Plan your own Bachelorette Party?

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That stinks, I just told mine the type of party I would like to have in general and then the bridal party is taking care of the rest. Maybe they just don't want to disspoint you by choosing the wrong activities. So give them an idea to go off of and maybe they will have a change of heart.

I agree, they definitely are worried about planning something that I dont like (I'd love anything they put together). I've given them a few ideas already, but they want me to pick out the exact places we'll go and what we'll be doing, so it's a bit frustrating. I love my girls though, they really are great friends.

I understand!!! I feel the same way!!!!

That seems so silly! You're already planning an entire wedding, I'm sorry you have to plan every details of your bachelorette party too. Have you tried telling them that you'd be so much happier if it was a surprise? Even if you don't actually care if it's a surprise or not, that would get them to figure it out without telling you...

I told my girls what I would like (gave two options) and they're taking care of the arrangements~

I had to plan my own shower. My FMIL hosted it, but I made and passed out invites, planned/bought/made over half the food, helped plan the games, etc.

In the end all of 6 people came, including myself.

I planned my own bachelorette party. I knew what I wanted, so I planned it myself. I also planned my FH's bachelor party too...

I'm planning my bachelorette party. But this is because I know more about the city we are having it in (have lived here for 4 years) and none of the bridal party lives here, so it's just easier.

My girls new that I am very picky...I knew they were going to throw one, but I had no clue what they had planned... They kinda tried to get ideas out of me of what I wanted to do, so I just told them... Basically i want to do something casual in the afternoon, then dinner, then downtown to go dancing.. I basically gave them general ideas of what I wanted, then let them run with it.

I want to be in control over everything for my wedding so i told my girls i want to help plan my bachelorette party, but they told me NO! but i am planning my bridal shower

I planned our parties as well. I knew it would be expecting too much from my BM's since they are pretty much all out of state. I didn't plan anything to elaborate though. We all went to dinner then black light bowling fueled by booze lol

I have a friend who planned her own destination bachelorette bc she wanted to go to Vegas and was afraid someone would plan something more local. Well the majority of the bridal party stated they can't really afford to spend 6, yes 6 nights in Vegas however she planned it anyway and so far the girls are scrapping by in order to afford the trip. On top of that the girls were kind of hurt that she didn't even give them a chance to do anything for her. So I say at least give your girls a chance to do something and if they don't then I don't see a problem with making suggestions on what you'd like to do.

All my girls are in different states and I didn't want to do something like Gin K. was saying and make them fly here or some other location when they are already planning a trip to Illinois. I decided to plan something for Thursday before the wedding, making a long weekend out of the wedding and other festivities. We are doing a Jack & Jill party....not one of those that you try to make money...just a joint bachelor/bachelorette party with all our friends.

We are doing a simple thing. Just drinks and snacks. We'll do a couple games and raffles for fun!

Bowling! What a great idea!!! My ladies had very elaborate plans for my bachelorette party, but no plans were ever put into motion and now its 2 weeks away lol. I did the invites for my bridal shower, but my MOH is doing everything else.

@Shellie, I am worried noone will show up! eeek. so nervous!

I am planning my own. My MOH is my 17 year old sister, so she can't plan the drinking and other adult festivities that will be happening. My three bridesmaids live all over the country. I am alright with it. My mom is helping me. I see nothing wrong with making suggestions. But if they want to plan it, let them. In my case, they really can't.

I gave mine a list of all my girlfriends their phone numbers and adresses, and stated i don't care what we do wether it's a cottage wknd (I can supply the cottage they just have to letmy mom know the weekend) or a girls night in the town most of us live in or anything else. I wouldnt' plan it myself cause well it's a gift they choose to give you or not to give you.

If they are asking for direction just tell them hey I'd really like to go to this bar and any of these 3 wknds would work and heres a list of ppl to invite. Don't bother getting stressed about it. Either they care enough for you to want to plan it or they don't. simple as that, and if they don't you might want to consider gettiing better friends in the future, you only get out of a relationship what you put in.

@ Soon to be Mrs. C! (disregard my previous statement, for cercumstances like yours) My MOH and my sis don't live in town and if I only had them I would just plan your everyday kind of girls night on my own, and then smail the girls the invites for them to mail out.

Part of our problem is that only one of us will be over 21, so it's tricky to come up with an idea that isn't just going out to a bar (downfall of getting married at 19). I'm sure we'll come up with something though! It's not that my girls don't care enough to plan the party, they just don't know what to do.

When it comes to being out of town, my FH and I are stationed in New York, and the wedding will be in Iowa. All of my bridesmaids live within two hours of each other.

p.s. Bowling is a great idea, but that's what the guys will be doing and we don't want to run into them haha

I want plan my own bachelorette...but I was told I was being a 'Zilla and I should just let them do it. So I'm planning FH's bachelor party instead.