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Alyssa, on December 8, 2018 at 3:13 AM

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Rude one probably...

Our “plan” is no photographer

i feel like it’s the hugest waste of an incredibly large sum that I have ever heard of

I joined ww and there’s a lot of cant wait for pro bam and here’s my pro bam

Why do you think it’s necessary to have a photographer?

Yeah... I’m not even sure I want to add the cost of expenses Only for a college kid dying to start a portfolio

i do have time so my mind can still potentially change but here’s my line of thinking

i just don’t feel like it’s “necessary” because in my opinion it’s not rocket science to make sure everyone is looking and smiling before you snap the picture; and literally even most idiots could handle standing still while your family gets in and out of shots

maybe it takes common sense to know hey 1st dance: maybe I should take a picture?

I just feel like my family is highly intelligent and any one of them, or any friend, or the wedding party can handle snapping a shot for us

i am going to use tacboard.com

basically I believe as the “moments” happen plenty of people will photograph them and it’s hard for me to believe that there will be no good or perfect shots just because there wasn’t someone there making a boatload to watch a party

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Master December 2019
Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 4:50 PM
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It sounds like the profession unfortunately takes more time and skill than most honestly have unfortunately their price tags don’t reflect their skill or lack thereof in my area

and the girl who paid a fortune for crap work from “an amazing and highly regarded studio” seems to bear that out..

She literally cried because she paid a fortune for crap

the pictures honestly really don’t seem that different to me

i see 2 people posed and 2 people laughing

thats it
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 4:53 PM
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Well of your list the only one I would consider actually is a DJ

rhats understandable because the party is supposed to be about the guests a a good DJ does make an actual difference in participation

im glad you regard the profession in a positive light and disagree wholeheartedly: with all due respect
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 4:54 PM
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Except I don’t want anyone taking pictures

its just an option for them if they “must”
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 4:59 PM
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I think im going to be stuck making a decision I absolutely HATE! And wasting hard earned money on pictures I don’t want in case some future generation does?

it still tastes so bittter to even say...

i will absolutely be turning it into a free family photo session for 45 minutes of an hour and do 15 of wedding party & SO and I
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earias · on December 8, 2018 at 5:01 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate it!
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:05 PM
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Because every once in a while there’s a decision that’s great and perfect for you but you have to rethink it to do the “right” thing

there wasn’t any valid point I saw right up until they said it’s not for you it’s for the next generation

i doubt her grandparents looked at their album but am interested in how much it apparently means to her

are you not making a single decision in your wedding that you hate and leaves a bitter taste in you mouth but you’re doing it?

i made the post because I am me and not likely to change my values or ideas but certainly would never completely rule it out without trying to understand every perspective and why they have that perspective in case there is a reason to reevaluate
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Master December 2019
Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:06 PM
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Yep

thsts about it

for 2500
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Samina · on December 8, 2018 at 5:09 PM
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I’m having a small morning wedding, no wedding party, and didn’t want to spend such a significant portion of the budget on photos since I only wanted a few nice shots and NOT 1000 photos of moments. I was frustrated that most professionals require several hours & lots of money at minimum. My solution- I hired someone who does photography as a side job- they’re trying to get more experience and was willing to work with me. I DO think you need, if nothing else, at least one person who is there for the purpose of taking photos. Best of luck.
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Rachel · on December 8, 2018 at 5:10 PM
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Seeing as how you’re twisting people’s words to somehow justify smearing photography as a profession and to confirm to yourself you don’t need one by all means don’t have any pictures except for the one or two you allow your family to take. Have a great marriage. 👍
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:11 PM
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And I’m sure im going to end up selling our first born to pay for the hour and going with it

im just going to go with 45 of family and couples shots of guests and 15 of wedding party so I can feel like the expense is somewhat justified in my head by the family all getting nice pictures of their families all dressed up
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:13 PM
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Right on

im really glad you’re happy with your decision and wish you the best of luck in everything for life

thanks for posting and you’re certainly not being forced to continue reading the thread
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:15 PM
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I think that’s aae if that’s the decor you like to go with for the family home and I hope your pictures and day are everything you dreamt
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Alisha · on December 8, 2018 at 5:16 PM
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You sound like you really don’t want photos, and nobody is going to change your mind. So don’t do photos. Whether or not you regret it in the future, it doesn’t affect any of us. Our wedding day went by in a blur, and there are so many moments that my photographer captured that I will always treasure. My dad when he saw me for the first time. Me dancing with my baby brother, and again dancing with my grandpa who has fought cancer twice now. My childhood dog, who wanted some love before I left. These things were important to me. But if they’re not important to you, then just decide not to do it, instead of asking for opinions and then belittling everyone who disagrees with you.
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:21 PM
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Well I do want to no wedding and courthouse #1 but marriage is between 2 people and the wedding is a big deal to SO and he’s my everything so I will put my everything into trying to make it amazing and perfect for him!!

And #2
Because I’m keeping all of that stuff and using it in my home!!

thats my whole point

other than food and drink all expense are well below bare minimum except things we just wanted anyway and are getting for wedding

unforteatly this thread has forced me to see yet another thing I hate but have to put up with is going to have to be part of that day too:

i guess im stuck hiring someone for an hour but I’m going to make it worthwhile by doing 45 minutes of decor and guests family photos in 15 of wedding party and COMPLETELY bam any one from taking any pictures at the ceremony and reception
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Master December 2019
Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:22 PM
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That’s really interesting and I’m glad you made a good decision that you were happy with
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:26 PM
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I’m glad you’re happy with your decision

my preference is definitely no photos but I wanted to be understanding that it was a family event and not be prohibitive but I think this thread has forced me to realize I’m going to have to pay an arm and leg for an hour

im going to use 45 as guests family photos & 15 for wedding party

at least then I can completely ban pictures for the rest of the day without feeling bad at alll
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Nikita · on December 8, 2018 at 5:29 PM
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*laughs* not quite what I dreamed of as my dream was actually just to sign some papers, but thanks. You too
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:31 PM
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Duly noted
no one mentioned a number but me and apparently in most eyes it’s something they want

for me all I learned from this thread is now I get the punishment of dealing with finding a photographer, paying them a fortune for an hour, and getting family pictures for our guests and a box of pictures I can store until forever

i made the post because I was happy with my decision but willing to hear out the arguments even if they made me completely miserable and unhappy

right is right whether I agree or not unfortunately but I do still have my opinion regarding the issue and will be sure to refrain from sharing it on this forum
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MOB So Cal · on December 8, 2018 at 5:32 PM
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Photographs mean a lot to me -- maybe that makes me weird, but I don't care. I have both my husband's and my maternal grandmothers' original wedding portraits from around 1920, framed and proudly displayed on our living room wall. (And, I'm sure those photographs were taken at a time when it was a VERY big (and expensive) deal for "working-class" people to have a professional photographer take their picture; my mom and my MIL each gifted me the originals because they knew how much they would mean to me. I feel like I have been trusted with an important family legacy to enjoy and protect.) I often have a collection of family wedding pictures, including my husband's and my parents', and several of my siblings', displayed in our home. We're very lucky to come from generations of long happy marriages and those wedding pictures and portraits are among my most cherished possessions. They are beautiful, tangible reminders of the love and loyalty our relatives have demonstrated through both good times and times that were terribly challenging (e.g., the Great Depression, two World Wars, illness, loss, and death). Those photos mean a lot to me. I can't wait to add our daughter and FSIL's wedding picture to the collection in a few short weeks.... If it's all I had, I would just as proudly add an amateur's snapshot of them, but I am very excited to see what we are sure will be the stunning work of their professional photographer.
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Alyssa · on December 8, 2018 at 5:32 PM
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I apologize for all offense given
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