Sex before marriage?

We are not doing that at all. He laughed at the idea actually. I really don't think we want to re-create the magic... it is still there for us and probably will be more so once we get married when all the emotions are running like crazy

Lol No I can't do it. Noooooo lol Kudos to anyone who has more will power then me but man I have none lol

Kinda. We've both talked about going without 1-2 weeks before the wedding. It will probably be for just a week. We've been together for 3 years this month. There's no reason to go backwards now.

I'm with everyone else, I already have a son (which is not biologicaly FH's son).. so yeah there's really no point... and I'm with Chrissy.. I doubt I couldn't do it... let me rephrase.. I doubt FH couldn't with hold more than I could lol. The only way we wouldn't be is if I happen to be on my period the week before... which the way I counted everything out a few nights ago... its going to be cutting it close :/ I don't think us having sex before the wedding will change how we feel that night.

This is something we are doing because of our church commitment, BUT it is really really hard (especially if you are not a virgin and have been together 2 years and live in the same house) And you def. have to know where the "line" is because I am sure we came pretty close to crossing it a couple times Good Luck!

LOl watch me get my period on my wedding day ohh I will be so friggen mad and going to hawaii for our hm. If I have my period ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh it's gonna look like a murder scene lol Just kidding ick can't do it on my period ewwww

I am right there with you Summer G. We have decided to not have sex six moths before the wedding because our commitment. I am going to try to do 9 moths just because I want to have that spark our wedding night.

Chrissy M. that is my biggest fear, who wants a period during there wedding and the crime scene comment made me laugh.

Actually, FH and I have not had sex since last June, and we are getting married..(OMG)..this month! (Can't believe I am saying that!!!) It was a personal decision that we made, not really because of religious reasons because we already live togehter, but it was nice doing something other than sex and I have learned sooooo much more about him and vice versa. I look at it like this, what if something happens to him or me and we are unable to be intimate anymore, at least we will know that we can go without it. His companionship means more to me than anything else. And our relationship is not based off of sex BUT please belive, once we exchange those vows....it's going to be on and poppin! LOL :-)

Chrissy your hilarious lol From how I've counted out my cycle so far.. its either I will be near the end of my period and getting off either on our wedding day or getting off the first day of our honeymoon, or I will be starting it about 2 or 3 days in our honeymoon... and I'm really hoping something throws me off and I can have my period the week before the wedding and not worry about ANYTHING lol.

I actually had a best friend that did this. It would not have been the first time for either one of them, but they choose to re-commit themselves to each other and god. So when i asked her she said it was super hard they did this for about a year but in the end I suppose it worked out. I know me, I couldn't do it but kudos if you can girl.

I think it's a beautiful thing that people wait to share that piece with just one other person or that a couple makes the decision to abstain for a little while before the wedding. It isn't something that I am interested in doing but I did give it a little thought. With the two of us being away from each other on a regular basis I am not thinking this is an option haha Thanks for the feedback ladies!

Girls...period on my wedding day is my BIGGEST fear... i'm actually meeting with my gyno this week to switch around BC to 'trick' my period into not making a cameo for my wedding

hahaha but yeah I plan on not having any 'relations' for a month before the wedding. we toyed with the idea of three months (mainly because i have nightmares about getting knocked up before mty wedding lol) but i mean its just unrealistic...we've been together 3 years and have lived together for the past year..hrm maybe i should ask my mom if i can borrow my old bunk beds...

Its not happening over here. lol I joke with him from time to time and tell him we are NOT having sex anymore until we get married. He doesnt find it funny at all but the looks he gives when I tell him this are hilarious to me.

But being as though we are like two teens who can not be left alone I know it wont happen. Longest we have gone without was 10 days and it was pure purgatory!

I wanted to do this. For 1-2 weeks, but I read that if you want to concieve on your wedding night, its more difficult if the man has been abstaining.

My FH and I are doing this because he lives in Cali and I live in NC. I last saw him President's Day weekend and won't see him again until a few days before the wedding, trying to save money. He still thinks that he will get 'some' when he comes to town but I say if we waited that long, then we can wait a few more days to the wedding night. It will probably be hard though. He is having a hard time with it and its only been a little over a month. We usually see each other once a month by alternating who travels.

I know there are couples who do it. We will not be one of them. To me, it doesn't create a first time experience. It just deprives you of the intimacy with your soon to be spouse.

I can speak for everyone else, but the few weeks before the wedding, I will be a stressed out wreck. I will NEED that special time (and the hormonal release that comes from it) that only FH can provide.

Besides, I keep telling him that I'll just stop puttingout AFTER the wedding- so he better get it while he can.

@Meghan - Totally in the same boat! We have a running joke that we're not supposed to be having sex anymore now that we're married. But we did not even think about abstaining before the wedding. It's something awesome that only the two of us share - why would I want to mess that up? (And it definitely also helped with the stress relief and help us connect in the midst of being crazy busy!)

Well me and my FH has NEVER had sex and are committed to that until our wedding night. We are doing this because we are devout christians and we live by the teaching of the bible.

I've known my FH for over 12 years now and we've been together for 18 months now (engaged for 8 of those 18 months). We have never ever had sex.

I have great respect for people who stop for some time before the wedding...we waited until the wedding night ourselves, but I can't imagine stopping once you have started. It's bad enough when he goes out of town on business now and we miss a few days or a week...it will be awful when he gets deployed, and I would never voluntarily give up months

Kudo's to you Mrs G.

I have complete respect for those of you that do this, either totally or just before the wedding.

Have to say, I personally don't have that much wilpower...lol

We have talked about it, but I think the conversation ended with, "oh ya, we need put condoms on the grocery list"

And in all honesty we live together and really might as well be married except for the leagality part anyhow.