Ridiculous wedding questions

I'm marrying the same man twice, first time was about 14 years ago (long story)

the first time I heard things like this:

"You're engaged? are you pregnant?"

3 weeks before the wedding: "we aren't comfortable with the type of reception you've chosen, since the day is really all about family, we need to talk to you about the needed changes."

the night before the wedding when you are supposed to be in celebration mode, my mom disappeared into my sister and her partner's hotel room for about 30 minutes, then came out and informed me that our night out wasn't going to happen because my sister "didn't feel like it" then proceeded to lecture me on how I needed to just understand that, and be sensitive to the fact that my sister was never going to be able to have her 'big day' like me since she was gay. (my sister chooses to not marry her partner)

I haven't even discussed things with my sister yet, but makes me wonder how she feels about the fact that I'm going to be doing it TWICE! :

Me and my fiance have been engaged for 7 years and together for almost 9 years so our first responses are usually "finally!", "so when are you having kids?" and my personal favorite "are you pregnant?". Hardly anyone says congrats lol

We're having our ceremony at my 2nd mom/matron of honor's home, and the only place not booked for our reception was the reception room at a catholic church so I get a lot of "shouldn't this be the other way around?" (ceremony at the church instead). I'm all "No, I'm not Catholic." lol.

People think it's weird that my whole wedding party is my ex-in-laws, and my own sister/family aren't in it. "I'm sorry, you'll have to talk to my friend Nunnya about it. Last name Bidness." I even had my sorta boss/coworker ask me how my mother feels about that. I couldn't think of anything to say but "Well I didn't ask her permission." My mother isn't even involved in the planning of the wedding, and is probably only coming because my dad, her husband, will be there proudly walking me down the aisle. That was a very inappropriate question.

We are also having a long engagement. But FH's brother got married last summer, so we just say that's the reason we waited. It usually gets people off our backs pretty quickly.

I can't believe how rude people are! My own aunt asked me if she's invited. Granted, she has never been in my life, but I'm inviting her anyway. I so badly wanted to say, 'well since you asked... no!'.

I'm having a short engagement (2/16 - 8/16), and when I started calling around for venues, I always got, "You're getting married THIS summer??" And then they would laugh me off for thinking I could book a summer wedding with them.

The most annoying response I've gotten is when people find out we won't be living together until we're married. And most people think it's impossible to plan a wedding in 6 months. Obviously, we're not having a long engagement because we don't want to live without each other any longer than necessary. Back in the day, people weren't usually engaged longer than a couple weeks, or days!

I always joke and tell them, "Yeah, we're not very traditional..."

Freezing Bride---CONGRATS!!!

because that's just so rude that no one ever says that.

my cousin is in a similar situation...together 10 years (engaged for 2 by time of wedding) everyone acts like the wedding isn't real because they've been living together for a long time and own a house. I think that's crummy for people to have that attitude.

People never seem to thing before they ask the most idiotic questions! I posted on my Facebook "96 days!!". A friend I used to work with said ... " are you pregnant?" REALLY? I am counting down to my wedding dumba$$!!! All I could think was ...great my mom is gonna see that! I quickly deleted it.

Shelley... I think that might take the cake (or at least rate in the top 5). I can't believe someone would actually say that!

And Freezing BTB, I second Stacy's congratulations! So rude that people don't say it. Sometimes I think people should just leave it at that.

Nicole F. I have had so many people say thigns along those lines.. Like oh your getting married RUN like just because you couldnt make your lives work doesnt mean I cant. They act as if women stop men from having a normal life once their married.

Key word here, your co-worker .. is a HE!! Don't give it anymore thought .. LoL

My FH proposed on Christmas 2012; our wedding day is Valentines Day 2014. ppl r asking me, y so far away. I've been biting my tongue, I should respond, "don't worry u aren't invited" smh. Obviously, some ppl don't have a clue about the details & cost that goes into planning a wedding.

We also had a 16 month long engagement, we wanted time to save and plan, since we are paying for it on our own.... When I told my dad our wedding date was May 2014 his response was "gee I hope I'm still alive by then". Given that he actually has had some serious health problems in the past (though he seems to be doing better now) I thought that was very uncalled for!

I haven't gotten too many comments, and I haven't found any to be offensive.

By the time we get married, it will have been 15 months. My great aunt is the only one who complained about our engagement being too long, and I guess she was right. She passed away last month and won't be at the wedding

The only other odd stuff people have said just reveal how frugal they are. Everytime my mom suggests something I think "Really?!? I have a budget that is higher than $700 for this thing!"

If I'm holding our reception at a seedy strip club down from my parents... Get right on that one.

If we're going to go through with it this time (found out I was pregnant with my second child 2 weeks after getting engaged and having already set our date we had to move it. Set a second date for after she was born and then she was murdered) Excuse us for having larger issues at hand.

I've even had someone say "well at least you'll be a Mrs. at the trial" Yes, because when testifying against the person who killed my child that was the main issue in my mind. Moron.

P.S we've been engaged 4 years this coming June. We'll be married this August, I must really have doubts then if you've "dragged this out"

I actually had one of my bridesmaids, when i asked her to be my bridesmaid, ask me if it was for real this time. What?

I told her, "it was real last time too, he proposed and gave me a ring, the same as Jake did. It just didnt work out last time, but we were really engaged and planning a wedding. Plus that was four years ago, its not like im getting engaged to every guy i date, me and Jake have been together for over a year now." She didnt have much to say after that. i think i might have come off as bitchy but oh well.

Jesyka, I can't believe people have said such insensitive things to you. I am so sorry for your loss.

I have heard almost everything under the sun, but the top 3 that have particularly PISSED me off are 1) What kind of food are you having, I give the menu and they say Oh well I dont like that....well stay your a** home and dont eat, or eat before you get there. 2) maybe you should do this? I give the expression "who the hell are you and are you paying for any of it" with just one look and walk away 3) Whats the rush? you just got engaged in January and youre gonna get married in June? With yet another look, no word just a look im saying "STHU (shut the Hell Up)."

I love when people as who FH's best man is(its his younger brother) and then they make this face like why in the world would he pick him....Seriously?!?!? its our wedding, we are paying for EVERYTHING why do you care who is in it? If you are lucky enough to be invited then show up be happy, eat, and drink for free and deal with it!!

The worst one I've gotten: "You're gonna lose some weight before the wedding, right?"

I've been engaged since December 2010, not getting married till this November, so your not dragging it out, just planning everything perfectly. So I had someone ask me "why is this wedding so important? I mean it's your second one." My response was" the first one was just the practice round."