siblings getting married in the same year

She said you'd be stealing her thunder?

Suddenly, I'm having deja vu...

My brother is getting married 3 months after me. Not an issue.

@Gymmie- wouldn't that be ironic. LOL

One of my best friends got married 6 weeks after her sister. Their engagements were within months of each other. They had family that lived cross country. They sent a letter to these families saying that they don't need to feel pressured to attend both or any weddings. They know its hard to travel so if you can only go to one, that's cool. They loved planning their weddings together. They were completely different (one at a mansion close to home, one at a beach 5 hours away) so they were still both unique days.

I'm sorry your relatives can't be more understanding. You can't put your life on hold for them. You did nothing wrong.

That's a huge overreaction

They're being silly. My older brother gets married just two months before me. It doesn't matter.

Not to play devil's advocate.. but as others have said if you are inviting a large amount of the same people (overlapping friends/family) it may be a bit of a financial constraint on those guests. If that's not the case then WHATEVER. Either way, huge overreaction on their part definitely not something to throw a tantrum over.

You did nothing wrong. They get a day and you get a day. As long as you didn't pick the same day or the week directly before or after, which you did not, it should be fine.

Wow, that's a crazy reaction on their part. My sister is getting married same year and around the same time... non-issue. I'm sorry they treated you and FH that way. Hopefully they will cool off and realize that they flew off the handle.

This is ridiculous. Everyone gets one day! You plan your day and they have theirs. There isn't a set time frame on how far apart they should be. My FSIL is getting married in august and we are getring married in Oct. My FMIL is so excited that two of her kids are getting married in the same year!

Can someone link to to the post? I will check it out. I honestly don't know if she uses WW or not. I have not been involved at all in her planning.

That's ridiculous. We are in the similar boat, but flipside. We got engaged and planned two years out, and my fiance's sister got engaged last weekend. They haven't picked a date yet, but chances are, it might be close to ours. They are both in our wedding. We don't care, we're just happy for them! They only issue I could see was mentioned already, in that if you have a lot of OOO, travel should be thought about but otherwise...you get one day. They should be happy for you!

ETA: I am so excited to look through bridal magazines and share stuff with my FSIL/bridesmaid. I bought her a bunch right away.

That is a crazy family situation. When my brother and his fiancée thought about getting married earlier this year I asked him if he wanted to have a double wedding. But he's my little brother and I love him with all my heart and soul.

The other post was yesterday and the title was "frustrated" I believe.. the one sister was getting married 9/21/2018 and the other 5/26/2018 I believe. But the one getting married in May had been engaged for 7 years. Sound familiar?

Haha, I joked about a double wedding before either of us were engaged and she said "haha, hell no, I am not sharing my day with anyone. It is my day." Should have known then something like this would happen.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/frustrated/a90b55bbc3f4d703.html

On a side note I love this thread! haha

Not the same family. We just got engaged, last month. But we have been together longer than FBIL and FSIL.

I understand some initial disappointment over hearing that a sibling who got engaged after you wants to get married first. I imagine the sibling and his fiancee were hoping all of the focus of the two families and their wedding party members would be on them and their day, and now they feel you've divided people's attentions. But you sit down and have an adult conversation about it. You don't kick people out of the wedding party or try to get parents to take sides.

Unless everyone is having to travel long distances for both weddings or the families were going to be super involved in the planning of both weddings, I'm not sure why it matters. My brother and sister got married within 3 months of each other (him in October, her in January, so in the midst of the holidays, no less), and no one died.

My brothers new wife had a similar thing. They got engaged in October 2015, planned their wedding for May 2017. I got engaged in August 2016, and was told I had to wait until 2018 to get married. I have never wanted a long engagement, and I felt very frustrated. There was a lot of angry talk from my now sister. And she threatened similar things.

We ended up choosing the 2018 date because my parents are helping us financially with the wedding. They asked that we wait until another calendar year for fiscal reasons.

It ended up working out but it's very frustrating. At the end of the day though, we'll be together forever. So what's another year of waiting to tie the knot?

I had this experience and I can say that it sucks! It pits family members against one another. We had 2 family (siblings) weddings this year March and May (ours). Originally, their date was in the fall, so we opted for spring to give some decent time in between. After setting our May date, they changed their's to March and a destination wedding to boot. It caused a lot of drama. The family was upset because it placed a huge financial strain on everyone, considering our bridal parties were made up of almost the exact same people, and we know that participating in a wedding isn't cheap!

I tried to stay out of it, I agree that everyone gets one day. But family members were the ones most impacted. Eventually, the other wedding fell through for other unrelated reasons. It caused such a rift, that my husbands own sister refused to be part of our wedding party. It sucks and I'm sorry you are going through this too!

Are you serious? They need to get over it.

I agree- send her here

They need to get over it. The only way my siblings would have an issue is if we got married in the same month - only because most people have to travel on our side.

If very few people have to travel, you're fine, especially with 3 months in between.

Do what you and FH want.