Plus ones

That's super obnoxious of her, just tell her you don't have the space or the budget!

I’ll say you’re absolutely right! And I’ll say the same way she have “no shame” to ask you to bring a plus two you should have “no shame” to say I’m sorry but no!

I HAD THE SAME THING HAPPEN. I got annoyed. I said no ahah.

View Quoted Comment When you said “no” did you get annoyance back from the person asking?

So I'm ALL about etiquette but... NOPE! If she texted you that she's been dating a guy for the last month and wanted to bring him I'd say, yeah, he should be invited. But her request is ridiculous. Especially it shes going to know other people at the wedding.
"I'm sorry but the invite was just for you. I hope you can make it but if you can't, I understand."

I would be annoyed too, however if she’s a good friend speak with her about her asking for a plus one. Normally if you addressed it directly to her the etiquette is just her. Don’t get all annoyed people are people reach out to her let her know you have a set budget so fortunately as much as you would want her to bring a plus one it’s not in your budget

View Quoted Comment No I don’t respectfully agree with if she’s dating him a month for her to bring him anything could happen. if they were living together or if they were dating over a year yes you would then invite her plus his name so that that indicates if something were to happen and he’s no longer dating her living with her she cannot bring someone else there has to be a time frame.

View Quoted Comment We can respectively disagree but personally, I wont judge the seriousness of someone's relationship based on the length of said relationship. IMO if someone is in a relationship when invites go out, their SO should be invited.

View Quoted Comment I gave her a plus one for the reason, I don’t think anyone should have to go stag BUT she wanted the person she asked about to be her plus 2....plus....2? No...I don’t think that’s a thing

View Quoted Comment She got a plus one, she’s asking for a plus 2

View Quoted Comment Completely agree. You've been more than accommodating. I'd shut it down asap. You gave her a plus 1. If she can count she should be able to figure that out

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You are not wrong at all. It is your day and someone you got bad vibes from should be there to celebrate the best day of your life. If this is your " friend" she should understand.

Best wishes to you on your big day

Thats dumb of her, lol. a plus one is pretty common but never heard of anyone asking to bring anyone outside of that given person. how ridiculous. ESPECIALLY if you dont like the girl shes asking about. our wedding day is for you, not for her to have social hour. she can hang out with her friend before and/or after. id politely let her know that you dont appreciate that because the day isnt about her having fun and let her know that youve exceeded your guest max.

View Quoted Comment People have no manners. All they think of is me, myself, and I. Thinking about anyone else would be a shock to their system. At least she asked, giving you a chance to say NO. Some would have arrived with the extra person.

I think it was inappropriate for her to ask. I wrote on everyones invites the amount of seats I saved for them and some people didn't notice it and were going to bring their children. My mom heard it in conversation and thankfully spoke up and said that children weren't invited and that is why your invite only said 2 seats. I only had one person ask about bringing a plus one whom I didn't give a plus one to but in her defense her invitation never made it to her. I ended up telling her she could bring someone with her, it was someone I knew and didn't mind if they came.

Right, plus one means one person. She’ll have to make a decision on which one person she’s bringing. Positive side, at least she asked and didn’t just bring two people. That would suck.

Your not wrong. Weddings cost a ton of money for people to think it’s okay to bring extra(uninvited) people for you to have to feed. I would just tell her it’s not in the budget to have extra people unless they want to pay for said friends plate 🤷🏼‍♀️

She is wrong. If she can’t attend because the Mother needs care, then she should stay home and send her best wishes.

View Quoted Comment How about receiving an RSVP with “bringing daughter and grandson” ✍️ on it.


Um, no. How about you call and ASK if I have room for these people⁉️

I also had at least 3 UNinvited guests.


The person (s) that they came with should and absolutely could have called and asked in advance.
I had instructed my Hostesses that any name NOT 🖨ed by me on the seating chart would not eat.