siblings getting married in the same year

We have a friend that got married on April 15th. Her brother is getting married on July 15th. I'm pretty sure her brother was engaged first. They didn't care. As a contrast, a friend being the older brother was bothered by his younger brother getting married first, but he still didn't throw a fit. Cultural differences perhaps, but I think they're overreacting. Are your weddings far away from each other? Will guests have to choose between the two weddings due to cost of travel/gifts? Our friend's wedding was smaller because they knew that most of the family would be traveling back east for the brother's wedding. If this is the case for yours I could understand them being upset otherwise it doesn't make any sense.

You get one day and they get one day. Sounds like they are overreacting and almost a little bitter? It's pretty crappy and petty that they felt so compelled to kick out your FH from their bridal party. Are they younger than you? This sounds a bit like a maturity issue.

I made sure my wedding was 9 months away from my fh's brother's wedding to lessen the concern for his parents in terms of money they will be spending. I felt there needed to be a gap to give them room to breathe also stress wise. That is why I am doing a winter wedding as opposed to spring.

That's lame, I'm sorry

As long as the weddings are not on the same weekend, I don't see a problem.

You are fine. Families can be full of drama and can be stressful. They are over reacting.

I suggest you get your sibling a bottle of "Maturity Pills" for a wedding gift. Sounds like he/she needs them.

This just happened to me too last night!

My older sister got engaged in march and they set a date of 6/30/18. She also already put a deposit down for a house for her bachelorette party 5/5/18.

My fiancé and I got engaged this past June and we thought about possibly having ours 7/20/18.

My sister immediately got defensive saying I need to respect her planning process and that I was planning our wedding to close to hers. But when I said we might have it earlier like April possibly she was upset it would be before hers.

I am glad to read the comments on here, because it's exactly what my fiancé told me, it's about us and our day and no one can take that away from us.

I hope you feel better after reading this too, and don't worry about the drama it will pass and everything will work out.

This just happened to me too last night!

My older sister got engaged in march, and My fiancé and I got engaged this past June .my sister set a date of 6/30/18. For her wedding. She also already put a deposit down for a house for her bachelorette party 5/5/18. But when I said we might have ours earlier like April 2018 possibly she was upset it would be before hers. so we were already struggling picking a date.

My sister immediately got defensive saying I need to respect her planning process and that I was planning our wedding to close to hers.

I am glad to read the comments on here, because it's exactly what my fiancé told me, it's about us and our day and no one can take that away from us.

I hope you feel better after reading this too, and don't worry about the drama, it will pass and everything will work out.

My fiancée and I planned ours and told the family and then a few weeks later were told by my brother they were also getting married the same year and just a few months before. My brother was already engaged for years with no talk of a wedding ever🤷‍♀️ Now that’s wrong

They chose that time first and it may interfere with who can come to their wedding? Many people/guests aren't prepared to travel multiple times in a month nor have the finances to. That's my best guess. That's why it would be upsetting.

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Since you are still in the planning process you can still move your date. I would be respectful else you might cause resentment to grow. Think about moving your date or at least let them know you've considered alternative dates.

My brother decided to get married 9 weeks before me. I had picked my date before and my engagement is longer.

I expected that they would get married before me, but 9 weeks stings a little. I'm not being nearly as hard about it as it seems your family is, but truth be told, I am a bit irritated. I keep getting asked if we are doing a conjoined wedding. (Absolutely not) it makes me feel like the excitement about my wedding has died out. My mom continously speaks about "her 2 brides" and it honestly kind of hurts me. My biggest issue is money. My FH and I wanted a longer engagement so we could pay for our wedding as much as possible on our own. My brother rushed it and expects my parents to pay for their extravagant wedding. I feel like they are going to go overboard and my parents will dip in to what they had expressed they were going to give us to help them.

Sorry, i know this is long and doesnt Match with every other poster. I know in going to gave a great day no matter what, but the entire engagement experience got cut short because they decided to rush their wedding to make it before mine. I agree, your family isnt handling it well, but i do kind of understand their feelings.