Rant- Jack and Jills

I have never heard of this ever.

I have a question for those who are trying to defend it as just wanting to have a fun party with all your friends. If all you really want is to have a fun party, then why don't you just throw a party for your friends and not have it involve the wedding at all? And when I say why don't you just throw a party, of course I mean completely host the party yourself (no admission charge, don't make the bridal party supply the raffle prizes, you pay for all of the food and drinks).

View Quoted Comment This is the best reply. All of these people complaining because it’s a “fundraiser” they’re paying $20. Getting a free meal, winning prizes that are usually really nice and getting to dance and party with friends. It cost $20 to get into a club and you don’t get any food or prizes. So for those calling it “tacky” maybe you should look at it the way she just described it. Because I want a ton of people at my wedding but let’s be real. Weddings cost so much per person and for most it’s more about being an intimate memory with mostly family. Bridal shower gifts are way more expensive then a $20 entry fee to party and eat with friends.

We were planning a jack and jill but there was no ticket purchase involved... It was basically just going to be a late engagement party/shower with both me and FH there. Of course, covid got in the way.


I don't think jack and jills are wrong, but charging tickets to go is SUPER SUPER TACKY

View Quoted Comment This is absolutely insanely tacky. Being invited to one would end my friendship with that person.


You don't host a party in celebration of you and ask your guests to cover the costs. It is rude.
You don't invite people to pre-wedding events who you don't want at the wedding. It is rude.
Nothing in either comment makes ticketed pre-wedding events okay. They are offensive.

View Quoted Comment Well it’s a good thing that’s your opinion. Mine is that I’m not “inviting” anyone. I am selling tickets to a giant event that I am paying for and if people don’t want to go....guess what. They don’t have to. You’re not forcing people to go. Nothing about that is tacky. It’s a New England thing that we don’t ask for expensive gifts like a bridal shower. We throw events and if you’d like to attend that event there is an admission fee. And there’s also prizes like tv’s, cornhole boards, grills. Cool things that you can win for a small admission fee.

View Quoted Comment I am from New England, this is not a NE thing. This is a trashy thing.


What you're describing is a carnival. Which is fine, but don't attach it at all to your wedding.

View Quoted Comment You can feel that way without being disrespectful towards people who like them. They are not trashy or a carnival and if you will truly stop being friends with a friend if they invited you to one then that’s a bit childish.

I’m from NE, and maybe I’m confused too lol. I’ve heard of Jack and Jill showers and a combined bachelor/bachelorette, but was totally not aware of the selling tickets thing. I’ve heard of selling stag tickets for a bachelor party, but thought that was just to cover the cost of the boys night out.


We were going to have a combined bachelor bachelorette, by which groom and I planned to take our wedding party out for dinner or a night out... maybe I should stop using the term Jack and Jill lol.