Pre-marriage discussion topics

Here are some good questions: When and for what would we borrow money? Will we ever discuss relationship problems with friends or family? When and how much time will we take for ourselves? Will one of us work or both? Do you feel we make important decisions together well?

Some questions my FH and I found when also searching for this topic.

I think it would help to have discussions on how to manage money together, and what your timelines are for things like kids (and if kids is something each even wants)

Daughter & SIL really enjoyed the book, "1000 Questions to Ask Before Marriage." They would randomly select questions and talk about them over dinner while they were engaged. They now give a copy to friends as an engagement gift.

Definitely discuss religion and how often you plan to see inlaws.

I highly recommend going to couples therapy for work like this. DH and I did that before we even got engaged, and it was *super* helpful.

These questions can sometimes be really tough, or sensitive, and having a neutral, trained third party to help guide the conversation is a good idea.

In addition, a good counselor can help you evaluate your strengths and weaknesses as a couple, and then create tools to work with those.

View Quoted Comment I agree! We did this and it helped. Def discuss politics, sex frequency, kids, inlaws, money, etc. Leave no topic left behind.

We went to pre-marital counseling and it was one of the best decisions we made. We learned so many good new skills and we’re able to have some tough discussions with no pressure. Our therapists said they wished more couples did this because they normally see them once the relationship is need of fixing, I’m pre-marital work, the relationship is already strong, so they show you ways to work through conflict in the future. It was honestly worth every penny... and I live in FL and you get a discount on your license if you do a course.

One of the most helpful discussions my fiancé and I have had is who is responsible for what debt? Debt is a tricky topic for most newlyweds because it can be a huge financial burden, and most people get married with debt including car/house loans, student debt, etc.