and she offered to video tape AND photograph my wedding for me because she has a nice camera! WTH?!

Girl I get that on a daily basis. You learn to just shrug and say "We can afford it and it's what we want" and keep it moving.

The worst is when people actually ask how much stuff costs #dies

Question: You know what you could buy with all the money you are spending on the wedding?

Your Answer: A muzzle for you?

@Jessica LOL! That is hilarious. I'll have to use that sometime.

This lady at work keep telling me about all the people she knows that had a big wedding are divorced and she and her husband got married and the courthouse and is the only one still married. She said she got married in her jeans and tennis shoes and did not spend a dime on her wedding. She insist I do the same.....I don't know what is wrong with people.....I know what I can afford to do......I know what I want....

This other lady at work told me her husband just bought her a platinum ring and I should be sure my FH does not get platinum for me because they are too soft and bend easily.....Don't know if it is true or not but it just went through one ear and out the other.....

I can totally relate... My personal favorite lately is FMIL telling us "cousin so-and-so's wedding only cost $3000, why can't yours be that cheap?" BTW we're paying for it ourselves....

AHH, thank's for the "advice (?)" but.... their wedding ceremony and reception was for 60 people at a small restaurant... yah, we're having 200 people... I mean guess I could have it in the street or parking lot and spend $15 per person on food, like tacos or something, and just go naked since I wouldn't be able to afford a dress.

Gah, FMIL drives me crazy...

AMEN to that!!

Yeah...I'm sick of it too! I get to hear it from FH everytime he hears the price of something! My mom even will occasionally chime in on it....GGGRRRRRRrrr! What is so wrong with wanting a REAL wedding anymore?

How annoying! I just LOVE unsolicited opinions, don't you? I've heard it all too.

I totally agree - I waited a long time to get married, I plan to only do it once, and I WILL have the wedding of my dreams since we are the ones paying for it...and no one else.

@ Jessica R. - LOL! A muzzle. How perfect!

The next one that says that come back with

"Your right... and the best way to save money is to cut the guest list...hope you don't mind seeing pictures of the wedding, because I am keeping my photographer."

I agree- it is your wedding and you should do what you want. But it's also a matter of what you can afford. While many people butt in to somewhere they don't belong- many have valid points.

I'm not singling anyone out- or pointing to the original poster at all...

However, I have seen brides who work $8/hr jobs who are planning $20K weddings. I have seen women in their 30s compeltely drain their retirement accounts to have a huge wedding.

There is nothing wrong with having a wedding, just be reasonable in your expenses and make sure you aren't sacrificing your lifestyle for one day. Weddings come and go, but the marriage is forever. Make THAT the priority! Keep the wedding expenses reasonable. You can still have a beautiful dream wedding and not spend a fortune!

So true, Meghan. I'm glad I have realistic dreams. Cash is king! We joke that we're doing classy on a budget, or is that an oxymoron?!

I am actually getting this from my mom a bit. She does have Alzheimer's so she doesn't remember how much things cost when I got married the first time. When she went with me dress shopping, she just kept making faces everytime the sales woman would tell me how much a dress cost. Mom doesn't realize I am doing this wedding on a smaller budget than the one I had 13 years ago!!

Then I was showing her photographer websites and their portfolios and she was making faces at their package prices. I finally said to her that she didn't have to pay for a darn thing that FH's mother was going to help us out and the rest we would pay for. Then I think she felt guilty and told me to buy my wedding dress online with her money! LOL.

It is no one's business but your own, I know this is easier said than done, but try not to let the naysayers bug you.

I am not going to list names on which person stated this (incase they come on WW and read) lol but I actually had family members tell us to go to the "99 cent store" to get our favors and our wedding needs...I really get frustrated hearing people make comments because I am paying for most the wedding myself and just like you Torie, it seems like everyone has to argue anything I want for my wedding! Including Fh at times..its frustrating...

I just told FH yesterday that I wanted to get "jars" for our wedding and he goes "we shouldnt get them yet that should be the LAST thing on our list"..why is it so difficult sometimes! ugh.

I kind of know how you feel. My husbands host mother of 10 years made a huge deal also about our wedding and how she thought it was not really necessary for us to have such a nice ceremony and reception. She threw a wedding for the daughter of a family friend and it was a total reflection of her values and not the bride or grooms. For the reception she got a 2 large party subs from subway, chips, soda, and paper plates. To her what is important is that "people are fed. if we run out of food we will order pizzas if need be". During and after my wedding she made comment after comment about how expensive everything looked and what a waste that was in this economy, and how she would have been happy with hot dogs and burgers on the grill. I was very insulted. But I let it roll off of my back. Now I have something beautiful and special that I can look back on for the rest of my life. Don't let it get to you. It helps to go punch a punching bag or scream into a pillow. I do all the time.

Wow. Just ignore them. I mean I still hear things like that and I am getting married next friday. I am finally to the point where I am ready to tell people to 'STFU', but nicer of course. Its just how I feel.

I get the 'you have two kids you can't afford to look nice on your wedding day' 'why aren't you getting alcohol and having a more formal reception if you can just waste money to get married' 'its just a waste of money for one day for everyone else', etc.

I have only...ONLY...listened to the last one and then re-evaluated the people I was inviting when I was planning a big wedding. There are a lot of people in both families against interracial relationships, more his family than mine, and they wanted me to pay for them to eat and drink? No. So my FH and I mutually decided 'to hell with them' and are getting married in a park with two witnesses. They complained more about not being there and we told them 'we are having a dutch reception'. Come if you want.

just ignore them.