Sex before marriage?

Same here I have joked with him and his serious look says it all no way! But then when I told him i was just kidding he then said, but of course baby I would do that for you if that's what you want. LOL Whatever! But definately the night before the wedding I am staying at my mother's house so the groom doesn't see me before I come down the isle.

HEHEHE I had to lol. I can;t go without it. he is the first one and only one that knows what he is doing. if he said no more sex till our wedding It would be like hanging raw meat infront of a starving dog lol. Besides i would make it so hard for him to go even a week without it I winnnn lol

We were going to do 3 months but he can not hang in their (lol). I guess it was also a stress relive.

Me and my future husband have never had sex with anyone. We're saving our first time for our wedding night! And after we broke off our big wedding, we've decided that we're not going to kiss again until our wedding day.

It's going to be such a special day and night.

We were counseled by my cousin who is a minister, he suggested this to us. Soooo, we tried, we failed. We did make it a month tho. I think the only way it would have worked was if we were to sleep in different rooms. Just didn't work for us.

My brother and his wife were together for 8 years before they married. They wanted to get married at a Christian church and had to take marriage counseling classes and what they call "pre cana" counseling. The minister asked them to refrain from sexual relations during the year of the training. Now imagine! They lived together! The minister felt that it would be a "renewing" of their bond in a more spiritual (than physical) way. They agreed and were happy to make the sacrifice - they had a great honeymoon and a good marriage. Go figure!

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Kudos to anyone who can do this...I'm not saying I totally understand it because FI and I are totally UN-religious (I don't think that's a word..oh well)...and because of that lack of understanding, I don't see the point.

The only reason we didn't have sex the night before the wedding was that we were sharing a double bed with two dogs. LOL

Oh my goodness! It never even crossed my mind! I could never do that. We don't have any religious commitments or anything, so there's just no point for us. Glad this works for some couples though!

The wedding night will be the very first time for both me and my FH. The temptation is soooo strong though sometimes. I don't see how it is possible to abstain for extended periods for you guys who are living together. Living apart makes it way easier.

For me and my FH, we're considering doing something like that, but probably more like three or four months not six. My BM actually just got married and her husband left for boot camp about a week later. They decided not to at all so neither would miss it for all that time that he's gone!!! She however waited for marriage, so it's different than those of us who haven't. I think that it'll help to make it special and romantic after that long! But it seems like when there's an 18 month deployment you have a much different situation! I wouldn't give it up!!

I waited almost five years and then I married and it still did not happen and then 6 months later he died. We waited because of our committment to Christ. Let me share that the intimacy we shared went far beyond an act. It was so powerful what we experienced as a married couple and yet it had nothing to do with sex. The words we spoke and how we just exhaled knowing we were man and wife. What a beautiful experience, one I will cherish forever.

I'm so sorry about your husband. The spiritual connection is just as intense as the physical one, if not more so.

There is NO WAY we could do it!!! My FH is like a dog in heat after a week without it. LOL! I have contemplated on doing it but umm...I know me...and I would probably crash and burn!!!! We've been together 13 year and have 2 kids...so I THANK GOD we still have that spark in the bedroom. I can't lose it for 6 months....I JUST CAN'T!!! **quivering at the thought** WHEW!!

It's definitely the couples decision and I fully respect each couples decision. Withholding was not for us.

We will have been together for 6 years by the time the wedding rolls around...crazy to think lol. We both decided we're going to abstain about a month before the wedding.

Not necessarily out of religious beliefs, but just to make it special and to re-commit eachother physcially once we're hitched.

I do NOT want a "first time" experience lol awkward, painful at times and interrupted by a phone call from drunk younger brother needing a ride back to campus from the fraternity....yea, no thanks. This one is going to be hot, passionate, awesome-sauce (and undisturbed) love making come Hell or high water.

Oh and about the period on the wedding day, I was worried about that too, so I just changed my bc from Nuva Ring to the pill. You can make yourself skip a period if you need to (totally safe!) and if you aren't planning on getting preggers right away, then there you go. I also like how it reduces breakouts

@ chrissy and chelsea OMG I think am going to have mine also i think it will be at the end but the point is its going to be here am hoping my cycle change lol

FH & I are going to try not to have sex for one or two months.(emphasis on "try")...my mother said i should try 3 or 4 months but i told her she was pushing it...lol....we will try but i know us & we live together...i know it will be like we are both in heat & if i dont get it i get cranky, so i dont know how thats gonna work..we'll see tho!! lol

FH and I are doing this. We are going for 3 months before the wedding. We are doing this for our church commitment as well as it is something we both feel will be beneficial. It allows more time to talk and spend time together. It isn't easy by any means, especially since we live together, but in the end I think it will be worth it.