Sex before marriage?

Oh hell, my FH would burst at the seams. I would be a miserable bitch(not that I am not one already ). I am 50 and he is 63. Going more than a week makes us both miserable. We have been together for 8 years. Abstaining would not make us closer, it would make our wedding night short and sweet...if you know what I mean.

Imho...There are two kinds of sex....one is making passionate love, and the other is downright f..king. My FH is my soul mate. We have had both kinds of sex throughout the relationship, and would never consider giving up one of the many ways of expressing our love for one another.

I think it is awesome those of you who saved yourself, and those of you "taking a break". Good luck and God Bless.

@2D....LMAO....Don't you just hate sharing hte bed with the dog. Thanks for my chuckle of the day.

We met with the church this past week and the deacon said, if you guys are having sex, then you need to stop now ... because it is completely inappropriate, abstinence will make the heart go stronger ... ummm okay first off it is so not your business if we are doing it ... and hello FS and I will be together 5 years at the end of this month! So honestly, I don't think it'll happen ... I'm sure the 2-3 weeks prior to the wedding we won't do it just because I'll be so stressed out like I was this past week and only want to sleep, eat salads and constantly meet with vendors ... LOL Don't get me wrong it'd be nice if we could just STOP doing it a few months prior to the wedding but honestly I am pretty sure I wouldn't be able to do that ...

My FH and I are waiting to have sex on our wedding night. It will be the first time ever for me. I'm really excited, and it makes the anticipation and excitement of the night that much more. We chose to do it because we believe that the Bible says to wait. That is NOT to say it's been easy! We have been engaged for 8 months, and were together for a year before that. There are temptations obviously, but I know that when I can give myself to him as pure and whole on our wedding night it will be worth it. It gets me through...that and we only have 2 months left!!!

I could not and would not do that. I already have two children (one not by FH) who are four and soon to be three. I couldn't have sex that much while pregnant. Then I had to wait and heal afterwards...there is no way on earth I am abstaining before my wedding. Having sex isn't going to change the way we love each other or anything. Its just another expression of love and for me personally...one I am glad I experienced with him before the wedding. So many people seem to get divorces from the little things like not being able to deal with how they live (if they aren't living with them beforehand) to not being compatible in the bedroom. I prefer to know what I am fully getting myself into when getting married.

Thats just me though. If you can do it and you actually want to do it, then go for it. More power to the people who can.

I fully support those who want to do this, however in my mind I can't help but think "Whats the Point" I'm already going to be super stressed over wedding planning...add in sexual tension & I will be a bridezilla from hell! Lol I plan on keep us on the same track we are now, but no I am not going to cut him (or myself!!!) off prior to the wedding! We've been dating for 4 years so no need to go back in time haha

DH and I waited until we were married. Neither of us were virgins coming into our relationship we both had a past. But our wedding night was wonderful. Like another poster said it wasn"t just about the sex it was about the connection and spiritual thing. DH and I are devoted to God and our love for Him. It was hard for us at times but it was so worth it.

DH and I waited to have sex until we were married so that was a first time experience. I dont think having sex before marriage and then waiting months to have sex again until the wedding night will create a "first time" experience, thats just my opinion. However, i think its sweet that you guys talked about not having sex until then.

Wow ....i'm happy to see that I have company in absolute abstinance before marriage. I thiink its possible/ doable once you haven't started. The only thing I'm worried about is a bit of awkwardness on the wedding night....LOL

Ms. G-sex for the first time whether it's THE FIRST TIME or just the first time with that person can be a little awkward. Just remember to communicate and it's ok to stop and laugh if something goes a little goofy. After 3 years with my FH we still have our awkward moments and I am sure there are many more years of those moments to come!