Planning Milestones: Choosing your Maid of Honor

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I wish I had more to have with me up there!

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My friend and I drifted apart for a few years too...life has a way of getting in the way sometimes. i'm glad you were able to connect again

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I've known my bridesmaid since kindergarten too! almost 45 years

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That's how I feel about my bridesmaid. She had no siblings, at least she didn't know her half ones existed at that time, so my family made her an honorary kid

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That's awesome exactly what a best friend should be. I wish my friend wanted to do a bit more

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I totally understand that. My niece is my heart.

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my bridesmaid and I have been through a lot together too...I lost my parents in high school and she was right there for me. When she lost hers I was there for her

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This is my second wedding too. My bridesmaid was my MOH at my first wedding and it wasn't easy for her with her anxiety. I wasn't sure she'd want to be a part of this one too, but she loves me like a sister and I think knowing my wedding isn't huge made it easier for her

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I've never heard of that before. I like that a lot

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Oh that's awesome! I would have loved to have a friend of mine do the ceremony but my fiancee insisted on a "real" minister

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My cousin Bev was my best friend of all time. We were 6 weeks apart in age. She died from cancer in 2010 or i'd have her up there with me. She was supposed to be my MOH at my first wedding but she had a ton of medical issues her whole life and ended up in the hospital just before. I'm honoring her at the wedding. Her picture will be up.

This was really hard for me. I have three ladies in my bridal party, and I could have chosen any of them for any number of reasons..... and I told them that. Ultimately, I decided to choose between the two I spent more time with these days..... one got engaged the same week as me, and so I opted for the other. They were just too equal in every other way, and I didn't want the engaged one to have to deal with my wedding on top of hers.

Whelp.

Then my MOH got engaged. The first one ended up having a courthouse wedding, super low-key, and my MOH is having a fully-blown shindig, like probably bigger than mine, a month after me. xD She is handling it like a champ, though!

Sooooooo maybe I should have just kept them all as bridesmaids instead of putting that title onto one of them!

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LOL! you were trying to be considerate! My future stepson, the one giving me away, had a low-key courthouse wedding last December. It was nice. My bridesmaid had a 30,000 wedding a about 25 years ago but is divorced now. I had a tiny wedding my first go round. this one is bigger than my first, but not as big as my friends!

I'm no longer having a MoH. I originally picked my friend of 20+ years, but she's completely flaked on me in a LOT of aspects. She's not coming to the bridal shower and probably not even the ceremony any more. I'm just going to have bridesmaids. :-(

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I'm sorry she flaked on you

I chose my younger sister to be my MOH. I’m 26 and she’s 24. We have grown incredibly close over the years and I couldn’t imagine choosing anyone else 💕

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That's great! I used to tell my brother if I got married again I'd make him be a bridesmaid and he'd have to wear pink taffeta lol

Going against the grain here, but my MOH was actually not a 'maid': my older brother (and only sibling). His title was Man of Honor, but he preferred calling himself the Bride's Boy.

Ive been with my husband for 19 years before we decided to finally get married, at first it was going to be just us and our kids ( son and daughter), so we would have someone standing with us, well throughout planning my best friend asked about the wedding, and it hit me, she needed to be up there too, I asked she agreed, we went dress shopping, all the things needed. Getting closer to the wedding, the song they walked down the aisle was for her, and she couldn’t make it 😩, sadly her dad passed away. A few people asked if I had someone else in mind that could take her place, I could’ve asked my sister or another friend that I’ve been friends with forever, but I couldn’t, it was meant for the one person, the song picked and everything. That is the one thing I miss most about my wedding, my maid of honor not being there, and me not being able to be there for her in a very rough time.

This is so sweet Laura I'm sure she is delighted to be your MOH!