Realizing you were in a TACKY etiquette Wedding!

@Tacko-no consequences, you asked a question, it was answered.

@jessie cool beans

My uncle invited me to his wedding. I haven't seen him in at least 10 years. The invitation only had my first name on it, which was also spelled wrong (how?!), didn't even bother writing my last name or the name of my FH who I have been dating for 7 years. The wedding will be at my Aunt's house and you have to bring your own liquor. No vegetarian option.

I respectfully declined.

@tacko are you sewing your wedding dress? How do you feel about twerking down the aisle?

@keisha Are you trying to ask me to sew a dress for you? Sorry, handbags and wallets are my specialty. I only dabble in sewing clothing. I did make a cute romper last summer though. As for twerking...A great multitude of people can't do it right so nah, I'd so no go for a wedding.

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@tacko handbags eh. Would a replica Thor hammer purse be your speciality by chance?

Shirts...get your shirts here.....

@keisha certainly I could probably swing that. It'll cost you though. Real or faux leather? @heather tell your friend to ask

*scratches that* wwfbi thinks their on a case. Cool beans is a popular term amongst my circle. And "or nah" is from a ty dollar $ign song. Lol. You gotta have the "or" in front or you're using it wrong.

I guess now I know what I need to do to get my 5th star ..

I preface this by saying, I am not and never considered a B-list.

I think it is really amusing when I jump from the forums where everyone talks about how horrible B-listing is, to the WW guest list tool where it defaults to A-List, B-List, C-List. Is that something that can be changed? Maybe make it an option but not a default?

Whether it WW etiquette or "entire world" etiquette, EVERYONE has different views of what is acceptable and what is not. What some see as "tacky" others don't. If you don't like it move on, it's a lot simpler than griping on a public forum of how someone (who is your friend) was tacky.

This is literally an etiquette forum...

@Kristen-the A list is people you cannot not invite, the B-list is people you should invite, the C-list is people you can include if there's room. It's a tool to organise your circles.

My parents were put behind a pole at their niece's wedding (my cousin)

and it was a cash bar

@JessieJV thanks for the info. Is that explained somewhere and I just missed seeing it?

@Kristen-in every invite article or etiquette book you read, it talks about that. I figure that's where the bridal websites designed it off of.

I think its sometimes the combination of events that can lead a wedding to be tacky and raise eyebrows. For example, a wedding I was in a few years ago, the bride expected everyone to fly twice (once to her wedding and once to her week long bachelorette, yes that's right week long). The bridemaids were good friends and sucked it up and traveled even though a lot of them didn't have that kind of money (the bride however was pretty well off). Then, the destination wedding came around and she had a rehearsal but no rehearsal dinner, served no liquor at her wedding (just beer and wine), and only had a honeyfund (which she led people to on her invitation...it wasn't as clear as that but she put where she was registered). I understand everyone has a budget, and I don't think things such as having beer and wine only are a huge etiquette no-no, but it was the fact she expected everyone to shell out so much for her day, and didn't even think they were important enough to feed them for a rehearsal dinner (I personally thought they could afford something even if it was getting pizzas together). Oh and after the wedding, her mother made a comment on how a lot of the bridesmaids didn't give a gift...yeah...

I don't quite have a tacky wedding comment...just a general comment how to avoid tacky-ness...wait until you have the money for the wedding!!! avoid putting strain on guests, family, friends, etc. (notice my wedding is in 2 years lol) also a good day to avoid debt

Or have a low budget wedding! There are lots of ways to not do "tacky" things.