siblings getting married in the same year

You all get one day and they get one day! What in the hell is the issue?

They're being ridiculous. You each get ONE day. You can schedule your wedding whenever you damn well please - I think the only thing I would suggest is not having it the same weekend, because that would be hella hectic for everyone.

No, they are being a spoiled brat. They get one day, you get one day. Especially since your weddings are separated by a couple months they need to let it go and start acting like and adult.

I think that was a HUGE overreaction on their part. I can understand emotionally feeling a little sting from the "we got engaged first, we should get married first" mentality (not saying it's right, but humans are emotional creatures), but there was NO need to kick your FH out of the wedding party, get your FMIL involved, or have an angry phone call. You each get your day. Based on the information you've provided, IMO you haven't done anything wrong.

ETA: To answer your initial question: How close is too close? The same day. You've picked a completely different month, you're fine.

Why does it matter. As others said, you get one day. 2-3 months apart should be no problem.

ETA: Send her here. :o)

Sorry, but they're really putting the "dic" in ridiculous. They get one day, you get one day. They need to chill out.

We have a sibling that was engaged first *Your fh has a sibling, is this correct?

I don't want to wait until after their wedding because planning causes me so much anxiety. I want it to be over. *Then why not plan something less anxious causing and sooner?

Did I really do something wrong? *Not really but people do get their mudandi in a bunch over things like this--just do a search!

I feel like it is not a big deal to get married first but apparently it is to them. *What do you and fh want to do?

LOL are you the sister of the poster that was on here a couple of days ago bitching that her sister is getting married first?! Lordy!

I'm sorry, they are acting this way. You go have your wedding whenever you want!!

Jay - LOL!!

Wow, people are ridiculous. I lost my brother 3 years ago, I would give ANYTHING to be able to plan a wedding at the same time as him. I hate when people turn what could be an amazing bonding experience into WW3! I'm so sorry you're being treated like this OP.

They kicked him out of the wedding? They're not dramatic at all.

They get ONE day. You get ONE day.

Keep planning your wedding for the day you want. You've done nothing wrong.

Keep planning your wedding! Tell them to get the fuck over it!

You didn't do anything wrong.

My brother and I are getting married 3 months apart. I got engaged almost a year before he proposed to his FW. I don't have an issue with it. I think they are being unreasonable and immature.

I can see this being a problem if you have a similar guest list and most mutual guests would be out of towners. Otherwise they are overreacting. Do you.

We essentially did the same thing. My brother was engaged about four months before us. During those four months they went back and forth between DW, eloping or a big celebration. When we got engaged we knew we had to be married in the summer because of jobs, we found a venue that had a date we wanted avail and booked it. We asked if that was okay, because at that point they were thinking of getting married in a few months on a tropical island this past winter. They decided a few months later that they wanted a big wedding too and booked theirs for September. I think for a small moment there was tension, but they got over it and we (my FSIL and I) are super laid back and aren't making either wedding a big to do. So we're doing July and September. My FH sister is getting married in December (she also had a long engagement and she C didn't care we got married this summer, his mom however I think was disappointed for a bit) so we've got quite the year!

My only 2 questions would be 1. if parents are contributing to both? This may be a cause of stress and 2. if there will be a lot of OOT guests who would then have to plan 2 trips

If the answer to both is no, then they are completely overreacting and need to get over themselves.

We have about 1/3 overlap on guests. They are getting married 30 minutes from home (where most of them live) and We would get married an hour from where most of them live.

Also we asked for no money from his family and were planning on having a budget from my family only.

Our original date was Oct. 2017 but we were told by everyone else that is to soon. After I talked with FSIL she said being married before her would steal her thunder.

I think they are seriously over reacting , however I can understand why they may be upset considering they have been engaged way longer and your wedding date is before theirs. But that isn't your fault they waited so long to get married and I don't think you should move your wedding date back any further to appease them, they are adults and need to get over it.

I am friends with two sisters who have weddings a month apart from each other. The older one was engaged first, and is getting married in July. The younger one (by three years) was engaged for only 6 months and has been dating for a less amount of time than her sister got married last week. Everyone in that family was completely fine with it, and was happy for both of them.

2 or 3 months is not that big of a deal. Your FSIL needs to get over it. At least you didn't pick the same month, or like one poster on here's sibling, the day before.

That was a huge over reaction on their part. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

A side note, something similar happened to me. We set our date, announced it, put deposits down on the venue and caterer and several other things, only to find out a month later that a close family member just got engaged (good for them) but then decided to book the weekend before us. This already caused conflict between members of our families, but eventually, it went away and won't be a big deal. We all get one day! And your day won't be any less beautiful due to anything someone else is doing.

Everyone needs to take a step back and realize this is a celebration and not a battle. I really hope y'all find peace and are able to put aside differences!