Registering for a house downpayment?

I dont think its tacky at all. I think that thats what you guys want and need then thats awesome! Best of luck! =)

Go for it. If I thought for a second my rich family members wouldn't be so cheap, I'd do the same thing. But it's torture getting a dime of MY money back from them. (They held my college fund hostage for awhile. Long story.)

Could you link this place, I would like to check it out.

The entier point of gifts was to help the new couple right? So why give you a bunch of plates and silverware if I know you don't have a place to put them?!?!?!?! I think it is great to register for a house down payment!

*entire* Sorry!

I don't think its tacky at all! However, check out the fees (if there are any). My friend and his wife signed up for a honeymoon fund and most of us just gave them cash because the company took a percentage.

BTW welcome to WW!

I had thought about doing this as well, but I rather people give me the money so I can put it towards our down payment and no have my guests pay an extra charge. So on our website we have this nice little poem on their explaning what we are trying to do.

I think it's tacky to ask for a house downpayment with all the foreclosures going on. Chances are one of your guests could be losing their home and here you are asking for $$$ to buy a house; could rub them the wrong way. Just register it as a honeymoon fund and use the $$ for the house wihtout advertising it.

Ta-Mela!!!! CONGRATS on your engagement! Hey girl, I think that is a fabolous idea!!! I know that I will be getting money as gifts but I think I want to set up a house fund as well...how would I do that?

From an ettiquette standpoint anytime you request money as a gift it is considered taboo. When I am creating invites many brides are concerned about giving the guest a direction. In the end most guests are going to give you money because it is the easiest thing to do. So if you are not registered anywhere don't fret you will still get money. In the end many guests are offeneded when you ask for money no matter how it is worded.

Some people won't understand a down payment registry (or a honeymoon registry). My husband and I considered having a honeymoon registry, but when my own mother couldn't understand the concept we decided against it and didn't register anywhere at all. Without a registry to fall back on, almost *every* guest gave us cash. I think there were 2 people that gave us an actual gift. We were shocked at the amount of money people gave us, and it did end up being used as the down payment on our house! So if you're worried about appearing tacky, maybe consider not registering at all - hopefully it will work out for you as well as it did for us! Good luck!

You know your guests best. I know my family would be really offended, but FH's family would think it's really savvy and awesome...so we're decided not to, even though we really wanted a honeyfund, just to avoid issues with my side. So I think you should do what you feel is best.

I just didnt want to deal with angry family members who think it's rude for us to want help going to Europe when they've never been.

Thanks so much, Mrs. P! Congrats to you, too! ;-) I am using Honeyfund, so we just figured out an amount that would be helpful and requested small amounts.

I have been concerned with some people being offended, but we are not printing the registry info on any of the invitations, just the website. I *think* my FI's family would be ok with it, its his idea! My family would think its a good idea, cause they're ready for me to get a house and start popping out some kids.... LOL

@DreamComeTrue, thanks so much!

If I knew that contributing to a down payment on a home would benefit my friends more than a new blender, then heck yah! Everyone thinks something is the terrible T word so do whatever is going to make you happy.

I wanted to register for Perfect Spouse Perfect House, but I dont think people would have donated, I hate to use the word haters but since many in m family dont own there own homes I dont think they would have help us get into one either. Its sad.

I think it's a great idea, and I'm considering doing it myself. My FH and I have been living together for that last five year and we have more than enough kitchen appliances, a matching bathroom/towel set, bedroom sets, furniture and just about everything else we could possibly need except the house to put all our stuff in. Both of our families know that we have been looking to buy a house of our own for some time now and part of what is preventing us from getting into one is not having that initial down payment. We're trying to keep this wedding as cheap as possible because we really want a place of our own where are son and future children to come will have a yard to play in and more space than our overpriced little apartment does.

That sounds like an awesome idea. I wish they had things like that when I married nineteen years ago. LOL

I know that as a guest, I would be thrilled to contribute to something like a downpayment for a home instead of buying a home appliance. I say...GO FOR IT. Best of luck and many blessings!!