Postponing too early?

Hi Valencia!

Our wedding is 8/29/20 in San Diego and we are deciding in the next 1-2 weeks whether we will postpone or not. I agree that things don't seem to be opening up as quickly as I'd like to feel comfortable moving forward with the original plan of ~150 guests. I was ready to call it in April, but my fiancé needed more time, so we are waiting it out a bit longer to see if restrictions lighten up drastically or not. Honestly, if you and your fiancé feel that postponing is the right move for you two, I say go for it! I've been getting some heat from my mom and sisters about our plan B of a 20 person ceremony this August and moving our original plan to next year as a vow renewal, but at the end of the day, it's OUR wedding and if we are happy with our plan, that's all that matters. You do you and if they love you, they'll support you. Good luck!

Many venues and vendors won't allow you to postpone this far out from your date without an additional fee so I would look into how much it would cost and if you can find an available date you like before you make any decisions.

I'm also in the Bay Area and we are planning for a September 27th wedding in Sonoma. If you read the article about LA extending their shelter in place 3 months, what they are trying to say is there will be a gradual easing of restrictions, and don't expect to go back to "normal" before August. It's basically what Newsom said in his phased plan to re-open California - essentially, we will be sheltering in place to some degree until there is a vaccine. I think you'll be fine the end of October, worst case scenario is your guest list will be reduced (wish I had a clue as to how many) and potentially caterers/venue staff (maybe guests) will be required to wear masks. If that is not something you would be ok with, I'd just postpone if you can. Personally, I wish I could postpone to next year but I'm getting up there in age so need to get cracking on starting a family! Best of luck to you whatever you decide!

We are in Vegas and our wedding was scheduled for 10.10.2020. We decided to postpone til 2021 because we can deal with the uncertainty of social distancing restrictions/ wearing masks and my fiancé is unemployed because the casinos have been closed since March and some may not open until January 2021. It was the best decision for us. Good luck in your decision!

Hi Valencia,

I'm sorry that you're feeling stressed and frustrated about your wedding. In my opinion, it's never too early to postpone if making that decision will make you feel better. However, the general consensus for fall weddings (September and beyond) is that you should proceed with planning. You also may want to consider your back-up plan sooner than later. For example, if the total guest count had to be <50, what would you do? That's a good place to start.

Also, there are a couple of other discussions with CA brides:

Plan b for Fall Wedding In ca

Small 10/10/2020 wedding - 40 guests - rural ca - Can it still happen?

If you're interested, here's a couple of other discussions with October brides:

October 2020 Weddings - Where are your heads at?!

October 2020 Brides

I hope you can make a decision that eases your mind! Thinking of you.