should she give the ring back??

Yes, if she's the one whom isn't ready than yes she should give it back..Hope this helps!!!

I agree rinker...thx. shes being to unfair and selfish.

The ring is a symbol of the promise to marry. If she is breaking that promise, then she needs to return the ring. If he is breaking that promise, she can keep the ring, but should not continue to wear it. Same goes with wedding bands (except I don't think you're supposed to return wedding bands in the event of divorce - but definitely don't keep wearing them!)

The engagement ring is a symbol of a committment/promise to wed the person who gave it to you. If she is no longer going to marry him, then she needs to return the ring.

Now, if they were married and either one wanted to end the marriage, I don't believe any rings are returned, as the "promise" was fulfilled with the wedding.

Aside from the moral and personal issues....speaking strictly legally she is required to give the ring back. The ring is give with the promise of marriage....if that contract of marriage is never fulfilled and is canceled on HER part then she is no longer entitled to the ring, or gift of proposal. It only fully belongs to her when she fulfills her part of the bargain in agreeing to marry him. I actually read an entire article about court cases based on this. I do think she should offer to give the ring back, but aside from my personal beliefs he could in fact legally sue her for the ring and rightfully the court would rule in his favor, making her return the ring to him

She should give it back. I have a friend of mine who was getting married and then his fiance decided not to go through with it and she doesn't want to give the ring back. I feel bad for him because engagement rings aren't cheap. If she doesn't give it back I think they are considering going to small claims court about it. I feel it's only proper to keep an engagement ring if it was given as a gift such as a birthday gift or christmas present.

Etiquette books say to give the ring back, even if the guy ends it.

You said she isnt ready to get married and still wants to be with him. Is she feeling rushed and Just wants to hold off on the wedding for a bit? If this is the case, I say go into the let down easily making sure he knows she still wants to get married but wants to give it some time. If she has NO intention at ALL of ever getting married to him, she MUST give the ring back.

It depends, I agree if she is just saying that she want's to get married but she just want't to wait for a little while then no, as long as she still plans to marry him then she can keep it. However, if she is never planning to marry him then yes, she needs to give it back and be fair to her man. Good luck

ABSOLUTELY she must give it back, no question. Accepting that ring she made a promise to marry him, by now deciding not to she has broken that promise and must return it. Had he broken the engagement then she could keep the ring.

I have the engagment ring my ex gave me and I never gave it back but of course it was bought from walmart for only $200 but after we split he didn't want it back. But your cousin should give the ring back because I'm sure her ring cost alot..

The rule is if you call off the wedding the ring goes back if he calls it off you get to keep it

She should give it back and if they continue a relationship and the topic of marriage comes up at some point down the line, maybe or maybe not, he will give her the same ring back

I agree with CelticChick. If the promise to marry still stands she can keep the ring, but if not she has to give it back.

If she just wants to push back the wedding date and still intends to marry him, then she can hang on to the ring as long as they agree on when the will get married and she follows through with it. If she has no intention to marry him at all or fails to follow through with her promise to marry him, then she needs to give the ring back.

Well in that case of the cold feet, she can just explain maybe to him she is not ready but we can just postpone the wedding. she then still date him without the pressure of a wedding Until they fully end it. She then needs to return the ring. (wedding bands after divorce, NO they can be melted down and the diamond can be easy made into that new item or splt) in my case I just mailed it off to Nigeria.

I AGREE WITH CELTICGIRL!!!

She should definitely give back the ring if she truly does not think she is going to marry him at all. Just on top of what pps said. Even if he had been the one to break of the engagement, she would have to give the ring back. Believe it or not, this is actually a topic we had covered in my Family Law class in law school. I know it stinks, but a lot of laws dont seem fair. On a different note, I am sorry that your friend is going through a tough time, being torn like this is not easy. I hope everything works out for the best.

If she is ending it YES! Him... HECK NO!

Yes, she should give it back.