Pregnant Bridesmaids

A bachelorette party in Vegas sounds like a party largely based on drinking, I can't really blame the bridesmaids for not wanting to go and be the only sober ones.

For the dresses, I would just let them find another dress in the same color closer to the date so they know how big they'll need it to be.

As for them showing in photos, is that really an issue? Being pregnant isn't a big deal, I don't understand why it would matter either way if you could tell that they were pregnant in the wedding pictures.

Are you like...serious? I can't tell. You're upset because your FW's bridesmaids (not even yours) are pregnant and don't want to go to Vegas for a bachelorette? Most pregnant women don't want to hang out in smoke filled casinos surrounded by drunk people. They probably also have higher financial priorities than a trip that they can't even enjoy. That doesn't make them bad bridesmaids, it makes them good moms. And you're worried that their pregnant bellies are going to show in your photos? I just can't. I would leave this alone for your FW to deal with. And if she feels the same way as you, well then, you both need to really reevaluate your priorities.

Why would it be an issue that they're showing in pictures!?!?!

This can't be real...

I wouldn't go to a bachelorette party in Vegas if I was pregnant, either. That place is sensory overload and based on drinking. My bachelorette is going to be in Vegas and my one bridesmaid will be a new mom- she doesn't want to come and I don't blame her.
I think it's really off-putting that you think bridesmaids "showing" in photos is "annoying". These people are standing beside your fiancée on her wedding day because they are her nearest and dearest... not because they are props. Really strange that you are bothered by this....

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Absolutely agree. I seriously don't understand what the issue is with a pregnant woman who looks pregnant? The only actual concern I can understand is finding them a dress, but that's a relatively easy fix. I can't believe that someone would consider their closest friend/family member a burden because they're pregnant, that just makes me mad.

No pregnant woman wants to go to Vegas. They can't drink and are probably exhuasted. She probably doesn't want to spend the money either....she has a baby coming! Her baby is and should be a top priority, not "partying" in Vegas.

Annoying that a woman will be "showing." REALLY?

Um. If this is real, y'all are being pretty horrible people. You're mad these women will be showing in your wedding photos???? That is an INSANE view to have of CLOSE FRIENDS.

Of course they don't want to go to a bachelorette party in Vegas, are you kidding?? "They'll only be like three months pregnant" ??? Dude, you have zero concept of pregnancy. This whole post make me angry on behalf of your FW's bridesmaids.

Are you really upset that these girls are going to be pregnant at your wedding?? As for the dresses, see how far along they will be and work from there. If they can’t be altered, find another dress for them in a similar color. As for the bachelorette it is beyond acceptable for them to skip it. I wouldn’t want to put my pregnant body anywhere near Vegas with all the smoke a drinking. Even if I wasn’t pregnant I would skip an extravagant trip like that because being in a wedding is expensive. As for showing in pictures, that is absolutely ridiculous and has no weight on anything. Would you be offended if they were just naturally bigger girls?

Are these your friends or props for your wedding photos? It’s really hard to tell from your post.

Sorry everyone! I know everything will be perfect on our wedding day. I just wanted to hear everyone thoughts. Sometimes you get so stressed out planning you even think logically. But yeah you guys are all right. I just needed someone to slap some in me lol. Thanks!

The first trimester is exhausting for many women. I wouldn't have been up for packing, traveling, and watching as everyone around me drank till they did the one thing I was already doing sober every few hours.

As for being mad they will be pregnant at the wedding, they are there to support the bride and her marriage to you. The only issue might be if the dresses don't fit. If that is the case they do have plenty of options for pregnant bridesmaids and I'm sure she could find something that goes with the other dresses.

A wedding is definitely about the couple, but their guests and wedding party have lives outside of that one day. It doesn't seem reasonable in any way to ask them to push pause on those lives or get mad because someone's life isn't matching up with some picture in the couple's heads. A baby bump is precious, not something to get upset about!!!

Uhm...having just turned 16 weeks in my pregnancy I can guarantee you I would bail on a bachelorette party to vegas. The morning sickness alone is reason enough to not be around all the strong smells of booze and cigarettes. Never mind the fact that I was exhausted like the entire first 12 weeks.
As for showing in photos....get out of here.
Some woman don't show until after 3 months, especially if they're first time moms. Unless you have them in some skin tight number, it's a total nonissue.

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Glad to see you've come around!

I hope this is a joke..... I would be delighted if my friends were pregnant on my day, more to celebrate!

Woof. My MOH got engaged, married, a huge shoulder tattoo and pregnant in the 9 or 10 month period of time since I had asked her to be in my wedding. I didn't think anything of it. I was very happy for her!! Why would she put her life on hold for a party? Bridesmaids can say no to going to a bachelorette for any reason if it doesn't work for them. They are about to have a huge financial strain placed on them and maybe a destination bachelorette doesn't fit in their budget anymore. I wouldn't take this personally.

My MOH thought it would take months to get pregnant. She thought she would hardly be showing for my wedding. It happened the very first time they tried. She ended up being 6 months pregnant on our wedding day. It did not impact a single thing. She looked beautiful. She had actually bought her dress before she even found out she was pregnant. She took it upon herself to exchange it for one that would accommodate her pregnant belly. I did not help her because it was not my responsibility.

Just be happy for them and pass that along to your FW as well.

If they're truly her friends, she should be happy for them. All but one of my bridesmaids live out of town but I wouldn't them to come to the bridal shower if they really couldn't, and a pregnancy is a very valid reason for not traveling. Especially if they're in their first trimester, thats usually the most delicate one. So if your FW is really annoyed by them not going to her bachelorette party in Vegas (drinking, smoking, late nights, and spending a crap ton of money they could save for the baby), she needs to reevaluate her priorities.

Why would them showing in the pictures be an issue? Isn't the birth of a wanted baby joyous news? Not gonna lie, your bride sounds like a bridezilla. None of this is an issue. What's more, NONE of this is in her control, or yours. Be happy for your friends and be understanding. And if your bride can't be happy for them without being snarky about her wedding, she's not a very good friend.

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Me too! This is so annoying. They're more concerned with looks and drinking and fun over the safety and health of their friends and babies!

Did you seriously say that it would be annoying to have pregnant women “showing” in pictures?

Know your audience, dude.

View Quoted Comment First, something you cannot do anything about now, but to every engaged person. Over and over on here now married people, or those close to their wedding, say, never, ever , whether it will be discontinued, because on sale, because they give you 20 percent off your bridal gown. . . . Never buy bridesmaids' gowns before 3-4 months out. Because they are delivered fast. And you usually will not change more than one size before the wedding, and if you are pregnant, you already know it and can try on dresses with a pregnancy pillow. This way, you will not end up paying alterations of $180- $250 for a dress you paid $180 for to begin with.
Second: solutions:. Look around for the same gown, second hand. If you find one in excellent condition that will fit, advanced pregnancy, good. But if not, you can use many gowns , if not mini skirts, for the material to alter the two now too small dresses, and by adding a barely noticeable underarm piece for breast size increase, and cutting the gown just below the bust to make an empire waist, you use dress material to put a gathered section in front for the baby bump. Other solution: Many name brand gown makers, in their accessories or FAQ pages if websites, or by asking a salon staff, will sell a 2 yard piece if the same exact fabric as the dresses we're made from. Usually 2 yard pieces at $24 or less a yard, or under $50. Then a seamstress or friend with skills can alter the dress . Do not use a salon, especially David's, seamstress. Find one who operates from a lower rent store, or home, and save $50. . . Or, find another dress that looks nice beside the ones you have, same color, or a darker shade of the same color, that comes in maternity sizing, and buy 2 new dresses.

🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️I feel like everyone kinda being mean 😂😂😂I had a bridesmaids that was pregnant. When she told me she was 6weeks and it was still 3 months till the wedding, she wanted to back out, I stopped her from doing that. We just talked to the bridal shop and luckily it was still within 30 Days of picking up the dress they just had her bring it back and reorder a larger size. She was also invited to another Bach party a month before my wedding and she attended that without a problem. Like pp poster stated the one not attending the Bach party has her reasons and should be respected for them and it’s nothing to get upset over. You could always ask her reason for not attending. Like with my sis/bridesmaid it was that she felt she would be showing too much and also an old superstition that she heard but I talked to her and got her to stay on as a bridesmaid because it really meant a lot to have her there she was after all the reason I met my husband. Hope this helps! Congratulations and good Luck!!!

Btw cuz of the dress you almost forgot she was even pregnant 😂😂😂