RSVP Returns: What did you do for those who were slack in responding?

I had my mother/FH's mother make phone calls. The typical response was "Oh she didn't get it? I sent it in last week" and then magically 2 days later I would get them. I don't know what's so hard about checking accept or decline and just putting it in the wonderfully pre-stamped pre-labeled envelopes we provide for them! My rsvp date was May 1st and I'm still missing 4 people.

OMG Stephanie...I said the same thing. What else do we have to do? We give them a pre-addressed, pre-stamped envelope. Open - Check - Put it right back in the mail. (shaking my head). I don't understand why people hold them.

Yup....I was down to maybe 10 peeps on my list who didnt respond. So I sent a "send it in or die" email and all of them EXCEPT one responded by either emailing back or mailing the darn card. The rougue family...yeah..well...they finally responded...a week after my deadline.

Jerks.

I sent out a mass email lol and that picked it up

I sent them facebook messages saying that if I didn't hear back by the end of the week then they would no longer have seats reserved for them. I had other guests who wanted to come and I asked that they understand why I was being so strict. I still had 4 people that didn't reply so they will not have a seat at the wedding if they do decide to come at this point.

My RSVP deadline is in 6 days and I am still missing 80 people!! Time to start calling!

My cut off was April 28th I just received one in the mail today. I have just went through my RSVP and I am still missing about 20 but that is okay.

I am sending my Shower invites out soon and hopefully people are like "oooo let me send back my rsvp" lol My deadline is the first of June, my wonderful MOH will be calling anybody who neglected to RSVP.

I didn't send out my invites yet, but I anticipate having the same problem. Especially since I know by past experience that FH's family is not good with RSVP-ing for some reason. I think it's rude, but what do I know.

I plan on calling people and hunting them down.

Luckily, my reception venue requires a guest list. The Maitre'D will be outside the door of our designated room and he will check the names off the list as the guests arrive. So for me, I am only listing the guests that have actually sent back their RSVP cards. You don't RSVP, you don't get a seat...simple as that. The due date for our responses is May 29th. I will be sending out a reminder email to those that haven't responded yet. I've been to so many weddings where people have just shown up out of nowhere and I refuse to have that happen with me. It's not fair to whomever is paying for folks to just show up last minute.

I was fuming, but I learned it does not help. If there is one sure thing about the wedding it is that some of the RSVP'ers will be SLOW, nothing you can do. Here is a bt of advice you can get as annoyed as you like, but it will not change them.

That's so funny...we are wedding twins and not only that I used the same date for RSVPs, the venue does not needed 'til 6/23. I figure that would give me enough time to start calling those who do not respond by that date. So far I have 80 accepted, 15 declined out of 258. I'm expecting to get many back this and the following week.

I like Future Mrs.BTA way of thinking. For those that will repsond they should get a seat no since in paying for people that did not RSVP, it's a waste of money. Having someone at the door to check off names is a great idea. My friend had hostesses at her wedding and this was their job.You you still may waste money because the guests that did RSVP still may not show up. Aftr your RSVP you can make contact with those that haven't responded either by email or phone and that would do it for me.

I sent them a text or message on Facebook. Our "deadline" is this weekend. Only need 7 more. But if they don't send it after that, I'm putting something like "if you didn't RSVP, you won't be able to attend" biotchessss lol hopefully they will all be in. Else I'm calling and asking.

The best thing to do is to call those who have not RSVP'd on time.

Honestly, you may be a bit early, on asking for RSVP's. Typically, you want a deadline of one month. Even though you are still only 10 days or so early, some guests may just be thinking of your July wedding date, not really thinking about the fact that the end of May is, well, really close to July. LOL!

Our deadline is May 15. We only had online RSVP or phone call. So far 94 out of 187 have have responded. We put FMIL and my mom on them. They will make phone calls.

My invites will be going out June 1. They will have two months to RSVP (Aug 4) They have a choice of going online or returning the cards. If I hear nothing, they will be scratched off the list and an alternate guest will have the opportunity to attend my event.

I have already ditched the ring bearer. My nephew or his girlfriend never got back with me after how many months? I have less than four months to go. I will not let people get me crazy! So I scratched his girlfriend and her son off the list. I do not have the patience for indecisiveness. You are in or you are out!

OMG, I am having this problem...my rsvp deadline was this Friday, the 6th but I'm missing about 30 responses!!! I'm trying to decide if I'm going to call and get an answer from them or just let them be put in overflow when they don't see their name on the escort list??

I sent e-mails, Facebook messages, instant messages, phone calls... pretty much everything but carrier pigeons. That got all the RSVPs back. Of course, then there were the people that sent an RSVP saying yes but just failed to turn up on the night. Fortunately, we weren't being charged per person, so it didn't make a huge financial difference, but still...

Ugh!!! Dealing with this now!!! I have been messaging people, but some are not responding. Our deadline was April 30th and we still have like 76 invitees just floating in never, never land!! Boo!!!! I may be getting an email together soon saying tell us something or don't come!!