Secretly getting legally married but hiding it because of the upcoming ceremony.

View Quoted Comment Yeah because now one saw anything coming. The solution is to get married because you can't pay cobra for one month. A marriage is not stopping anyone here undocumented from getting deported. Also the public declaration you spoke of is just that public and the public should be told you're already married and this is a public display for us to celebrate our marriage that already happened. Going forward any wedding I'm invited to I will just ask if the couple is already married and I will either get a why are you asking which means yes or force them to tell a bold face lie to my face lol.

Don't worry about what random people on the forum think...do what's best for you and your spouse. Happy wedding planning! 😃

View Quoted Comment My husband's family is in Europe and Asia. We had friends from Australia, Singapore and across the country. They still didn't care. And, like I said this is the way it's done in Mexico BY LAW. Do you want to impose your views in an entire country and tell them their weddings are "sham weddings"?

View Quoted Comment Sorry I am talking about truthfulness. If it makes no difference to anyone just casually mention it to everyone invited. People will get it. I will be at the celebration regardless. However some move heaven and Earth and spends thousands to fly large families to these events or drive thousands of miles believing the couple is actually getting married when in fact the are celebrating their marriage that already happened. The couple chose to get married early and their guests should choose to come with all the relevant information. BTW the couple being married already is relevant if folks are wondering.

View Quoted Comment If it’s a law thing, then you are fine. The problem arises in the United States where you’re legal and spiritual ceremonies can be performed the same day. If the country where you are getting married makes you have two ceremonies by law, you are fine. It’s when you don’t have to do so because both are legally binding in the United States that people have an issue with.

I can’t edit on my phone. I still think you shouldn’t lie about it just because the law in the country prevents it from happening on the same day.

I also have an issue with people choosing certain destinations to get married at but won’t follow the law to be legally married at said location. If there are too many hoops to jump through and you can’t do it, then don’t get married there. Plain and simple. My brother and sister-in-law got married in Bermuda for two reasons. One so that my parents could be there as my father refuses to fly so we all took a cruise down. And two because it’s fairly easy to be legally wed in Bermuda, no blood tests, no needing to be there for an extended period of time before the wedding. I suggest to anyone looking for a destination wedding to look at Bermuda. It’s so beautiful there and pretty easy to be legally married there.

View Quoted Comment Yes. My fiance and I are getting married in Florida and not staying long enough to get a marriage certificate there, so we will be getting married in or home state a week before the wedding and not telling a soul. Idc what you think about that, we want our family to come and some won't if they know. Marriage is just a legal document, our wedding is our vows of love and commitment.

View Quoted Comment Hi deception or a lie by omission is still a lie but be fine with your choice. Some folks will not care añd some will but won't tell you they'll just show you. Also since you already know some will not come you know you have to lie by omission. Enjoy your choice and be fine with any lie by omission you encounter since you lead the charge. Good luck.