Laura
Master October 2019

Planning Milestones: Choosing your Maid of Honor

Laura, on July 8, 2019 at 5:36 PM

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How did you choose who would be your Maid of Honor on your special day? Did you choose a family member? a lifelong friend? A new friend? A co-worker? A future in-law? What made them the "one" to stand with you? I chose my niece Savannah. She's the only one I would have wanted to be up there with me....

How did you choose who would be your Maid of Honor on your special day? Did you choose a family member? a lifelong friend? A new friend? A co-worker? A future in-law? What made them the "one" to stand with you?

I chose my niece Savannah. She's the only one I would have wanted to be up there with me. I may be 49 and she may be 27, but she's one of the best women, one of the best persons I know. She loves me more than any of my friends, and probably more than about anyone in my family (equal only to her brother)

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77 Comments

  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    I love this Katie! Bride's Boy is a very cute title Smiley laugh

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  • Alli
    Devoted October 2020
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    My Matron of Honor is my younger sister. I was Maid of Honor at her wedding as well. We are only having our siblings in our wedding party (other than FG/RB of course) to keep things simple and with no drama.

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  • Ashley
    Super October 2020
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    This is what I did also. Although now my younger sister will be getting married in June before me so I guess I have 2 Matron of Honors

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    This was such a hard choice for me! I wanted my sister or lifelong best friend to be my Maid/Matron of honor BUT they live in NY and I am in FL and I knew they wouldn't be able to do a lot from far away. I chose my best friend from college who I have stayed very close with (even though she lives 4 hours from me). She was so honored and honestly it was the best call because shes a teacher and super organized and detail orientated (I DEFINITELY am not) and she planned her own wedding back in 2017 so she has helped a lot!

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  • M
    Beginner February 2020
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    I don't think I am going to have a Maid of Honor, but if I do it will be the one friend that lives closes to me (since most are out of state). It will just be easier for her to help plan details, etc.

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  • Arielle
    Expert August 2020
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    My MOH is my best friend. We've been best friends for years. She's been with me through everything. Couldn't imagine it being anyone but her.

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  • idosoon
    Devoted February 2020
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    My best and closest cousin! Wouldn't have chosen anyone else.

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  • Alicia
    Dedicated October 2019
    Alicia ·
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    I chose my very best friend of 8 years to be my MOH. She's truly been there for me through thick and thin and knows me better than anyone.

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    I chose not to have a MOH. To me, picking a favorite was just to hard. So I am just having bridesmaids and bridesmen, which are my favorite people Smiley smile

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  • Rebecca
    Super January 2020
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    I chose my sister to be my Matron of Honor. She is my bestest friend and couldn't imagine anyone else in that role!!! Probably the easiest decision I've made as of yet lol.

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated September 2019
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    I have 3 sisters who are my best friends. We are all very close and I knew I'd have to pick between the 3 of them but I chose my older sister because I knew she'd be the most excited to help me plan, walk me through things (she's married so she had tips!) and help with so much other stuff. My other sisters were okay with it because neither of them wanted to give a speech Smiley smile

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  • Lizzy
    Super October 2019
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    My MOH is one of my best friends, and is one half of the couple that introduced me to my FH. Her husband is a groomsmen and her daughter is our flower girl
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  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
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    There was no question who would be my matron of honor. My FH's sister is also one of my best friends and the one who introduced us by inviting me to their birthday party with the family (FH & his sister have early october birthdays). It wouldn't be right to have anyone else.

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  • Shannon
    Expert June 2021
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    My MOH is Beth. We've been friends since high school, but got much closer as adults. She is one of the most caring, selfless, creative people I know and I love her.
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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
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    TBH, I am very young. I was 21 when I got engaged and I was so excited that I asked my cousin who I had, at the time, become extremely close with. Almost immediately, I regretted this, as I had originally planned on asking my best friend since 1st grade and sister when I got engaged. I still asked my sister to be my maid of honor; my cousin was asked to be the matron of honor, but there were problems almost immediately. Whether it was her refusing to attend a bachelorette party, no matter where it was, if her baby couldn't come along. (her husband and mother live in her home with her and are both off every weekend and offered to watch her child.) or her making condescending remarks everytime she asked about who/what type of vendors I had hired.. "A videographer? really? you are so extra. bridezilla!" It was becoming clear it wouldn't work so she was asked to step down and my incredible best friend who was never upset with me for not choosing her (in hindsight, I may have been if I was her so that was wrong of me) stepped up and has been more involved in and supportive of my california wedding while she is living in arizona than my cousin who lives a mile away.

    I have learned from my mistake and tell other brides not to choose their wedding party during the initial excitement the first few weeks after getting engaged. (unless it's a sister, best friend for yeaaaaars that you have been positive you would choose for forever)

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  • LaLa
    Devoted October 2019
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    I choose my sister because we are best friends.

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  • Cori
    Devoted June 2020
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    My best friend since middle school. Mostly because she lives the closest to me and because she is very organized. I helped her plan her wedding and she is beyond excited to help me plan mine.
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