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Postponed wedding

Sn, on April 9, 2020 at 3:30 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 1 6

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I'm have a very hard time right now with getting the future in law to understand why we will be postponing the wedding. We planned for a Destination wedding in Cancun August 2020. With the current situation of the world, I have had many guest (family) on my side drop out because financials or health issues. She is still not understand and thinks I'm making the wrong decision (overreacting to the situation) and should still continue with the wedding. I don't know what else to do/say? FH says don't let it bother me but it does!

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Latest activity by Amy, on April 14, 2020 at 10:40 AM

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KiwiDerbyBride · on April 9, 2020 at 5:41 AM
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Stop discussing it. If she brings it up, say “I’ve explained our reasoning to you multiple times and I don’t wish to explain it yet again. The decision is firm and we won’t be changing our minds.” Then change the subject.
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Caytlyn · on April 9, 2020 at 7:34 AM
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She doesn't have to understand, it's not her wedding. As PP said, don't make it a topic of conversation. The decision has been made, no need to discuss it further.
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Anna · on April 9, 2020 at 10:04 AM
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As it gets closer and closer to August and the situation doesn't improve (hopefully it will as I am getting married then--- but I understand probably not!) she will realize you made the right call. Just don't discuss it anymore.
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Savvy July 2021
Sn · on April 9, 2020 at 11:06 AM
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I hope she does too. If we weren't having a destination wedding it would be way different I think. I hope you are still able to have your big day!
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Savvy July 2021
Sn · on April 9, 2020 at 11:09 AM
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Yes! I'm going to take that tip and use.
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Amy · on April 14, 2020 at 10:40 AM
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Hi Sn,
I agree with the previous responses. I'm sorry this future in-law can't respect your *very difficult* decision to postpone. This is a tough time to be planning your wedding, and you need everyone's support and understanding.
In case it might be helpful, WeddingWire has gathered some resources here: COVID-19 Wedding Support Central. You'll find articles like:
- What to Do If You Have to Cancel Your Destination Wedding
- You’ve Decided to Postpone Your Wedding. Now What?
- “My Wedding Was Postponed Due to Covid-19, but Now I Get a ‘Do-Over’”
Good luck with your new date, whenever it may be!
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