Plus ones

View Quoted Comment Holy moly! Are you kidding? That is ridiculous. I will be doing the same because I have a feeling this girl is going to bring the other person anyway. So no food or seat for whoever is not on the list. I can’t believe the never of some people, honestly.

View Quoted Comment You are absolutely correct Judith.


I always make sure to call and ask if it’s okay to bring DH or the kid(s) that I baby-sit if I’m going to have them at the time of the event.

View Quoted Comment Melissa, one person had called the day of to ask if I needed help with anything.


That would’ve been the time to ask if she could bring her ADULT (see over the age of 30) Daughter.

I really have no idea how people can think that it’s okay to bring random @$$ people to someone else’s event.


One was a Boyfriend that I had never met nor knew anything about.
I’m very particular about who I allow around the children of my family and friends.
They don’t ask because they simply don’t wanr to risk the answer being No.

I agree with everyone there should be no plus two at all. She is crazy to even think she could invite someone else.

Definitely very inappropriate. i would have said no too!

I wouldn’t be comfortable with this either. This is your wedding, do it the way you want it! Only +1 In my opinion.

This happened to my sister except she wasn't asked ahead of time. She invited our father and his partner. She found out about a week beforehand that dad's partner wasn't coming and he was bringing his sister instead (aunts and uncles were not invited as it was a very small wedding and invitations aren't transferrable but whatever). Dad and his sister arrive in town with her son's girlfriend in tow. Dad refused to tell this random person my sister had never met before that she wasn't welcome at the wedding. She took my sister's best friends assigned seat which was at the immediate family table. Sister's best friend ended up being squeezed in at another table.

People can be so entitled and ridiculous. I have no words of wisdom other than to be aware she may show up with them both. Good luck!

Hey Melissa! Personally, I do not think you are taking this the wrong way by any means.. I believe you should express to said friend that you have already accounted for her having one plus one, and that is all. That you are sorry if this causes any inconvenience for her, but you hope she can still attend your wedding.

View Quoted Comment That is a great response. Ridiculous. I had one responded with “how can I add 2 more?” knowing those people I would have invited if I wanted to.

I would nicely say, I am sorry, but we are only able to accommodate the people on our guest list, she would not be able to bring her mother and her friend. And yes, it is totally out of place to even ask you this question!

OMG I wanted to scream after reading this! The exact same is happening to me. so Rude!

She really shouldn't bring either (unless you and your family are close with her mom). A plus one is supposed to be a date.

Well what if she tells her mom don’t come and then invites the person you don’t like?


And this is why I believe plus ones should be just as specific as the guest invited. You have to at least know the person and have met them in someway.
Had you let your guard down and been like “fine someone will cancel” this girl would be sitting at your wedding eating all your food and drinking up your wine and you don’t even like her. Glad you stood your ground girl!

Withdraw her invitation. Kiddinggg. I stick by my response to this, it's a disrespectful request.

I’m glad you said no. That was very distasteful of her to even ask. You did the right thing and I wouldn’t feel bad about it, it’s your wedding and your money.

Instead of being annoyed, just tell her that space is limited and unfortunately you can’t accommodate additional guests. Pretty simple!


Additionally I noticed that you put the word “friend” in quotes. Is she not a true friend of yours?

I would absolutely be annoyed. If you sent her a plus one, no problem. You get one. Not two.

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Yep. Be prepared for her to bring this person anyway, with or without her mother. Wouldn't be surprised if she's already invited her.

View Quoted Comment That's the best response! 🤣😂🤣