siblings getting married in the same year

2-3 months is fine! Is FH's sibling older? I know people were really upset with me for getting engaged/married before my sister even though my sister has no interest in getting married anytime soon... lol. In the older days, older siblings were supposed to marry before their younger siblings. So dumb.

Between me, my brother, and our two cousins there will be 4 weddings within 10 months.. no one complained or threw any hissy fits, they're being dramatic.

UO but I don't agree with 'you only get one day'. When planning a wedding near another family member's date, you may want to keep them 2 wks apart to allow the 1st couple to honeymoon n return in time for the 2nd wedding. Also, need to consider the OOT guests n vaca days n travel expense.

In OPs case...I think having the wedding a few months apart is totally acceptable n sis needs to deal.

@ambrok. Agreed. You should give your family members time to go on a honeymoon after the wedding if that's when they want to do it.

As far as being 1st..it's months apart n guests aren't going to be comparing...it's not a contest or like you picked the weekend before their date. Hope all simmers down n gets worked out.

My sister is getting married 3 months after me and it's not an issue to us. We each get a day and we have zero mutual friends, so it's not like anyone is picking one wedding over the other (she lives halfway across the country).

I just don't understand why people get so upset over this? You each get a day, who cares if it's the same year? As a guest, that means 2 celebrations in one year, so score!

My sisters got married 2 weeks apart in 2 different continents. Those that could make both weddings went to both, others didn't. It wasn't a big deal whatsoever and nobody's "thunder" was stolen.

We were engaged since 2013 n had our date picked for 3yrs when we found out that my brother was getting married the week after us. I called him up that night n it sounded like he didn't know our date or forget it. How have things worked out since?

1) I was like WTH! I really wanted a family pic at our wedding n wasn't sure how our OOS brother would make both weddings. I called OOS bro n he probably can't make either but since he already planned on a week vacation here in July, we are doing a family pic then instead.

2) I really, really, really wanted to go straight on a honeymoon. As we were planning it, we found out that we couldn't afford a long one n would be back in time for their wedding anyway. Around the same time, they found out they needed to postpone so it would have been a mute point anyway.

3) Even if their wedding date stuck, we are having different styles so it won't have been too weird/no comparison....both beautiful.

4) The thing that sucked was we were waiting on our epics to be returned so we could send out STDs, when their engagement n date was posted on FB. We went with our original plan n send them out...just happened to be the follow week or two n we probably looked like asses to those that didn't original know our date (was never a secret but not announced either...everyone did know we were engaged forever though).

Getting engaged does not entitle people to multiple years of everyone's undivided attention. FH and I were together over 5 years before we got engaged, and have been to weddings where people met and got married before we were ever engaged. We are doing a short engagement (7 months) but I wouldn't care at all if someone else got engaged today and married before us. Life had enough real stuff to stress about without constantly comparing relationship timelines with others! And when you have long relationships and/or long engagements you have to expect that a lot of people will move at a faster pace.

They are out of control for acting in this manner. Myself and two cousins are getting married this year. One wedding is 6/16 in Missouri, the next is 10/28 in California, and mine of course is 11/19 in Ohio. No one has made any complaints so far. You can't take away someone the thunder for someone else's wedding day unless you do something crazy like randomly get engaged at they're wedding. If you like your date, just keep and continue to plan it.

My reaction before reading anything, is that your family is going to have an exciting 2018! That should be embraced and celebrated.

ETA: You are not in the wrong. Every bride gets one day. Everyone else is being ridiculous. You and your FH should be able to pick out your own day, month and year and be happy about your choice without fear of upsetting others. They are being dramatic and silly, don't entertain them.

They're being fucking ridiculous. We got engaged the same weekend as FSIL, and are getting married within 4 months.

Other than not choosing the same exact day, the only consideration you really need to give is if family needs to spend a lot of money and travel, leave a decent amount of time in between, and by decent I mean a couple of weeks to a month.

It sounds like the sibling is pissed that they've been planning longer but you'll get married first, which is a ridiculous thing to be mad about.

They can't dictate you have a long engagement just because they did.

Hopefully they'll come to their senses and act like adults, but even if they don't you didn't do anything wrong.

FSIL and her FMIL need to take a seat. They're both being 'Zillas. Personally, I would set the date that I want and refuse to discuss it further. Next thing you know if children are in the cards, you'll have to schedule that around FSIL also! Don't set a precedent of giving in to her tantrums.

Kicking someone out of a wedding for something like this is overly dramatic and sad. But I can understand why there is tension. FH's sister got engaged two months after us and we had some drama trying to figure out dates. It didn't help that she immediately suggested a double wedding, which I was not okay with.

Ultimately, I didn't care who went first so they got married in April and we are getting married in August. Everything is fine. It's a little less than 100 percent ideal because there are so many international guests on FH's side and not all of them were able to come to her wedding because it was during the school year and because of the proximity of the weddings. More of them are coming to ours. But she made her peace with it and got to have a cheaper wedding because of the smaller guest list, which meant for a crazy extravagant honeymoon at a time that worked for their schedules. Because she got married in April in Seattle, she also didn't have to deal with the heat issue, which is currently my biggest source of anxiety. It's also been a bit hard on FFIL because he's living in Shanghai right now and has to make two trips to the States in 4 months, which is normally not something he would do. But like I said, everything is ultimately fine.

We also have quite different wedding styles (ours is a bit more traditional and romantic, while hers was modern and kind of silly, with goofy choreographed dances and cake toppers and stuff) so that helps. And from a purely selfish standpoint, it has been quite helpful for me because I got to see how FH's family reacted to various things (hearing them complain about the wine selection helped me convince FH to get nicer wine ). Since I helped her a lot in the days leading up to the event, I got to see what stressed her out and devise plans to avoid certain pitfalls.

Overall, having her wedding happen before ours has been a good experience. It's not a 100 percent perfect situation, but it is what it is and there have also been some advantages to it, for both of us.

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They get one day. Tell them to get over it

To play devils advocate, it is a huge strain financially to have mutual guests travel twice in a short time period.

This happened to us and the other couple let people know after ours. They turned out to be devastated about how few could make theirs bc they committed to ours

Yours is hard bc you're first so they're fear is that people probably won't come to theirs bc they'll commit to yours first so it was an overreaction but I imagine it has some legitimacy.

Perhaps if you agree to let them send their save the dates out first that might ease the tension

You didn't pick their day, so what's the problem??? People need to grow up!

One of my best friends got engaged well before her FBIL & FSIL and the FBIL & SIL got married 3 months before them. It was never a problem, all things were planned around each other and neither was angry with each other. I think its a very rash decision to kick your FH out of their bridal party & there is no reason that you should not stick with your date seeing as how its months apart and they are separate weddings. They are overreacting and it probably has something to do with "well now the spot light isn't on us anymore".

Good luck!

Wow that's pretty harsh. But as everyone said, you get a day and so do they. They are being crazy. Send them here to rant about how they feel. We will help set them straight

I don't think you did anything wrong because they waited a long time from their engagement to their wedding date. I personally would be a little annoyed if my brother decided to get married two months before me, but I picked a wedding date exactly a year after my engagement.