Realizing you were in a TACKY etiquette Wedding!

Yep. I stood up in my friends wedding back in Nov.

It was the definition of tacky! Just had to grin a bear it!

Yeah, I'd say that WW is pretty much the gold standard, thanks to the cross section of people here. And I think that most couples who do tacky shit know it's tacky but they think their relatives don't care.

They do. They just won't tell you.

Just got an invite to a baby shower. Yeah, the invitations stated there will be a 50/50 cash raffle, extra chance to win if you bring a box if diapers, in addition to a gift, of course. TACKY to the max. Some people.

I have never NOT attended a wedding because I thought some part of it was tacky. I've spoken up if it was bad form (or offensive to me/and/or others before the wedding happened) but I can't remember anything "tacky". All I care about when I go to the wedding 1. being there on their special day 2. feed me and drink me, with a little bit of booze. I never really side eyed anyone for things I thought were tacky didn't even think twice about it.

@o&s are you watching me or nah? Do you have any other business? How about anything other than my replies?

@ceila id say it isn't thanks to the rest of the internet. ETA : And how do you call a place a gold standard when the opinions of diverse range of brides, grooms, etc aren't accounted for?

I was in a wedding that the brides parents self catered. Cringe. I didn't know her very well (work friend) and felt obligated to accept because she would cry to me about how all of her old friends abandoned her when she got pregnant. It was so, so bad.

@jessie for example, kicking someone out of your wedding because they are pregnant or sitting people outside in 100+ heat with no water or fans. That should be common sense for an adult and not something one just discovers on a wedding forum.

Yeah I've been to a few cash bar weddings with dollar dances! But lately I've been going to some very very NICE weddings that make me wish I had done more for my out of town guests.

@tacko you'd think it would be common sense, but clearly, from the multitudes? of posts here and weddings these users have attended, it's not.

@Tacko-except even in the real world, common sense isn't all that common.

Not too crazy, but I was MOH in my friend's wedding a few years ago and completely went out of my way to plan the bachelorette, shower, help her with DIY crafts for the wedding, etc. Her wedding was also somewhat of a destination wedding requiring pretty significant travel time and costs. For the BM gifts, she got us all the same thing and all were things to be worn for the wedding, and not things we could really use again. I thought it was a little strange, but didn't think too much about it at the time. But after reading all the BM present etiquette threads on this site, I feel like she could have handled that a little better. Otherwise her wedding was wonderful and I loved being a part of it, but that's just one thing I've thought about since being on here/ planning my own wedding.

@o&s you're welcome for my presence. I don't try to set anyone straight. Why would I care to? Perhaps that the issue. People try too hard to "set people straight" on here. Grace and peace.

@Tacko-for someone who doesn't like this forum very much, you seem to post a heckuva lot.

Yes!! Well my FH was a groomsman in a wedding so they sat at the head table like the last supper, while I sat with a bunch of random dates and others that I didn't know it was not fun. My bridal party will totally be sitting with their dates!!!

I was the 4th chosen maid of honor because the first 3 "didn't help enough," dry wedding, self catered, dj was a friend and was terrible so long gaps between songs. The bride & groom never mailed out thank you's, and found out later never paid the pastor, photographer, or the food bill her mother fronted. ETA also she seperated me from FH during dinner and seated him way in the back bc she didn't like him.

@jessie (and whomever else is watching my posts) Thanks for noticing my increased post frequency.

Tacko reminds me of Chivy. Am I the only who feels that way?

Anyway, my cousin had a cocktail 3 hour at her wedding two weeks ago. She got married at the same venue as the reception. Trailer bathrooms and very light hors' for cocktail 3 hour, which means we were all tipsy before dinner. No water on the tables at dinner and she didn't even thank us for coming. Instead she said "get your phones out and write this down, this is what you SHOULD do for a wedding". Dancing then turned into karaoke. We sat out at a picnic table and shot the shit because it was so unbelievable

She also made us coordinate outfits for her bachelorette that she insisted we go to NOLA for and then never planned anything else to do there.

I am so glad it is all over lol

@Tacko-WWneverforgets...and the whinging bad advisors always get noticed...but you knew that!

My FSIL wedding was last month and they had a tiered reception.. invited 30+ people to come at 830 after dinner for dancing only. And now we are feeling the wrath from the in-laws that this is an appropriate thing to do and we should do it too. bleh

@jessie the who??? Lol. Seriously what is that? Noticed how? For what? What are the consequences?