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Dedicated September 2015

Showers/Jack and Jills

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Delia, on May 14, 2015 at 1:47 PM

Being on the younger side of things, a lot of my friends are still away at grad school or just starting careers, a few even finishing up their undergrads. Since I'm not much different, I understand that nobody wants to keep dishing out money for an invite they were invited to, rather than asked for. FH has an established career, as do many of his friends, so he's completely ok selling stag tickets, or a Jack and Jill, or whatever we decide to do. But I just don't feel right about it. I remember being in college and getting invited to a couple's Jack and Jill and being really annoyed about it. They were in their forties, owned two homes, had good careers, and one had two kids. It really bothered me that they were looking for money from 18-year-olds to pay for their wedding when they didn't really need the money. I don't want to put my friends in that position. I'd rather just throw myself an engagement party and tell them to BYOB or something. But am I totally wrong here?

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Celia Milton · on May 14, 2015 at 9:03 PM
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That post on wedding bee made me literally want to hurl. I'm sorry, when you include a sentence like, "There are several income streams for the event" in a wedding related article...."

If that's a regional thing, I am very, very much more happier to be from here.
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Keeping Up with the Jones · on May 14, 2015 at 9:07 PM
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I guess I went to a Jack and Jill party once. They disguised it as a 'joint bridal/engagement party' except the bride went on to have two more parties in her honor. She got so many duplicates from her already lavish registries that she was selling stuff on facebook groups a few weeks after the wedding.

Don't be her.

It was solely a ploy to get more gifts and money. I'm sure they netted well over 10k in stuff between all their events. And their wedding wasn't even that nice.
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MissShandi · on May 14, 2015 at 9:13 PM
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I've never heard of this exact thing. BUT... a few days ago, a girl I barelyyyy know at work invited me to her bachelorette weekend at an all adult summer camp. The catch? I had to pay $460. Umm noooooo way. I just think that's so stupid. When I threw a bachelorette for my MOH, everybody pitched in to rent a big house but it was like $40 a person - totally affordable.

ET - it turned my barelyyy into braille. Lol.
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