Question about alcohol

Don't be guilted by proper etiquette....WOW JUST WOW!

OP you have very judgmental views towards alcohol. If barely any of your guests drink then I doubt you will notice those few guests taking part in a consumption bar. Also, you shouldn't force your beliefs on other people. Alcohol isn't evil.

If you guys don't drink at all, then I think a dry wedding more expected and acceptable. Keep the guest list limited to people who know you and your FH well and understand your views on alcohol. A daytime (not brunch) reception may also help lower expectations for alcohol and partying.

If your having a two hour reception there is no way anyone will get drunk that fast. Unless they are streaming shots.

I am a little offended though. As someone who enjoys myself some wine and my DH enjoys his beer. You're saying we could never be around you as we would offend you? The best times at a wedding is when everyone gets out on the dance floor and party it up. I don't know who you are to judge us that my DH needs some liquid courage before doing that. Maybe you really need to think about the pedestal you seem to be on that makes you believe you are above us.

@Leelee I was thinking that too.

OP do you go out to eat at restaurants? People are (often) drinking with their dinner.

OP, do you not go to sporting events, concerts, holiday parties? All of these events include people drinking around you.

You can opt for sparkling cider for a toast at least.

People on here hate a dry wedding, and I agree unless it's for religious reasons. I expect a traditional cake and punch reception at a church to be dry and that is fully within accepted etiquette. All my friends who got married right after college had these.

What makes it bad hosting is if the wedding has a full dinner, DJ, and expects dancing but keeps it dry. You have to choose one or the other. Spending all that money on a DJ or band will be wasted anyway because people won't dance.

What time and type of wedding are you having? I respect you not drinking yourselves, which makes me less suspicious of this being because you are cheap like most dry wedding supporters who post.

Have a brunch or afternoon wedding and expect that some guests won't stay long.

Svetlana, sparkling cider is for children on New Year's Eve. Adults deserve the choice to have an adult beverage (without judgement) if they so please.

I actually think this is one of the few scenarios I'd be okay with a dry wedding. Just make sure your guests know in advance and your list is small (ie people who know you well enough not to expect alcohol. I had a friend who married a Muslim woman (and had to convert as well) and it was a dry wedding and it was amazing. We all knew that there wasn't going to be alcohol in advance because of her religious restrictions and out of respect for the bride's family - but we had known them for awhile and they avoid alcohol in their regular lives. It's not like they all of a sudden decided on a dry wedding because they didn't want to pay for it. They had compelling lifestyle and religious reasons which were consistent with their normal lives and no one had a problem with it

Elope. It's not fair to your guests just because you prefer not to be around something, if it really bothers you that much.

ETA: sorry, but do you not go to restaurants/concerts/parties? Tons of people drinking in those situations.

Do you leave the house, or nah?

I don't believe I'm above anyone. And I didn't say there was anything wrong with drinking. I just don't really enjoy being around people who are currently drinking. It has nothing to do with offending me, I just prefer not to be around it. And i have no problems with people who drink. I just prefer not to be around when they are actually drinking alcohol. All a personal preference. My wedding isn't have a DJ and dancing or anything like that. We are having desserts and hanging out for a couple hours and then leaving. This is not some huge event with a meal and a DJ and dancing. It's a small gathering with friends and family.

Seriously though. You already know how WW feels about it, you know what type of responses you'll get, you apparently get triggered when you're around alcohol, so why are you even bothering asking this question on here? Have your dry wedding and be done with it. Not sure the point of this post unless you're having a trollrific day.

So you are having a cake and punch reception?

Something is not adding up. You don't like when people drink, yet according to you the vast majority of your guests don't drink that much, if at all.

You'll be so busy enjoying the reception that I can almost guarantee that you won't care. My advice would be to let it go.

My suggestion would be to seek counseling to help figure out why you have a crippling fear of alcohol and hopefully find ways to help get over it. Yes, I say crippling because you are letting your fear of alcohol control your life by avoiding social situations. There's a bigger problem here than whether or not you should serve it at your wedding.

Beer and wine only

Also agree with counseling. Such a major aversion to being around alcohol, even if people aren't drunk, doesn't sound mentally healthy.