siblings getting married in the same year

So according to their logic they basically "own" the two years from the time they got engaged to the time they get married and everyone else must put their lives on hold? I'm sorry their insane, and you've done nothing wrong, but obviously they won't see it that way so if you have interest in keeping the peace I would push your wedding out until November or something :/ sorry op.

Oh boy... why can't they see this could be a bonding experience?!... as I said in the "frustrated" post, MOH's wedding is a month before mine (she's like a sister), and it's been SO amazing to be able to experience all of this with her, looking for both, wedding and MOH dresses (we're each other's MOH), planning, etc.

AND... I just remembered, my mom's wedding was THE DAY BEFORE her brother's wedding... she even offered my aunt (uncle's wife) if she wanted to do a doble wedding. Of course all of the shared guests were local

Tell them to build a bridge and get the fuck over it. You did nothing wrong. There is no such things as thunder stealing. Sheesh, what is it about weddings that make people act like this?

I'll never understand this. One of my BMs got married 3 months after her sister and they got all these discounts for using the same vendors- it was awesome. They also shared a veil because neither wanted to spend a ton so they found something they both liked haha

Honestly I can relate. My friend got engaged after me and got married last weekend. Our weddings are two months apart. We have a lot of mutual friends and a lot of people were annoyed of how close our weddings are.

I mean they are going to two bridal showers, bachelorette, and weddings. Taking the time off and spending that money to buy gifts and do all those things really annoyed them. I mean shit everyone had a busy summer because of it!

Not going to lie I was annoyed too. I got engaged first and have been with my dude wayyyyy longer than them. So I felt (at first) they were trying to steal my thunder having their wedding first but now I feel like I was just being a brat! At least I'll admit that haha.

When your siblings and cousins start to get to a certain age, this sort of thing is going to happen. A lot.

My brother got engaged Feb 2015 and picked a May 2017 wedding date. I got engaged December 2015. We would have liked to have our wedding in 2017, but we knew my parents were going to be helping out so I thought itd be easier on them to have more of a gap. We ended up picking Sept. 2018. It ended up working out because I'll be done with grad school and we want to move closer home to our families in the meantime.

However, since we've been engaged we've had 4 cousins between the two of us get engaged and set their dates before ours. No big, as long as its not on the same weekend

Plus, I get to see how my brothers and cousins wedding go and get a lot of ideas of what to do and what not to do. Also, we ended up booking my brother's photographer because we thought he did a great job at their wedding.

My brother is getting married this November so we have a decent amount of time between weddings but it's been awesome having my FSIL as a resource for advice and suggestions and I highly doubt she would've had issue if we had gotten married before them. Depends on the personality.

My brother is getting married Aug of this year and we are getting married July of next. My brother was engaged about 8 months before us and the date/place has changed a few times but I decided to put it off til next year so as not to stress out my parents and my family. My parents are not contributing significantly to either wedding but there is still the showers/rehearsals/attires and we have several out of town family members that want to be at both. It sounds like there just needs to be an adult sit down with an honest and open conversation to get to the bottom of everything.

That's ridiculous. My older brother got engaged in August of 2015, we got engaged in June of 2016. FH and I get married in two weeks and my brother gets married in October. We each get our day and that's it.

Yup, you each get one day and they're being ridiculous. I could understand being upset if you were in the same month, as that could be hard for common guests, but you're 3 months apart!

That sounds like a massive amount of unnecessary drama. My brother is getting married in December and people keep asking me "If I'm okay with it?" So weird. Would I have been mad if he'd picked the same damn weekend, yes. But other than that, WHO CARES?

They are being completely ridiculous. It's so selfish to expect you guys to wait until after their wedding... it's 3 MONTHS apart, that's more than enough time between.

Last year I went to a wedding where the brother got married the week after his sister

What weenies!!!

You said there isn't a big overlap in guest lists, and you aren't having your parents help fund.. so they need to get the HECK over it!

My brother is getting married in Oct. We checked in to see what their plans were before paying a deposit for a July date for reasons PP have mentioned about who was invited, financial strain on parents or OOT guests. It is ridiculous to behave that way (kick your FH out of the wedding party) - it sounds like you need to have a heart to heart about what is really going on here.

You must be the sister of the young lady that posted on here yesterday I think, because she used those same words. Basically everyone, told her she was in the wrong on this one. Honestly, I don't think it matters, your wedding you pick a day you want! Don't let anyone tell you different!

BIL and FH and my wedding are 6 months a part. BIL and his wife have been together for 8 years. FH and I have been together 3...

I'm in agreement with everybody else, it isn't like you stole their date. You're not in the wrong and I'm hoping this isn't a sneak peek of what you'll be dealing with in the future with them

If they planned a 2 year engagement that's really not on you...you cannot delay your life for them.

ETA: My brother and his FW got engaged about 5 months after us and are tentatively getting married about 5-6 months after us. I could have chosen to be weird about "sharing the spotlight" but instead I am embracing it because I realize that it is SO FUN to enjoy this process with people that I love.

Not a sibling story but a cousin one. FH and I got engaged September 2015 and get married in 5 weeks (eeeeek!). His cousin (who is just awesome) and her FH got engaged back in October 2016. They picked a June 2018 wedding, and they said it's because they didn't want to make people travel that much for two weddings back to back. We never asked them to do that, and they absolutely didn't have to. They just wanted everyone to enjoy both weddings with no stress. It was more than kind and it was nice to know how much we all mean to each other. You, like FH cousin were being more than considerate of your siblings and have nothing to feel bad about. They need to get over themselves. You put more than enough time in between the weddings.